Partner with views that I find disgusting

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Basically I have been with my partner over a year, there are things that I am starting to think seriously about, they hold views that I deem disgusting basically.
It came to a head this weekend as we were driving past a group of women in religious headwear, and they made shooting motions through the car window, I said what the fuck are you doing? To which the reply was “well that’s what they do to us” I answered “no, those particular people have done no such thing” their answer “well people from their background do” I just can’t get over how someone can be so ignorant and judgmental. There’s been occasions where some much milder things have come up and not just relating to race. These things have crept up and weren’t apparent at the beginning of the relationship.
This is a dealbreaker isn’t it? It’s actually made me feel quite disgusted towards my partner.

Balljuggla - as far as I understand, the view that 'cis' is offensive is because we already have perfectly good words that describe 'not trans' amd they are female/male/woman/man

She's an ignorant arse hole. It's one thing having that opinion but to mimic shooting innocent women?! How does that make her any different from what she perceives them to be?! I'd leave her. I could be with someone who had such uneducated ignorant misplaced hatred.

And op - get rid of your partner and their ridiculous backwards views. You don't need that kind of drama in your life.

Cis is offensive.

You are either female or trans identifying female. Or male or trans identifying male.

*Couldn't be with someone not could

Cis is stupid, but it's not offensive. I don't identify as a cis woman, I identify as a woman, but I am a cis woman in that I'm not trans.

It's just a fucking word. If you're offended by it then I suggest you educate yourself on how the English language works.

Many women don't have a gender identity and instead believe that gender is a harmful construct used to discriminate and control women. To suggest that you're happy with that is offensive.

Yes. And then to go on to say that because you're cis (as labelled by others) you're therefore privileged and should let transwomen be heard over you (even if they have been living as men for most of their lives, are male-bodied and only recently decided they're a woman), because they are by definition more oppressed - is deeply offensive and damaging to the rights of women and girls.

OP - people commonly overlook faults for love.

You are not a fool.

This has been a wake up call. The clue re what you should do is in the title IMO as you can’t be with someone whose views you find disgusting.

Abuse in response for dumping is more confirmation you should not be together.

I hope breaking up is not as hard as you fear.

Wow there’s some transphobia going on in this thread.

Cis is a ridiculous word.

OP you're doing the right thing.

and for you.

(And yes I find cis objectionable re the reasons others are outlining)

@Angelf1sh transphobia is rife on mumsnet. I often wonder why it's tolerated, racism wouldn't be.

And no it’s not ‘transphobia’ 🙄 give your head a wobble... in what way is a group of people rejecting a label (cis) they don’t want or identify with that is given to them by another group of people in an attempt to ‘other’ them any different at all to people rejecting the (gender) label they were assigned by other people and don’t want or identify with?

I'm not cis, I'm a woman.

Is that transphobic angelfish?

This thread has moved on a bit. Others have explained it better than I could.

By I am now confused that becuase someone rejects cis they are transphobic. Why? Surely it’s up to the person if they want to reject any label.
For example, which is probably a bad
One, but I am fat. I would be pissed off at being referred to constantly as a fat woman. Why can I not just be a woman/female?

expatinscotland I cant block as last time I finished things and blocked she turned up at my house and wouldn’t go away etc, I ended up calling the police. I realise that makes me sound even more of a fool for getting back into the “relationship”

solly76 that’s awful of him to say that of your little nephews 😞

If she comes round that’s all you need to do is call the police.

How is it transphobic to say I don’t want to be called cis I just want to be called a woman? Honestly please can someone explain that to me because I truly do not understand!

I’ve sent the text by the way

Good luck!

Yes. That's a dealbreaker.

It's heartbreaking. The same was said about us (Irish) and so many others. Then they blame the newcomers they've had to replace us with because we gave up when they nicked everything.

She sounds awful. It would be a massive deal breaker for me and very much in the same category as someone who was homophobic. I wouldn't tolerate it.