Should I presume date is still on?

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So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

Ugh you've literally been stood up, please please please ignore all his messages from now on

What a twat. I think his story sounds like bullshit. I wouldn't have anything more to do with him.

his sister is 8 months pregnant and was having pains so he went to look after her 10 month old twins

So she got pg again when her twins were 2 months old?! Well.

Hugs op, you are great! Hes a loser!!

See this is where the selfie would have come in, if possible, in the kitchen, with a steak and lobster combo on the go, wine in hand and a big fuck you attitude (no words required). He will literally kick himself that he bottled coming seeing as you evidently 1/ went and 2/ had a good time without him. Is there anything more attractive than that? Too late for him but I hope this night as given you a great big boost because you look hot and you've got to have a catch up with old colleagues - so not a wasted night by any stretch. Love it OP :-)

I'd sit right back now, and if you still like him see if he makes it up to you. It does sound unplausable but I was supposed to go meet someone for lunch, boss called me she was in hospital with suspected malaria (no shit, she had just been to Ghana) so last minute I had to take over a meeting for her and couldn't go. I'd say if he hasn't got kids of his own, two 10 month old might keep you very busy. I know you said he'd been online, so I would say its bullshit, but you know stranger things happen!

OP I’m late to your thread but I think you’re fabulous! You looked hot and I hope this was a great confidence boost for you. So what if the flaky twin uncle bailed, you’ve gone out regardless. Your attitude will serve you well with dating. Bravo

the manner in which he left you sat in a restaurant waiting for him... is just seriously fucking inappropriate ... he could have told you 7 hours before ... 6 hours before... 5 hours before.. bla bla bla... but no... he let you get dressed.. leave your kids with a babysitter... and go sit in a restaurant alone.... then texted a Dear John....

this one deserves not one more minute of your time lovely

Oh what a knob. He's a fool as well because you look absolutely fantastic. Enjoy your relaxing evening out op. His loss, seriously.

You looked amazing! I have similar over the knee boots and am now wanting somewhere to go and wear them.

He's a dick, I just can't believe he couldn't have just texted "sorry, something has come up". I've done a fair bit of OLD and all of the men who cancelled in a crappy way (ie really late with some big excuse) or left me hanging on in some way ended up being flakey idiots who I wish I hadn't given a second chance to!!

his sister is 8 months pregnant and was having pains so he went to look after her 10 month old twins
So she got pg again when her twins were 2 months old?! Well

My older 2 dc are 11 months apart! So some people like me do have dc very close together.

Good for you OP going out anyway, Wine and a lovely fire who wouldn’t enjoy that! 🍷

My older 2 are exactly a year apart. I also know someone who has kids that are in the same year at school. So it is possible. And for what it's worth my brother also had my dd whilst I was in hospital (not my mum like pp said.) but still reckon he could have sent a quick text.!

Pink and This - we all.know it's possible (if you can count to 15). But in This context it's highly improbable that this is the reason for date not turning up.

His loss OP

Don't give him another chance. Regardless of how busy he was, he could have given you advanced notice. Sounds like he is playing games. You do not need that kind of hassle. Good luck.

I’d so Facebook stalk to see if there was any truth in it

You look fantastic. The fool doesn't know what he missed out on! I'm so pleased you're still there having a good time.

As for Mr Numpty and his message - NOT GOOD ENOUGH!! On any level. If it even were true, you'd find a minute to ring/message if you liked someone. You'd know that you'd more than likely blow it if you let someone get all dolled up and go to a date that you weren't going to turn up to.

Wow, doesnt even have time to send a text because he is SO hands on with the twins? What a great guy.

Bullshit.

You look hot. NEXT!

Are there people out there who actually believe they will find "facts" on Facebook. I would never stalk or believe anything I only knew through fbook.

Actually if you read the posts someone asked if it's possible to have twins and then get immediately pregnant again.

Op you look amazing!! Definitely his loss. Agree with others, even if what he said is true it still isn't good enough to have text so late. Have you read his detailed womb follow up?

OP, you look fantastic. His loss. Hope you enjoyed the wine!

Bloke here. He's a knob. If we want to make contact, we find time. Sorry this has happened.

Scaredofthegym it's only from Matalan £12 I think

I had a nice evening and good catch up

Tucked up in bed now

The update was something about lumps in womb that the baby aggravates and how she can only take paracetamol for the pain

You sounds so fun if we lived close by I'd have came out with you and drank red wine !
Stay confident and forget about him - you go girl x