Transitioning from affair to main relationship

[niteandfog]

Has anybody done it? How did you make it work? That's about it :)

Some of the responses on this thread are very judgemental. Unfortunately life and people are not black and white. You cannot help who you fall in love with, yes in an ideal world you both would be free and single but sometimes you meet the person you’re meant to be with in not so perfect circumstances.

As I say good luck op I hope you get your happy ending as judging by your previous threads you deserve it.

Some of the responses on this thread are very judgemental. Unfortunately life and people are not black and white. You cannot help who you fall in love with, yes in an ideal world you both would be free and single but sometimes you meet the person you’re meant to be with in not so perfect circumstances.

While I don’t think I personally was harsh on the Op and I did try to give advice on to how to go about things now. I really dislike the whole ‘can’t help who you fall in love with’ you might not be able to stop the falling in love part fair enough, but you can stop yourself having sex with someone who’s already in a relationship or if you’re in one yourself. Surely real true love is not so fickle that you can’t wait until you’re both single. I mean what’s a few months waiting if you’re planning on spending your life with someone.....

I've just read your 16:14 post. How can you be so cold and blasé about another humans feelings?

Advance search, people

Your fucking deluded if you think that this is some sort of love story.

oh god it's you again.
look up how to be self aware
look up narcissism
You are one deluded woman
I think anyone reading your posts needs to read your previous posts to really get a feel of who you are.

By the way your story always has little changes in it, try to stick to the truth as much as possible

Having read your previous threads, I actually feel really sorry for you. Your self esteem is absolutely non existent.

Who decided on the ‘never marry as we don’t need it’ bit OP? Bet it was him. He obviously doesnt give this relationship the same importance as his marriage if he’s already making it clear marriage with you isn’t on he cards. This would say to me that you’re just a stepping stone out of his marriage until he finds ‘the one’. Just saying.

Yes, I meant one and only!! We don't plan to see anybody else ever again. We plan to stay together for life but never marry as we both think we don't need it.
Did you believe this when you each married for the first time. If not why did you marry? If you did what makes you think that this relationship will last?

Ahhhhh wait, I have come across you before... You have issues & this relationship isn't going to help them. You need luck-& shitloads of it, I won't send you any though-I'll reserve the good wishes for the fuckwit you're shaggings wife.

AHA! You're back! I actually thought you were a very persistent troll but i see now you aren't, that this is actually real. I hope you and your stolen man are happy together, and to his poor wife - i think lucky escape for her!

I hope you and your stolen man are happy together

Short of kidnapping them by force, I don't think you can 'steal' an adult.

Wow. Words fail me.

I suspect that the ‘transisition’ will be ongoing as you will never trust him and he will never trust you. Also, I know of 6 women who’s DHs have left them for the OW and in every situation they are either continuing to shag their ex-wife’s or trying to.

PoorYorick I meant she ‘stole’ him from his wife - that’s all. I think my use of the word is far from the biggest issue here....

I had an affair but I was single, he was married. He left his wife, moved in with me and then cheated on me. It is to my eternal regret I didn't see him for what he was and pass him by. I also regret the damage caused, although I think his wife had a lucky escape too. I wasn't the first affair and he had also had a relationship with a relative of his wife's. Good luck . . ..

@wilbur this woman has been proud of this for a few months now. And we keep saying it but she denies it. Past posts show is actually a really horrible selfish women. Swans in on other threads with the odd post boasting about her affair.

She didn't steal him from anyone because you can't steal a person.

op you are a very unpleasant person and I'm glad your husband is rid of you. he can and will do much better.

How about you 'transition' into being less of a self-absorbed cunt
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Quote of the year imo.

Does it matter? It won't be too long before this bloke who has left his wife for true wuv realises he's just your exit affair.

Oh god have read some of your other threads/posts.

Let's all leave it folks. OP, definitely 6 months at least before meeting the kids chances are you'll be ancient history before his DC even have to clap eyes on you then