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Cheating husband? Help with WhatsApp please!

445 replies

betrayedorcrazy · 18/02/2018 10:41

I recently downloaded WhatsApp to my phone to talk to a particular friend who is not on Facebook. I knew my husband had it so wasn't surprised when he popped up in my contacts. I mentioned it to him and he said he hadn't used it since messaging a friend a few months ago.
I saw the last seen thing when I sent my friend a message and, being nosy, clicked on my husbands. I was out at the time and it said last seen about 10 mins after I went out. This was about a week ago and he seems to go on it once a day when I'm not about. He has an iPhone and leaves all his apps open but always swipes this one away. He has 3 old chats on WhatsApp but when I looked in the data and storage bit there were 3 more numbers - 2 saying 2 messages and one saying 1 photo, he has deleted them since I told him I have the app.
I then looked in network usage, and the status media bytes received is showing MB rather than KB as everything else does. That's a lot right?
I googled WhatsApp status and see that you can post a status that lasts 24 hours. Now I'm wondering if that's why he only goes on it once a day, to look for a status update from someone. There were none in there this morning when I looked, but if I do find one and open it will he know?
He seems perfectly normal and I have no reason to suspect anything is wrong apart from him lying about not going on this app. I have no idea what I'm doing with WhatsApp so would appreciate any info people can offer.

Sorry for such a long post.

OP posts:
FuckItPassMeTheWine · 22/02/2018 19:03

Hi OP , was thinking of you today . I really hope that you are safe and haven't put yourself in any danger.

All of mumsnet are behind you and are here for when you need to vent. I echo what other posters have said about behaving admirably , I can tell that you are a mentally strong person and you will overcome this.

Sending you hugs and strength Flowers xxx

happytobemrsg · 22/02/2018 19:03

I'm so sorry OP! You trusted your instinct & you were right

Lndnmummy · 22/02/2018 19:04

I am so so sorry op. That is really awful

Thisimmortalcurl · 22/02/2018 19:04

Oh betrayed I’m so sorry. What a total shit he is.

StarlightSparkle · 22/02/2018 19:05

Oh god OP I’m so sorry. What a bastard. Do you have anyone who can come round and support you?

Annabelle4 · 22/02/2018 19:08

So sorry OP Sad

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 22/02/2018 19:16

Flowers OP I hope you have someone IRL to talk to/be with tonight. If not, please know that we are here for you.
I'm so so sorry Flowers

freddiemercury · 22/02/2018 19:18

Oh no...i am so sorry. What made him confess all?? Big hugs...what a nightmare

WizardLizard · 22/02/2018 19:20

Bloody hell Betrayed. What an absolute bastard. Have you got someone with you tonight? Thanks

MotherofTerriers · 22/02/2018 19:21

I am so sorry. I know how much this hurts. I hope you have RL support. What an arse he is.

NaiceBiscuits · 22/02/2018 19:23

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Teabay · 22/02/2018 19:24

We're all here for you OP.
What an utter shock. I'm glad you've found out now.
How are your DC? You are behaving admirably.

He is an idiot man.

Alfiemoon1 · 22/02/2018 19:26

So sorry op hope u have some rl support big hugs to you

Torvi · 22/02/2018 19:26

Oh love, I'm so very sorry to hear that. What a cunt he is Thanks

Alfiemoon1 · 22/02/2018 19:28

I agree they usually only tell u the bare minimum what made him confess? U are in shock but look after yourself

purplelass · 22/02/2018 19:33

I'm so sorry, what a bastard.
What you're going through is a living hell which so many of us have sadly endured.
Try to keep your dignity, and when you look back on this time in the coming months / years it will make it easier.
There's support here for you whenever you need it, and make sure you have real life support too.
Take care of yourself Flowers

duckingfisaster · 22/02/2018 19:37

What an absolute cunt. Well done OP, a brilliant lesson in trusting your instincts & let the fire & anger carry you through this next bit (then come back for support). Do you have people IRL there now? Tell everyone, including his parents if you can - hold nothing back. Good luck Flowers

Shadow1986 · 22/02/2018 19:41

What an idiot. Sorry OP, must be hell.

MaisieDuke · 22/02/2018 19:48

So sorryFlowers
Hope you have someone with you tonight .

mummsyy · 22/02/2018 19:48

Gosh I did not see that one coming!
I really hoped it had all been one big misunderstanding. Oh OP I'm so sorry 💐

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 22/02/2018 19:50

Where are all the "You're totally out of order for snooping" crowd now? Thank goodness OP followed her gut and did "snoop"! She's been proven right instead of living a lie with her cheating cunting 'D'H

FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats · 22/02/2018 19:51

Is it the same mum from school whos number he had? So sorry op. Been there and I know how awful it feels. Wonder why he was sneakily getting rid of the receipt with the twenty quid cashback.

UtterlyRainbowed · 22/02/2018 19:51

I really am sorry. I've been thinking of you and checking your thread. Don't worry about anything else - just be sad/angry/hurt for a day or two. You've got all of us for support but hopefully you have real life support too xx

heartyrebel · 22/02/2018 20:01

Wow what an update. So sorry

BitOutOfPractice · 22/02/2018 20:09

Oh fuck. I'm so so sorry op. What a twunt

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