Transitioning from affair to main relationship

[niteandfog]

Has anybody done it? How did you make it work? That's about it :)

For the record I think she deserves to know the truth, not knowing for sure but knowing in her heart must be a horrible feeling. But I don't get to decide that.

For the record I think she deserves to know the truth, not knowing for sure but knowing in her heart must be a horrible feeling. But I don't get to decide that.

Stay classy!

PoorYorick What next?
Frailty thy name is woman?

Haven’t you posted about this before?!

Yes, I had but this is a new development

SymphonyofShadows I think I love you!

I hate the pair of you and your sneaky snake like guts.

Suffice to say he will treat you as he treated his wife. And you deserve it. I hope you rue the day. Every day.

Relationships that start on a lie and all that. 😕

For Christ's sake, couldn't you at least name change ?

You know the reaction you are going to get.

She deserves to know. As if she isn't going know it started before he moved out when the truth does come out

Hang on. Why are you on a relationship forum, claiming to be 'very happy' but asking for help transitioning from an affair to a main relationship?

1. If it was a 'great love story' you wouldn't need to ask. I've never needed to worry about how to make a relationship work unless it was fucked.

1. Using the words 'main relationship' has a subtext that there can be 'not main relationships' - have you both created room for others? e.g. Open? Other infidelity?

Strange strange strange goings on.

For the record I think she deserves to know the truth, not knowing for sure but knowing in her heart must be a horrible feeling. But I don't get to decide that.

But you do!! You tell him he needs to give his ex the whole truth or you won’t be in a relationship with him.

Then you both need to concentrate on your children and sorting out the shit of mess that separateing brings. Don’t be dicks and shove the relationship down your ex’s throats and certainly no introductions to the children for a long time. Be more than fair with contact and financial arrangements and maybe you’ll have a shot at making it work.

Although personally I could never start a relationship on lies, then again I’d never cheat either. So I’m guessing you’re not like me and that won’t be a problem for you.

Do his Ex a favour and point her in the direction of MN - I’d personally like to her congratulate her on her massive weight loss of a 13+ stone cheating, lying lump.

Enjoy your prize btw.

GF.

I can give you some advice on what to do with your smiley face if you like?

Assuming this isn't a troll, I'm trying to work out why anyone would ask such a question on MN, if they've been here for more than thirty seconds.

I can only assume it plays up to OP's personal narrative of this as a tale of misunderstood, forbidden and beautiful love.

Which is her prerogative, but as PP said, when a relationship's going well I've never had to ask advice on what to do with it. Nor have I needed to provoke reactions in people - certainly not negative ones - to reinforce the way I want to feel about it.

That's really the biggest sign of trouble.

You’re just here to boast really. Can’t quite believe your luck, emboldened, strong, powerful...a winner.

Ha!!!!

Enjoy your prize. You truly deserve him!!

Have you told him now about your MH issues?

Has your divorce come through yet?

I'm sure your be back in a year or so when he cheats on you.

Yes, I've told him, he doesn't care . And I haven't had an episode in the past 4/5 weeks so moving out was big help in that regard

When I was 19, away at uni, I had my head turned by another man. I didn't cheat, but I did dump my boyfriend of 18 months to be with this guy. He turned out to be a vile piece of shit and I was absolutely miserable. I was a stupid teenager and didn't really know what I was doing with my life. I was new to relationships and I was naive and stupid. It is still the worst mistake I ever made and my biggest regret. I hurt two people, my boyfriend and his girlfriend. The fact that we didn't physically cheat doesn't excuse that. Looking back, he was looking for his next plaything and I was a stupid, stupid idiot. I got everything I deserved. Ive never made that mistake again. HTH

What's a 'main relationship' consist of??

Will you be on the sniff for others that aren't 'main'

You could ask Camilla...

He wooed you with dick pics? What a prince among men. You lucky, lucky woman.