Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Byrons why not have a FWB whilst looking for a relationship? I am similar to you, high sex drive and find it hard not to if it’s in offer, it hasn’t got me ver far, I had one 1 year relationship with someone I slept with on first date but it ended badly. I now use a hook up site, there are actually some nice men on there and like us they have a high sex drive (just stay clear of the married ones). I am looking for a relationship, hopefully with someone who has a high sex drive like me but I’m not sure I will find that if I sleep with them early on, on the plus side though it’s good to know if there any good in bed before it gets too serious.

Love
You hit the nail on the head in that last comment.

So I slept over at Mr Smileys last night! I am still here and he has gone to work.last night was basically put forth date. We didn’t have sex, lots of teasing going on but he is very clear that he can and wants to wait..... which although annoying at the time, is nice!

As for the rest of it..... he couldn’t make more effort than he does, his house is spotless, he listens to every word I say, he is incredibly open and direct about how much he likes me and what he wants:
It’s almoat too much.... or is it just that I don’t feel the same 🤔
He is attractive, 6ft, nice body, nice tats, animated and fun....
I don’t know what’s wrong with me ...

POF seems to be in overdrive this morning - are they all looking for new after their weekend dates ?

I have a second date Wed but fear that I am looking forward to it too much

Lost - I was swooning at the mention of his spotless house 😍.

userxx
Yeah it’s very well kept and he has nice white cotton bedding and all the man cave gagets a girl can get in a mess with.
You know when you know there is just something not quite right... but is it just that i need to get used to him and it will grow

lost can you put your finger on what it is that feels not quite right?

I had sex with my exhusband the night we met; he married me. I was 23, though, and it didn’t end well

I just couldn’t now; that might be age or self-preservation or just plain old-fashionedness, but if a guy suggests or is expecting sex early on it really puts me off them. I just feel, and this may sound dramatic, disrespected. I do want a long term relationship and I do have a very high sex drive (now returned, thank you HRT ) which I fully intend to be exercising til I die. I just need to know a) the guy is right for me (and I can’t after only a few hours) and b) I’m right for him in the longer term (ditto: how can he after an hour or two?)

Just my take.

I dreamed I had sex with Robbie Williams last night. Which has pissed me off as I was watching Dave Gahan dancing YouTube videos before bed. Bloody subconscious Shows I need to get laid, though.

Have binned a few dead end convos, so really just Mr CB (who has taken on board not rushing me, thank God) and Mr CloseBy in the frame. I might actually do a search later: I’m getting a lot of winks and favourites but not from anyone I’d especially like to meet.

Happy Monday’s everyone does a Bez dance

Lost trust your gut. You can see him until you’re sure either way. It’s earlybdays still.

Lost I get that I've had four dates with a guy he's really nice attentive etc been to his house but something is missing.

Lost - white cotton bedding..... another tick. Seriously though, if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. Maybe have a few more dates and if you're still unsure then call things off.

kinunir
Wish I could.
I think I was in such a rubbish marriage where my ex was so disinterested and distant ( was having lots of affairs) Then my first short relationship after splitting was very sex based, I was incredibly attracted to him but he just let me down repeatedly.
Now suddenely this guy is FULL ON! Couldn’t be more giving and wants to see me and always reflecting stuff back to me. Not pushing for sex... I think I’m just a bit blown away perhaps?
He is so different to what am normally go for as well ...

pudding It's good to hear that you aren't over investing in Mr Architect (well, not too much) but I have high hopes for him from what you've said.

lost are you perhaps thinking he is too good to be true at this point?

Lost - Give it time. This sounds like it's more about you than him, if you've constantly been attracted to let downs then this guy will feel very different.

Kin - how is it going - home today?

Yeah, home and feeling totally shattered physically, emotionally and mentally! Think I need an easy day and an early night. How are you?

Poor you - not the weekend you were hoping for. What are you going to do about her? Made a decision yet? I'm ok - thinking about cancelling my date for tonight - warning bells are ringing and not sure if I can be bothered!!

Hello everyone, long time lurker here and finally decided to join the convo in the dating thread,hope you don't mind ;)
Tried POF few years ago and the experience was rather dreadful (married men), I'm not a fan of tinder though. I'm on the same boat as Love, looking for FWB at the moment. Life is too short lol and it doesn't seem relationship is on the cards any time soon

Kin have you ended things, finally?

Ignoring I thought that was funny, good one

Byron I think day dates are the way to go at the start, and time-limit them to a couple of hours max. Make plans for later in the day so that it can't run over. Go for a coffee or for a walk or to a museum or gallery so something fairly casual. Drive so that alcohol is out of the question. Don't shave your legs beforehand I have the opposite issue, I have to get to know someone a bit before I can think about having sex with them and I can't seem to find one to get even that far with!

kinuir not overinvesting but I am spending a lot of time thinking about him! :) :)

How did you leave it with the lady in question?

I HAVE A BOYFRIEND

Can't stop smiling. Thanks to all of you guys who talked me out of bottling out of our first date!

👍Rosie. Great news!

Userxx I don’t appear to know what’s good for me.... Mr Smiley has done nothing but try and make me feel comfortable and I’m just not used to someone making such an effort. I think I hurt him earlier... when I left he went to kiss me and I turns my head and he kissed me cheek. I really should check myself out 🤔
It’s also the bald thing... lol god I sound so shallow 😯

Thanks vet, cover, ignoring and love. Alcohol is to blame and evening dates. Weird how I don't think of sex much during the day! I just want one bloke, I honestly do. The downfall of not putting all your eggs in one basket is that you always have another date lined up and then it's easy to think that I like the latest one better. Or is that just me being like a kid in a sweet shop, lol. Rosie - so happy for you!!

Oh jesus, I blocked phone guy on instagram and whats app because despite asking him not too he continued to message me. Now he is normal texting me! Can you block on normal phone texts?

I think i dodged a bullet there!

Rose great news!