Should I presume date is still on?

[lnging]

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

If he had replied to earlier text saying 'yeah still on'. Then this happened I would give benefit of the doubt. To not reply then cancel when you have arrived seems like he has known for a while he isn't coming. Probably cold feet, but he may never pluck up the courage. I wouldn't waste any more energy on him. (doesn't sound like you plan to) Enjoy your night.

I wd wait and see what he says now- why not keep options open in case it is the truth?

I was speaking to someone online and he admitted that he had arranged a date with a woman, got there in a taxi and bottled it at the last minute and completely stood her up.

I just want to say that if his story is true then the polite and correct action from him would have been to phone you to explain rather than text. Not showing up is that serious that it requires a phone call.

He could have text in the afternoon prior to the meet up time. You don't no show and think a text will cover you, not if you want to be taken seriously.

There's always twins involved with these people. He's a waster OP, do not go out with him again.

Enjoy your evening!

No I'm determined to keep my self respect and take the higher ground

So only replied no worries, hope she ok

Then will leave at that

Could you be destined to get together with one of the ex-colleagues??
Ps. Where's that top from?

Good for you OP - loved your outfit! Enjoy your evening x

He's rude, rude, rude. He can't take a minute to text you? He knew you'd have to arrange a babysitter...

You look fab - have a lovely evening.

It shouldn’t be this difficult so soon
Well, yes, but.....
I first met Mr Foo through a dating site. We started talking before christmas, and it was the end of January and a few cancelled dates before we finally met up. He wasn't great at keeping in touch and cancelled because he was "working away" and he kept having to stay longer.

I was sceptical but something made me give him a chance. We've been together 18 years (this week!) married for 12 years in September. He genuinely was working away and they would extend his trips at the last minute because things needed finished. This went on for a couple of years til he quit the job. Sometimes they are actually telling the truth.

You look lovely op! I wouldn't bother with him again. Normal people don't just stand people up!

@Scaredofthegym That’s what I was thinking! Perhaps encountering this moron was fate’s way of bring you back to old friends....possibly a romance?! Lol...I’m a dreamer 😀

I don't think it matters if it is true. It's the fact he didn't bother to tell her until the time they were meant to meet. It takes seconds to send a text.

Glad you took out "obviously I didn't go and made other plans" - you don't need to be playing games. He's probably bottled it though who knows why. But the sister with twins- come on, it's like a builder who didn't turn up cos his granny was ill. As others have said- if a true emergency he'd have phoned ( even if it was later and he could only send a quick text at the time,) . Don't be on here in 5 years time with DC saying "He's a dick and the red flags were always there, what should i do?"

He's probably married and chickened out OP. A lot of people on dating sites are just on for an ego boost or the chat, not actually interested in real life dating.

OP, I think you are amazing. Well done you and don't look back. Xx

he sounds like a lying scum bag OP..... you look bloody fantastic by the way... I hope you have a cracking wee evening

Well done you. Enjoy your wine and nuts and steal some lovely food! Hopefully you can have a good catch up with the people you know.

What a twat of a man! No second chances!

What a twat. Sorry OP. You look gorgeous. Definitely his loss.

I don't believe for a minute his sister has 10 month old twins and is 8 months pregnant, he's not a very good liar. If he'd said 3 months pregnant it would be more believable.

Glad you're enjoying your wine, and it's great that you know the guys that are running the restaurant - enjoy your evening, and forget about this man, he's not worth a second more of your time.

He doesn't know enough about births and babies to realise that 8 months Pg and 10 month old twins is very very unlikely lol. Still,can you post his reply just to give us a laugh.

And you look amazing and sound like a fun bright lady so he's definitely missed out.

OP, I just want to say you look amazing x

‘There's always twins involved with these people.’

Well spotted @lizziesiddal ! I thought that was only a MN hairy handed, bridge dwelling embellishment. Seems not