Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Hmm. There must be a way to find good irons.

Off to sleep dreaming about ..... doing some washing tomorrow - exciting stuff!!!

Val can we swap dreams? I don’t want Robbie Williams again tonight

Well talking about inappropriate ones.....So for the last few months I have had a persistent 'young' man trying to woo me on pof, very funny, friendly not at all rude and not over familiar, but he is young :) We chat a bit and I always say he is too young, but in a moment of weakness today I saw he had been trying to send me a voice message and couldn't so I said Whatsapp it (cos I'm a nosy cow!)
Anyway, que the most amazing song I have heard in a long time! Honestly I was blown away, think soul, funk, motown, pure velvet seductiveness, well he has now gone up in my estimation muchly. But is still young and inappropriate :) Did make me smile though.
That was the highlight of the day, the lowlight was my date tonight where after eyeing up the football on tv, then texting his mate about the score (his choice of pub!) he apparently really wants to see me again, er I think I will take a raincheck! Should have stayed home but would be in danger of dating the thread then!

cover you are setting the bar high for amount of dates, go girl! (clicks fingers all sassy like)
and don't hold back on the innuendos please :)

Ignoring oh God, really? That’s just rude. And how much younger is younger man? Couldn’t you book a private concert, you know, just to see if it really would be inappropriate?

I was only going to say that Greek yoghurt has very few calories, and then snigger like Beavis and Butthead.

I think it’s dating karma for all the time I wasted on Mr Yowzer. Though he did give me the RH; so I bloody hope one of this lot do too.

Oh he is young! 28 (I am 42 and old enough to know better)
But he is very cute, has a voice like honey and isn't a million miles away, I have a feeling I shouldn't have given him my number, my willpower is not that strong in the face of all that!
You lot are supposed to keep me on the straight and narrow by the way not encourage me :)

Are you wanting a LTR? If so, avoid avoid avoid.

If not, then give him one for me, would you?

returns to Dave Gahan dancing videos

I am and I know! Will avoid, but oh so tempting :)

(googles Dave Gahan dancing videos)

I need to go to sleep :)

I watch them before bed in the vain hope I’ll dream about what is contained therein.

This is my particular favourite:

Robbie Williams

(yes I am evil) night x

Gah! Night x

ignoring wouldnt hurt to have some fun while searching for your LTR

Why oh why are all the guys on Match who have winked/favourited me either too young, too old or too far away.
If I take them out I'm left with the two I've dated, plus the guy hugging a vacuum cleaner, a guy with a tattooed face and a topless 55yr old. Not a great choice!

esk you are a bad influence!
After last nights boring date though I have decided that although I thought I was a bit fussy, actually I have not been fussy enough, in my efforts to give people the benefit of the doubt I have been on dates with people I have very little in common with and wouldn't look twice at if |I passed them in the street.
So going forward there will be a rigorous interview process followed by 3 (at least) daytime (good lighting!) meets and they will have to be witty and entertaining on the phone in between :) Not too much to ask eh?
I also have a promotion to apply for at work and half term so won't be doing much dating for next couple of weeks so this is a polite request to you all to have exciting passion-fuelled dates and write about them at length as I will be bored, (Tech inappropriate encounters def need sharing!) thanks.
Rose v happy for you on the boyfriend front :)

Runs It's the same here, if I was in a big city there would be so much more choice but I'm in a little town apparently bursting with people 15 years older desperate to date me! (or 28 year olds with an older woman fantasy :) )

waves at val - still here, was shattered yesterday!

Robbie Williams and Dave Gahan, eh? Sounds like you lot have way better dreams than I do.

Val sorry to hear your date didn't go to plan.

ignoring sounds like much fun to be had with the young man, if that's something you feel ok with

Jeez, how do you lot get 3 dates in 3 nights? Only half the women I message on POF reply and most of them are only after online attention (or are being very polite about not being interested)

Try being a bit older and then they all look so flipping rough hence why I like to look at younger guys ( but not too much !! ) Also get the one youngs wanting to have the older woman thing . Supposed to be having a second date tomorrow but he's being a bit of a dick with messages - but then I have female friends who irritate me with their style of messaging too so maybe I should let it pass - maybe too picky .. Nothing else on the horizon.

Kin I was actually asking you all to talk me down from that option- behave!
I am being good (for the next fortnight at least) :)
What is the ratio of men to women on POF? Us women do seem to find it easier to get dates, or perhaps some (me) have let their standards slip and you are being more choosy with who you message?

What was he like in person at first meeting Bloody that's a better indication than messages? I have found that if something little like that irritates me though it's not me being picky, we are just not suited.
I am learning from my mistakes at least!

Anna never a fan of unwritten rules. My aproach is generally to message as and when it feels right for you, while maintaining good boundaries. So if they never message then thats not great, but if I think the conversation has been good, I'm not going to stick to rules like 'they who messaged last cannot message first'.

In other news, after my moan on Friday, I've got a couple of Tinder irons on the go, one of whom seems to be capable of holding a decent conversation. Hallelujah. Was honestly ready to give up on this whole malarkey but he has actually restored my faith in there being interesting people out there. Date next week !

Congrats Anitt hope date goes well :)