NC Dignity Club Pt 4: The Only Way Is Up

[Basseting]

Welcome to the No Contact Dignity Club Part 4

If you are aiming for it, trying to maintain it, being 'offered' it, coming back to it... NC support is here!

Oldbook I'm out this weekend first weekend since drunk dialgate!!!

Morning all. Well I did it. Reached the famous NC Day 30! Very apt that I've reached my Day 30 on the day the full moon peaks.

So how do I feel? I suppose numb is the answer. Much much better and way less anxious than the earlier days. Think I'll also feel better when the 1st Feb comes.

Not sure what to think of him. He's still the first thing I think of in the morning. Would love to know does he think of me but I won't be breaking NC to find out. In all honesty I'm still waiting for the crumbs of a text and would reply if he sent one. It's difficult because he said all the right things and was never unkind. He just isn't available to Me, nor me to him.

My next step is to stop checking SM. It doesn't matter if he's online because it's not to message me. In a way I'd love to block him but it would cause all sorts of levels of anxiousness and awkwardness at future events. I also don't want him to know the level he has affected me.

I've no idea what I said in that drunken conversation but he said enough to make him blush (this was said in a positive way). So I'd imagine he is probably feeling confused because the next day I said New Year clean slate and never contacted him again.

I guess I need to come to terms with closure. If I ever meet him face to face (at an event) I'll get closure because he always looked me in the eyes and told me the truth. When I will see him again I don't know.

Sorry I just needed to offload that

Huge congratulations nk that's a brilliant achievement. You've shown so much strength and integrity, I really admire what you're doing. I'm sorry that he's not available, do you think it might be easier to remember only the good things about someone when you know they're not available? Like when I'm in shops with no money and not trying anything on, I see loads of clothes that look gorgeous. But if I've got some money to spend and try stuff on, suddenly nothing looks good!

Will done, I hope you do something really good for you today or tomorrow

Hi Belonger how are you? I think I might be living in the past and remembering stuff from 17yrs ago rather than what is in front of me now.

I think I need to confront the bad things about him. I'm half afraid to because it might shatter my own fantasy but perhaps it is time now.

Well done nk. That is great and all with such dignity. I think it is good to remember the good and the bad if you Can, the good for why you cared so much and the bad fur why you are not together. The full moon is clearly putting you in a very reflective mood, that and the 30 day milestone.

Thanks Itsa you are very kind but I suspect the drunken phone call didn't retain much dignity as I was already upset that night before he messaged me and I rang. Although in my defence he did initiate that night and I pressed dial by mistake and he told me to ring him.

But at least I've walked away from that conversation. That's dignified I suppose

Thats great NK thirty days is great, keep it up.
Thats a good sign Oldbook - keep busy.

Thanks Oldbook and User

Oldbook fantastic news that he's slipping from your mind. I want that. And I agree with you, even though in one way I'm desperate for him to message me in one way, in another way I'm glad he's leaving me alone. I've enough going on without his confusing presence. And I always have my dignity!

Hello fellow Dignified NC'ers!!!

Are we all ready for the odd effects of blue/blood supermoon/eclipse/ once in a 150 yrs event????

Will our collective irritations dysfunctions tinyvoice/l'illmans of NC'ers go loopy (not intended to offend anyone with actual MH issue)

Will we collectively rise up and bay at the Moon:

'You are not worthy of our Dignified Life attentions or Energy....'???

(baying led by NK' with her amazing 30 Day achievement!!!)

I am feeling odd - today I have been looking up college courses....
Prob wont be qualified prob cant afford but hey I've been looking...

Lol Basseting you make me laugh so much. You sound so much stronger in yourself. I've stayed off SM since last night and am tempted to stay off it tonight in case the blue moon turns me a bit cracked!! What kind of course would you like to study?

Ha! NK ...

keep a straight face now......

Counselling....

Oh fantastic. Why not you can draw on experience for the training. Funny enough a colleague suggested it to me last week (to become one). I work in a similar field so not a million miles away. I think it's a great idea Basseting

'You are not worthy of our Dignified Life attentions or Energy....'???
Yes Bassetting great line!
I love it!
I noticed I reduced on SM too, I haven't even been on WhatsApp since yesterday lunchtime,which is amazing achievement considering I was checking my NC's "last seen" every hfhr, just few weeks ago!

Well done Teens we can do this

This is going to sound random but I'm feeling random. The next person I meet has to:

• Be able to make me laugh
• Have a twinkle in their eye but not be a bad boy
• Be easy going but care about things and be passionate about things *Be tall *Make me feel adored and safe
• Message me back and not play games *Be willing to sing karaoke with me (I'm a terrible test)

That's my personal test. Stbxh is only 1 of these. He is 5 but the 2 he isn't are really important ones.

*Be willing to sing karaoke with me (I'm a terrible test)
That's a weird test NK but each to their own
I have my own criteria too ,and strangely they built up on my NC's circumstances and attributes,somewhat ambitious for me but I believe Ill get one exactly like I want sooo soon !

Spell check. I mean to say I'm a terrible singer not test!!!

@Basseting that's what I'm doing!!!

Damn it@NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 ... My NC had all six... Sigh...

And he's a pianist... With a beard... And kinky... And I'll never done another one...

Right... I need a corner and a blanket...

Oh no Enniroc I've depressed my self too!

Blood moon in Perth today, as appeared on my fb. Can't wait for it to get to UK!

:Ha! DOM gets 1/6 (he's tall, but then so is a lamppost....)

Re Counselling I qualified way back but have been a SAHM for a long time so might need refresher course? (need refresher in confidence that's for sure) also ExH is really unhelpful re EOW (basically he doesn't) and kids often school refuse so how can I hold down job/private practice? lots of issues but I am determined.

Yy re 'life experience' but the cobblers children and all that...

Re the kinky bearded pianist... why will you never 'do' another one?