Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

That sounds wonderful peaceful like a dream!

Sweet and Mystic it was fantastic just not very practical or realistic. And at ten years my junior we are in very different places in our lives, not that he wants a relationship anyway.

Ooh Peaceful I’m down with that approach too. Within the context of a relationship, yeah. But Lordy, I bet that was HOT.

I’m further into grump mode because I was looking at who viewed me on Match and I saw a face, thought PHWOAR then that was immediately followed by SHIT I know him. I’ve only met him once through work and he will have no clue who I am or recognise me I’m sure (it was over a year ago) but as I’d thought PHWOAR at the time I remembered him. Had a look at his profile, yup deffo him.

But he hasn’t winked or messaged, ergo, he’s not interested and I am massively pissed off because he is SO my type.

Bugger bugger arse c**t bollocks. As I like to say in these situations.

I hate it when that happens Cover Maybe he hasn't seen you've winked yet? Would you message him? If he's not paid up, he can't reply or see who winked at him though.

Oh no I haven’t winked, just viewed as he hadn’t winked at me. So if he can see who’s viewed then yeah, but tbh if he was interested he’d message. Wouldn’t he? Yeah, he would. He’s a bloke.

Fucking hell Peaceful that sounds epic!

Cover what I find frustrating about Match is that you have no way of knowing who's a paid up member. So you can view and wink til you're blue in the face and if they're a free member, all they'll see is that 'someone' viewed or winked. You never really know if they're not winking/messaging etc because they can't, or they simply just don't like what they see. I'd give him a wink if I were you. What's the worst could happen?

Holy shit Peaceful that's mad

Cover send a wink, you've nothing to lose! I'm not into making the first move/chasing either but a wink can't hurt.

Not much to report here, I'm still in contact with Mr Ireland but he's gone away, which is just as well. I'm still speaking to a few others but not making any plans until I get back after the weekend. I've had 34 messages on POF since I've been here - I'm obviously showing up as fresh meat None from anyone I'd be interested in even if it wasn't for the whole I live in another country thing though.

Hahaha Vet it was mad and I still can’t believe I went through with it!

Cover I never knew I’d be into something like that but holy sh*t after very unadventurous relationships it was certainly an eye opener at what I’d been missing. I certainly know what I like and what I’m looking for in that department now!

I am seeing him tonight, it is a one off again. He sent instructions earlier! 🙈🙈🙈

What are tonight’s instructions peaceful?

I don’t post much but have been reading the last few of these and find it helpful. I’ve got a situation with a work colleague at the moment and the ‘rules’ are helping me to remember that I am the prize, which is helping me to take some of the control in the situation.

I’m also ridiculously invested in Mr Architect and am hoping it works out well 😊

Right so I don't need advice, but listen to this tale of online stranger ridiculousness:

So you remember Mr Faraway? Met ocer Xmas, he lives far away though, strung out messaging and promises to meet over about a month? So he got in touch today 'Did you get my card?' And checking the address etc. No I did not get any card. So foolishly (only paying half attention as armsful of toddler/dog All day) sent standard 'Oh how kind you shouldn't have really' platitudes. All the while thinking I highly doubt you sent anything, this is a random mind game. Then a few hrs later: pics of him naked and requests to reciprocate. FFS- I'm in Costa with my 2yo you idiot. How controlling though! I really doubt card exists and after a few weeks of silence he was just after a hook in....

Today’s message read-:

‘We will eat first, I will bring food and wine and anything else I think you may like. I will need a bowl of ice and your dressing gown belt. Wear what you wore last time. Do you understand?’

Honestly, I feel like a giddy teenager when he talks to me like that despite being ten years older than him. I want to ask him to wear his uniform again but I daren’t 🙈🙈😂😂!

I’m not even sure I should be sharing it with you all but felt I’d burst if I didn’t tell someone! I have only told one very open minded friend

Pog what goes through these twunts heads, it baffles me! Today I got told in a first message that he likes to play with himself whilst he’s driving his truck. Sometimes he pulls over to use his fleshlight.

I blocked immediately and after telling my friend about his awful spelling and what is he doing with a flashlight she nearly hyperventilated at my naivety. Apparently he did mean fleshlight, it’s a male sex toy - I had to google it and can’t get the awful image out of my head now 🙄🤭🙈

peaceful thats an incredible story! how crazy that it was him you ended up meeting that night!

pogmella that made me laugh, a full nude in costa

thank you to those who re-read what i posted. to be honest my offer to get tickets from a place of anxiety, i was scared it would be awkward queueing up to pay together etc. but i very much want to be chased, and asked out. im done persuing. i havent heard from him since monday when he asked for 2nd date, he hasnt even opened my message. ill make other plans and if he bothers to reply im going to tell him im busy.

i think it was pudding or cover who asked, hes from bulgaria

Peaceful

Peaceful wow

Cover just wink at him or send him a message, don't wait for him to notice you.

I had a mystery text today from someone apologising for not being in touch. So I put the number into facebook & discovered I had searched that number before. It's a guy who I've obviously swapped numbers with at some point but there's no photos so I don't know who he is.I've never met him. I sent a reply asking who it was but had no answer.

Peaceful oh my gawwwwwwd! I just love the fact you are meeting him again tonight. Sounds like so much fun and so exciting. You go girl.

Just had this message from someone who has texted on tinder twice Hello xxxxxx. How has your day been honey xxx

Shall I tell him I worked for a couple of hours, then went Sainsbury's,then drove for over an hour to pick up my grandson on M1, M25 and M40 and back home again. Had been watching too much Peppa Pig, had a lovely dinner for two and now cuddling down for more Peppa - I'm getting very cynical lol - think I'll get a date ?

Oh he did a very smelly dump on arrival !

This thread. I heart it.

Peaceful Ask to see his identity card ;)

Runs This is where a spreadsheet along the lines that I was developing and Vet had already gained the patent on would help!

Cover Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You don't see each other on a daily basis. You had to double take his photo to realise you knew him; he might've felt the same. Photos are deceptive. It can always be 'oh, it's you!', 'oh, it's you!' scenario if you do manage to meet.

Ginny I like the spreadsheet idea. But he obviously wasn't that interesting otherwise I would've saved his number.
However, after a bit of detective work I've worked out who it is. I swapped numbers with him about a week ago and we had an actual phone conversation. He had the most gorgeous voice but he lived too far away so we agreed it wouldn't work.

Peaceful - I am so jealous! I would so happily take a casual fling right now...its been...way too long since anything of the sort... enjoy your evening!

Joined Tinder after months of thinking about it. Already a fair amount of overlap with Bumble, and to be honest, already tired of swiping. I seem to be out of sync with the thread, having a massive slump and 'whats the point of it all?' moment. No irons on the horizon.

Cover - interesting what you say about wanting to be chased. Was thinking about that this week; while I'm a raging feminist and am always more than happy to send first messages and initiate dates, I grew up in a culture where men were always very clear about it if they were interested in you. And I really struggle sometimes now when I go on dates and someone's body language seems very closed off and distant, and yet after the fact they say how they had a great time and want to see you again! Or people who dont ask questions! To me that's one of the most basic, obvious ways to show interest, and yet so often I just feel like its me doing all the work to keep the conversation going. Why is this so hard?

Peaceful - holy fuck! That is a great experience... have a glorious time tonight.

peaceful just do it - sounds bloody fantastic !

Have fun tonight peaceful