Partner with views that I find disgusting

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Basically I have been with my partner over a year, there are things that I am starting to think seriously about, they hold views that I deem disgusting basically.
It came to a head this weekend as we were driving past a group of women in religious headwear, and they made shooting motions through the car window, I said what the fuck are you doing? To which the reply was “well that’s what they do to us” I answered “no, those particular people have done no such thing” their answer “well people from their background do” I just can’t get over how someone can be so ignorant and judgmental. There’s been occasions where some much milder things have come up and not just relating to race. These things have crept up and weren’t apparent at the beginning of the relationship.
This is a dealbreaker isn’t it? It’s actually made me feel quite disgusted towards my partner.

Dump them. Don't waste any more of your life with them .

FFS, the old 'them' again. Just come out with it, it won't change anyone's views on racists twats. Dump. Always dump.

Obviously get rid. Awful behaviour.

I couldn't live with that. There's nothing wrong with holding different views to your partner but that is downright hateful behaviour. Who mimics shooting anyone?! I feel so bad for you, what a position to be in. He doesn't seem to respect your views by behaving like that either.

Dealbreaker, definitely.

Ugh. Dump.

I'd leave, would you want him influencing your kids?

Not only would I get rid, I'd block and go full NC with that level of racist trash.

Dump. Surely you knew that already?

I am surprised you are even asking if this persons behaviour is a dealbreaker.

Why, why, why do people do this “them/they” shit. Just fucking say he/she, it won’t change people’s opinion of a racist fuckwit.

DUMP!

I think you need to sit your DP down and explain that this is a serious thing and potential deal breaker. Try and get DP to understand why what they saying is wrong and that it upsets you.
See how things go and if it doesn't improve then you can re assess.
You might get DP to see sense.

Yes I do know I have to dump them, it’s a she by the way. I’m gay.
I just thought, you know what, people do hold different views (ones I don’t agree with) but to actually do that? Where they could see her? Is actually abhorrent.
I’m going to end it, i know I have to, It’s not going to end well and I will receive a shitload of abuse in response, no doubt about that. I’m ending it tonight, and it will have to be by text unfortunately as they are not the most rational of people.
I feel like a fool to have let the relationship get this far. Spent over a year looking past all the faults.

Sorry Omgineedanamechange it’s a habit saying them/they rather than she, not intended.

I’m amazed you stayed for a year with someone so stupid. Why did you?

TimesNewRoman I have had that conversation, she said I’m being ridiculous and always looking for drama where there is none.

It's indicative of their view towards other people in general, and ultimately that will include you.

My dp came from a family with very strong views which I just could never get my head around. Whenever something was said in the family home I would challenge them about their view. Luckily my DP is a little more level headed than his father. I like to think I have opened DP’s mind a little.
If those views continue it’s definitely a deal breaker! He is showing extremist behaviour. Sometimes they just need some serious education!

He/she

Donnyandvladsittinginatree I am seriously questioning why I have myself tbh 😞 I am disappointed in myself. We have split a few time, yes a few times in the last year and a bit. Everytime I go back, all their words of that isn’t me etc. Ridiculous I know.

Tell him you find his views sexist, racist, prejudice & that you don't share his views. Its a turn off & you don't have common ground with him

Or her

This may sound totally wrong but I expect better from someone who is gay. A white cis male are spectacularly overwhelmingly racist compared to those from marginalised groups and, I know I'll get flamed for this, I am more shocked at someone who will have been on the receiving end of prejudice and hate crime, or is definitely more likely to be in some situations, would not see that their behaviour is so horrendously appalling . Clearly not saying one is easier to forgive, I'm case I'm misunderstood, but I expect those who have been on the receiving end of behaviour to be less likely to submit others to it as a result.

Do we know OP is female?