Should I presume date is still on?

[lnging]

So we arranged dare Monday night (day time place etc)

Yesterday we exchanged 2 messages in morning and his last one was just saying restaurant we are going to has "steak &lobster Wednesday" and was I ok with that? Responded "it sounded great"

Haven't heard since which is fine don't want to chat to much before date.

So today's date night and heard nothing, should I presume it's still on or should I be waiting for/sending confirmation text?

Would you just arrive at arranged time without confirmation

I just replied (because I'm far to polite)

No worries, hope she ok

That's it, he's already responded but I haven't opened yet going to enjoy my wine for a bit but it's says something about his sister womb so slot of detail there!

Bonus is just realised the head chef and sous chef here I used to work with... New they took over a pub but didn't realise it was thus one!

I'm off into the kitchen soon to hound them and steak food just like the old days

I’m with Sierra
Someone had twins and got immediately pregnant again? Is that even possible? And, no, her mum would be babysitting, not her brother.
BS meter going off scale. Nope. Sorry, but the only thing you can salvage is a good journal entry and the meal. Did anyone try to chat you up while you were waiting?

Already know from previous chat his parents live in Scotland as we were talking about holidays

Just reading your thread. It looks like he missed out tonight! You look great!

You are bring far too generous about him op!

Jesus only had a few sips of wine and already I can't spell

Steal food not steak

Well done OP. You know what hes like now. You have handled yourself perfectly. Not worth explaining how rude he is to him, he won't learn. There will be some one better for you.
And sounds like you might have a nice catch up with your chef friends, enjoy. And don't give that man a second thought.

So why is he texting now? Is the sister back? Has he put the little babies to bed?

But you don't ' know' anything.
I don't want to sound harsh but anyone can say anything. You have no way or knowing what the truth is at all.

I wouldn't respond at all. What a loser!

Well op sorry he was a shit. But on the plus side you now know where ex collegues work so thats a plus! Hopefully you have a great evening without him.

Op please just block him. I personally wouldn't of turned up because if a man is interested he will always confirm.

Late joiner

So now that's it's too late and he's made an excuse so isn't expected to turn up he can talk. Sounds like a pussy to me

It does seem like you believe his text.

It’s bollocks, you know it is. As soon as he realised he had to head to his sisters he’d have taken 30 seconds to send you a quick text. Block him, move on. It shouldn’t be this difficult so soon.

Got myself some nuts to go with the wine

Was worth turning up regardless sat next to a lovely open fire with red wine and nuts

I’d block him and have nothing more to do with him. Even if he was telling the truth, which is remote, he chose to put you in a shitty situation instead of taking literally 10 seconds to text “emergency, can’t make it, talk tomorrow.”. Tells you all you need to know about him.

I would be tempted to give him the benefit of the doubt once maybe? He didn’t leave you on read.
But then if he knew you had plans it would have taken 10 seconds to message and cancel.
I don’t know!
I hope the wine is nice, and order yourself some lobster, fuck it 👍

OP you look absolutely gorgeous he's seriously missed out!
Massive shame that he's done this, there's no excuse even if he's apologetic and arranges another date. He's had LOADS of time to send a quick message to let you know and has even been online during that time as you've seen.

His loss, seriously I'm so envious. I wish I looked half as good

Yes even if it is the truth (not likely) he stood you up.

You look amazing and you sound great OP. His loss!!

Have a lovely evening with your wine, fire and nuts!

Enjoy yourself, all is not lost, it sounds like you're having a lovely time. I might go and find a pub with a real fire and have a red wine 🍷

If you give him another chance he'll be working from the assumption that you have low standards and will accept any scraps he's willing to throw your way.

My self-respect and pride wouldn't allow that.

If his sister rang him at 2 then he should have made sure you knew that his plans had changed, for that alone I wouldn't bother with him again, enjoy the nuts and wine 😊

Sending a text would have taken seconds, and he presumably knew you'd need a babysitter. He's rude, OP, and you sound too nice. Enjoy your night out, but move on. Anyone who can stand a first date up isn't worthy of a second chance.