Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Cover good luck with your date. I’m not looking for people with young children but for some reason they end up messaging me (I do have in my profile that I would prefer someone with older children or no children). I have been step mum before and have since dated men with young children and have found it very stressful, now my dc are getting older I want some calm in my life.

Goodluck with you date cover. I can understand that, taking on children must be very challanging. Anyone that dates me will probably run for the hills as i have 5dc
Would take a very special person to take all that on i guess as it isn't for the faint hearted. I am going for men that have kids so they know what they are letting themselves in for lol

Good luck Cover hope it goes well. The only one I have really liked so far had young children and it just didn't work for me so I steer clear now, but who knows it may not be such an issue for you. Enjoy the drink anyway, wish I was going out....I'm bored :)

ignorning me to. Date last night with Mr Cat still have no idea what we are actually calling this.. Or if he’s dating anyone else, he says not but I’m a big non believer of anything I’m told. I’m trying not to be to bothered as he’s all kinds of wrong for me.

Tech why so wrong? I'm intrigued :)
Haven't had a date in a while so looking forward to tomorrow. Have hidden my profile on POF as was getting a bit bored with it and thought I would see how tomorrow goes, but just had a quick look and was unrealistically disappointed to see only 2 messages (from previous contacts) I mean no one can see me, what did I expect!

Before I posted on here I mentioned to iron about the thread...I’m sure he’d not look but maybe ... I’d love to tell you pm me if you want!!

I know broke the first rule but didn’t know I’d join it!!!

Ok no one invite Techgirl to our Fight Club...

Sorry

But I never dreamt I’d join in...

It is a good list of rules, I like to re-read them regularly to keep myself on track :)

I went to the Meetup last night and had a good time chatting to people I may or may not ever meet again. But today I've been on my own, feeling a bit lonely and wondering what to do about the info that Mr Last year sent me.
Basically he signed us up for something that is happening in a few weeks. Something I wanted to do but only if I could share it with him. Now I can't and I'm not sure I can work up the enthusiasm to do it alone. But it cost him a lot of money. I offered to pay him back and he ignored that message. And I can't work out how to get out of it.

I deleted my POF profile a week ago but now I'm thinking of trying again just for some entertainment but I know it will just frustrate me. I've been for a long walk, cleaned the house, read a book (not the whole thing!) and I'm actually looking forward to work tomorrow as I'm just bored of my own company now.

Reading about your weekend Kin and about others' thoughts on driving and young kids etc just makes me think about how common ground and some degree of equality are important all round. Things rarely work out in my experience when one earns a lot more than the other or family circumstances are hugely different. My XH earned a lot less than me and in the end it led to loads of issues. I had a bohemian style thing with someone a few years ago but of course we were so different that it blew up in the end.

Afternoon all.

Nothing to report here except a big void of silence. I am not going to message him again, I am sure he will call r/e work this week so that will be a fun phone call :)

peaceful sounds like a great night ;) Savour every second.

pringle go for the drink, he was hot right? Do it.

Kin she sounds really odd. If she had a real issue why she wasn't engaging in the physical side, then ok fair enough you could discuss it. To be honest she sounds like a teenager. And to sit back and let you pay for everything, even if you do earn more than here, its not on. I hope you enjoyed Milan in the end.

coverme I admire your enthusiasm, I can only manage a week talking to a few people before I have to lose lots and end up with one or two and thats it. I can't quite break the date thing on tinder (I had one that is it so far). I have 3 I am talking with still on whatts app. Brazilian surfer is coming back next month now apparently and keen to meet if I am still up for it. Blocked phone sex guy, despite asking him not to contact me he sent three messages one with some soothing music for me to listen to....... Loosely chatting with Mr English and Me Ubercool but not that pretty and like them both. But you know who it is all about! You seem to have the dating thing well sorted!

I feel lonely today. Sick DD so sat on the sofa administering calpol every 4h and occasionally hitting 'Continue Watching' like mum of the year

It's hard not to imagine all the non parents are out skateboarding and downing pints and high fiving on days like this...

Aw Runs sorry you're feeling low, you are being very proactive, I haven't been to any meet ups and not sure I would have the courage!
Strange situation with Mr Last year, don't really get what is going on but if you offered to pay him back and he ignored I would forget about it.
Sunday's are my bored day too, no matter how busy I keep myself it still feels lonely. I end up looking at POF again for that reason even though I have been on it a while and faces are the same. I want a happily ever after. :)

Not alone in feeling like that Pog hope DD is better soon.

Runs can you do it with a friend? Have you tried OKCupid? If you are going to sign up again a different site might throw up some new people.

Wow just catching up and reading through the day's posts! So much going on... Kin I hope you're doing ok and not too hacked off/frustrated. You've had some good advice here, but only you truly know how you feel.
Pudding waiting eagerly for updates - as I am for everyone else!
I seem to be dating vicariously through this thread! I really need some decent dates/irons myself soon. Wondering if I'm too fussy. I am really still struggling to get Mr Headfuck from last summer/autumn out of my head. Someone a while back mentioned about hook-up sites. It's totally not me but I admit, I looked out of curiosity. Got chatting to a couple of guys - and it's not their face you see first! They sounded intelligent and ok, then sent face shots and... they were actually nice looking! If I'd seen them on regular OLD I'd definitely have messaged. A couple of them want to meet. I'm not sure. It's still a hook-up site and really don't know if that's for me -I think I could force myself haha-
On another note, had a good-looking guy from Match just send me his number. He wants to whatsapp later. Hoping that will be more forthcoming than his sporadic Match messages! He's nice looking though maybe a year ago we did chat on another OLD site. I mentioned this and he said 'No, I don't think we did'. So I clearly made an impression!

Runs and Pog I have been on my own today too, feels like a bit of a waste of a day, I went shopping on my own (everyone else out as couples or with friends) so a bit of a lonely day.

Thanks guys, it's just a bug. I got lots of cute cuddles at least... and Dora the Explorer has brought my Spanish along no end.

Same here Pog. FOMO sucks. But I'm child-free in that my kids are all grown up and live away, and I've not a skateboard, a pint or a high-five in sight. Not much help, I realise, but I get it - being lonely is sucky. And not in a good way

Conversation is getting a bit harder, but sometimes there's only so long you can keep a chat going before meeting up in real life. He could potentially be hot - I have been disappointed by photographs before - and he's been very respectful. He is worth a punt, anyway.

I shall message him tomorrow with a day that works for me, but given his usual working hours, I don't think it will be a problem meeting up. Maybe Tuesday... Will keep you posted.

RunsforCake14 I'm not sure I follow. You can't share it with him because he can't make that date, or because you don't want to do it with him anymore? Do you even want to see him again?

If going would be super awkward, remember, you don't owe anyone anything. It was his decision to pay for whatever this is, and if you shell out money for something in a casual dating situation, it's always at your own risk.

Pog hope DD feels better soon. On my walk I saw lots of couples running together, lots of happy families out enjoying the sunshine and I felt like they were all having lots of fun that I was missing out on.

ignoring I've been to 2 meetups now. The two people who run the group are very pro-active making sure that no one is left out of the conversation. But it is difficult walking up to a group of strangers and trying to start a conversation, although most people there had never met each other before.

Pavonia I can't do it with a friend, there are no spaces left. I tried OKC about a month ago and had zero interest. There wasn't even anyone I wanted to message on there.

pringle I can't say what it is because it would be very identifying and I know he reads MN, although I never told him about this thread or my username.
He dumped me at the end of last year and I've been trying to get over him when out of the blue he sent me the information I needed. I can do it without him. It's just not the same as sharing an experience with someone you're close to.