Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Safe flight - hope all works out

Ooh kin keeping everything crossed for you, and hoping missintelligents legs don’t follow suit

Second date night for me! I had a bad dream about it last night, that he turned up wearing the most ugly shoes and was really OTT and all over me. I woke up feeling really uncomfortable here’s hoping it was just a silly dream and my date wears shoes that wouldn’t look better placed on a clown and I still like him!....

So... three dates and a lot of messages in...Mr smiley is lovely, I away a lot more attracted to him on Valentine’s Day because of what he was wearing.. makes signs difference!
He is very direct and said that he is isn’t interested in ‘fun’ ‘rebound’ or’ hooking up’ he is looking for Serious... full on! 😯
He didn’t even kiss me until right as I was leaving on valentines date and that was an All afternoon 3rd date!
He is very confident/sits back and analyses me and doesn’t miss and THING that I say 🤔
It was a great kiss though.. and I am gettting a little excited... but can’t help being a little sceptical.

Mr Headfuck from prior to Xmas has been messaging again apologising for being a twat and asking for another chance... saying he was in a dark place over Xmas etc
I DONT THINK SO!!

Sorry for no update last night, I ended up getting really drunk (several glasses of red wine on an empty stomach, when will I ever learn) but it was quite a fun night, he wasn’t quite what I expected, handsome but very quiet, and a bit serious, but intelligent. Anyway drunken me suggested he should kiss me so we ended up snogging for ages which was lovely! I had been thinking I fancied a really good kiss with someone and he certainly delivered. But I messaged him this morning saying I didn’t think there was any future in it, but that he was lovely and I enjoyed kissing him. Seeing another iron this morning for coffee, I’m a bit hungover and can’t really be bothered but at the same time he could be the one! So I’m going to drag myself there anyway.

peaceful all kudos to you for doing that ! Strong!!!

kin good luck in Milan !

I hope a big pile of stinky shit lands on all those Headfuckers.

Actually had a successful date last night - I laughed loads and so did he and he was physically fanciable .... Bit of a relief after the Most Boring Man in the World earlier in the week . Now though I am thinking ...can I actually be bothered with this ? I am still struggling with my memories of a Headfuck that I split with in January . There's no pleasing, is there ?

Stmoritz for effort !

Ooh lost how exciting! He sounds great and wasn’t this the one you weren’t sure of at first? This is why it always pays to give someone a second date if you’re on the fence at all! Different clothes, aftershave etc and being more relaxed can honestly make them seem like a different person. I’d always recommend another look if you didn’t totally think yuk...
I remember one first date the guy was ok, but I hated his shoes and tshirt. Second date and every one after that he looked and dressed SO much better! I often wondered why the hell he picked that choice for first impressions

stmor you’re a busy bee good luck this morning! And nice snogging is most underated..

And ohh nice work bloody a really good date is amazing and all, but can be a bit scary. Just take it at a pace you feel comfortable with

So I have a question.. these days it is acceptable to have several irons on the go at once? I still have Mr Sensible and Mr Cat but I’m thinking of adding Mr Beard. I’m not sure any are serious although Mr Cat is a very sexy kisser!! But so so wrong...

tech I’d say personally if you’re just dating them or chatting etc and haven’t agreed exclusivity then it’s fine. It’s only a bit off when you’re sleeping with all and they each think you are their boyfriend!

Tech of course it is. I think be honest if any of them ask, but the assumption is unless and until you have The Talk then both of you could and may well be dating more than one person.

St go you! Enjoy your date and keep your hydration up

Lost hurrah for a good date with Mr Smiley. Full on serious right out of the gate is what scared me off MrMr, just be careful it doesn’t mask seriously possessive/controlling (not wanting to pee on your bonfire, honestly, just it was a red flag for me)
Last sending great shoes vibes. Keep us posted.

Kin sage trwvels; hope its a fulfilling weekend in all senses of the word 😈

Bloody if he’s going to be right for you it won’t feel like an effort. But even if not, he could be useful to help erase Mr Headfuck.

So, am I being a grumpy old cow, or are messages with kisses at the end really annoying if you’ve never met the other person?

Safe travels! Bloody phone.

Thanks all - I keep telling myself it was the right thing to do. Then tried distracting myself and messaged MrFiftyShadesofDialaSoldier - oh lord will I never learn, I don’t want a casual hook up but he is so hard to resist 🙈😂 xx

cover yes, kisses are very annoying, especially after the first message. If you’ve been chatting a while and you’re going to meet I think it’s a bit different.

