Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Currently engaging in some sexy banter with a potential iron on match don’t think he’s that keen just wants some chat..let’s call him Mr Checkshirt

Why, oh why do men insist on posting so many photos with their mates? Yes, I get that there are people who tolerate your company, but I really would like to know which person in the photograph is you. Do you want really want to date a woman who thinks your best friend is sexier than you are? Make it easier, please!

pringle I hope you go on the date with your Greek man!

I had two dates this weekend and neither of them actually happened - flakiness on their side. All that worrying about nothing! So I got deliveroo and ate lots of carbs in my pajamas.

Popple123 I'll be honest, eating a Deliveroo in your pyjamas sounds a lot more fun than some of the dates I've been on. You are officially winning at life.

Ooh missed the bit about the Greek man Pringle are you going? Popple how annoying to have 2 not happen, but I agree takeaway and lounging is sometimes preferable :)
I haven't even attempted to get dressed today, but have been very productive in the house and have a date tomorrow with someone who has called for a quick chat every evening for last few days and seems quite sweet. (not sure if I want sweet though :) )

Stamps feet.. I want a deliveroo in my pjs
Im on a diet and in bed feeling hangry

omg he kissed me outside waiting for a taxi and i said No ??!!

like i went for a peck and he went for a snog and i just laughed mid-kiss and went “nonono”

what the hell is wrong with me

Nothing! You don’t fancy him; that’s OK, Esk1mo really it is x (

Was searching moose burgers on the site and found these extra rules, which have clearly been ditched.
Was anyone here around when they were? Just wondered why.....

11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will.
12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)
13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.
14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Absolutely fine Esk to stop someone kissing you if you don't want them to ( Cover you hate putting kisses...then the one person who just said she didn't want one , you give one to! That's just being contrary :) )

OK OK :

exits, grumbling

I think people dropped them because they were approaches to dating, which some disagreed with, rather than self protective guidelines.

Rules 1-10 are general guidelines for how not to get hurt, these others were espousing a particular philosophical view. There was a debate about whether they should be included or not.

Okies, ta Bant 👍🏻

cover i do fancy him, i just dont like public kissing!

id prefer to have a little kiss and dry hump indoors

Hi hi

Good to see you all (whom I recognise) and hi to the new people!

I haven't been on for a while - have been very laid back / not bothered much with dating. Just fired up tinder again recently and remembered why I need you lot to keep me sane.

On the car thing - I recently had a brief exchange of messages with a man who was 49 and about 25 miles away from me in a small village. He ended the conversation saying that while it was nice to chat, he "chooses not to have a car" and the distance would make meeting impractical on his bike. I'm afraid I sort of mentally snorted at that. My ex didn't drive and it didn't matter where we met, but after we moved, it started to drive me slowly mad. Never again. Anyway, Mr 49 year old, good luck with dating in a small village without a car. You may as well not bother with tinder or POF or whatever as the only people who are near enough to meet, you probably know already!

I'm so jaded, I really shouldn't be doing this.

Looks like a lot of hit and miss for people over the weekend but good to see some positivity and some potentially good irons in the works. I really do need to trawl through as I just have to know the latest about MrArchitect!!!

Feeling absolutely shattered after my trip to Milan but have to ask, where's the best place to look for a FB? Think I need one right now!!

Grinch - glad you're still around 👍. The whole non driving doesn't work for me either and not just from the logistics point of view. I appreciate a nice car as have all the men in my life, not sure I'd click with a "non driver".

HI, please can anyone recommend a decent site? I’ve not done online dating for about fifteen years if not more.
I don’t even know if I have the nerve to join but don’t want to be alone forever and I’m mid forties, with two kids.
I’m not meeting a great bunch naturally or organically. I seem to
attract the perennialy single and uber needy with issues around honesty/addiction.
From what I’ve seen and heard I really don’t fancy tinder.
What else is there that doesn’t have the pof vibe? Thanks 😊

Hi. Posted on previous OLD posts. I like sex and I have sex on first dates if I fancy them. I know you are going to scream at me to play it cool but how do I? Out of the 21 dates I've had since Sept, I've had sex with 16 of them. I know that sounds bad. I don't want a FWB, been there. I want a proper relationship. Because I make every relationship sexual I think I'm putting any prospective bloke off. How do I change? I'm not joking. xx

Byrons have you met Kin?
Only joking, I shouldn't be flippant, I would say if you don't want to have sex so soon (but have raging hormones :) ) just makes sure its not an option, couple of daytime coffee's with appointments arranged afterwards that you can't miss. Then you have a better idea about them and can decide rationally if you want to take it further.

and everyone's making me dread tonight's date with a non-driver!
and cover ...

Oh I should listen to #14....

ignoring cheeky!!

Ha ha sorry Kin I really should filter my thoughts before blurting out things I think are funny (have lost a few dates doing that too!) Glad you didn't take offense :)

kin you haven't missed much regarding mr architect. Apart from one slightly flirty reply.

Hes in my town all thos week he tells me so hopefully I'll see him and the tension will be palpable!

I've organised a date with Mr Uber cool but not Preety on the 10 th march as it's the first weekend we have free. Maybe I'll have to cancel nearer the times if things take off! It's also my exs birthday.... :)