So I’ve had a great week on POF. So much fun!! So many unsuitable men, it makes me laugh. However I have been talking to Mr Local. He seems lovely. We’re now on WhatsApp. Last night he sent me recent photos of himself after I’d told him of a disastrous date where the guy looked nothing like his photo! Mr Local seems very nice, not over doing it on messages. Unlike MrMod who love bombed me. We’re going for a drink next week. I am keeping things nice and slow and I’m not being over keen. I’ve learnt so much from these threads!

It’s lovely to read of everyone’s success stories too.

Eeek - just noticed the xx - it’s habit sorry! 😂😂🙈

MrFiftyShadesofDialSoldier replied 🙈 - I have to wait further instructions 🤭

Been I'm happy for you. You definitely sounds like one of the most switched on daters on this thread and you're advice is pretty spot on, so I know you'll have thought this over properly.
Good luck

Cover I hate the kisses on texts/messages before you've even met. Totally hate them. To me, it's a kind of lovebombing. I never ever send them back until I've met and like someone. Which is basically never

Still pissed off about last night's player not calling. Not because I was invested in him in any way, but it just makes me ask: Why would someone even do that? Tell me he'll call (our first chat) in literally an hour and after several days of whatsapping (inc a dick pic he sent me) and then he didn't call! Well I bollocked him last night then blocked. Grrr.

Been I can't help thinking the same as Vet here. And not trying to rain on your parade but it sounds like he thinks he's got away with a very narrow escape. So you didn't even get the card that was at the core of all this? But surely getting the card would have been a good thing, and validated his completely bizarre story? It would have proved (in a way) that he was indeed just 'harvesting' photos from OLD to use in your card. Weird enough in itself, but then you didn't even get said card. Hmmm... Anyhow, it's probably him just being a numpty, but it does sound a little like you're blaming yourself for this. 'I should have told him to come off OLD'. No, he should have done it all by himself.

Kin Good luck, I hope you have a lovely fun filled weekend in Milan. Its a great city!

Lostlily Mr Smiley sounds great, i love people that smile a lot :)

StMoritz: Nothing wrong about a good snog, whether you want to again or not. i respect your clarity of mind!

bloodyuseless its where I am at, can I be bothered? Not really, i guess OLD is a bit like that, up and down??

My twatty mctwatface of an ex ramped up his shit last night, apparently I have been talking to my kids about step dads (this couldn't be further from the truth, he said kids don't lie and how hurtful it was). Idiot. He however has talked to them about other women. I guess I need to focus on eliminating his shit form my life before I can ever have anything really with another guy.

Tempted to call ex FWB, but he is friends with architect, so not a good idea.

A guy I have been loosely chatting with from tinder, sent me one of his video creations last night. basically its him walking through the woods with his dog, but its super cool, very well edited and he has peaked my interest. Little cool musical interludes in between. He seems like a simple guy who like the. He is not conventionally attractive but he looks like a really nice guy. He seems the most normal out of all the guys I have conversed with and he seems very very down to earth.

phone guy, messaged me to say sweet dreams. My hand is hovering over block but I am giving him a couple of days!

Still radio silence from Architect. Its hard not to read anything into it.

Marking place, new to all of this x

Hi All

Still dating Mr PT, have had the exclusive talk but trying to keep things low key and casual and I'm an over investor!
Really enjoy his company ... and his bed!

Been I'm happy to hear you've sorting things with Mr TC and I hope he was just being an idiot and it wasn't something more sinister.

kin hope the weekend goes well for you both

Cover I hate the need to put kisses on messages all the time. If I add kisses then it means something. Not that I just automatically pressed x.

I'm going out by myself again this weekend to another Meetup. Looking forward to some good food and chat without the pressure of it being a date.
I still have a couple months to run on Match and I got a lovely message from a Mr Gorgeous but....he's 3hrs drive away.

Just got back from coffee with today’s iron. I was really hoping that itd be worth my while considering I’m still really hungover, however as lovely person as he was, he was just so incredibly camp, it was a complete turn off. One of those times where I wish that I’d spoken to him on the phone first! Now taking my hangover home where I will be sitting very still for the next few hours.

Very invested in all your stories!

Oh the guy from last night replied saying to give him a call if I change my mind. He was a really great kisser... is a FWB but with kissing-only a thing? A FWK?

Peaceful nooo, I mean from guys you’ve not met. It just seems a bit......overfamiliar.
I just deflect with liberal use of 😉🙄 and 👍🏻
Even 🤣 gets on my nerves from a bloke.
I’m just grumpy, I think. Frigging HRT: I’m either in sex goddess or cynical crone mode: thus far there doesn’t seem to be any middle ground. But it’s early days. Just hope dates coincide with the former.....