NC Dignity Club Pt 4: The Only Way Is Up

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Welcome to the No Contact Dignity Club Part 4

If you are aiming for it, trying to maintain it, being 'offered' it, coming back to it... NC support is here!

Oldbook he can see that connection as well. We had it the first time we ever met but didn't go out for another 5yrs as I had boyfriend. But the very first time I met him at 17 he unsettled me, in a good way, and I him.

Think that's what's so hard. He knows it too but for whatever reason he can't let himself go or is too lazy to change the status quo.

I've been heartbroken twice. When I was 16 and when I see him now I shudder, he is a creep. And this guy - 17yrs ago.

Getting the chemistry is and has always been off the wall with us. He affects me so much I just want to touch off him. It scares me

Sorry everyone ,Was out on a dinner date .
Have mixed feelings about this guy, I know he's good and everything but has a disability and it puts me off. Awful of me but I find that off putting.
Sorry NO you're feeling vulnerable. Maybe it's a weekend thing, try to distract yourself going forward ie organise fun social thing for next one? Fake it till you make it!

Yes, yes, it was similar for us too. The last time we slept together was in July so I've had months of desire, frustration, bafflement to work through since that time however those months have made the intensity of the nights I shared with him hazier by the day. Part of me is sad they are dwindling in my memory and a greater part of me is hugely grateful as thinking back on them caused me so much nostalgia and pain.

It's very hard when you have that isn't it Getting. It was just so weird when I met him accidently last year. We were in a room full of crowded people and all I could see was him.

Sorry to hear your sadness nk. You are always the wise rock with support to give so sorry you are feeling down today, triggers are hard.

I have found this weekend hard. Anger after last weekend has subsided a bit and am back to missing him. I was so tempted to message but as he is with someone else if would be undignified so nc7. I just want to stop hurting and being miserable.

Thanks for the support Itsa. Yes was a huge trigger and it only hit me today. I'd forgotten.

Well done on NC7. Let yourself be angry, let it all wash all over you. My advice would be don't contact but easier said than done

Why is it do much easier for men, in General, to move on? There's the emotional side but also the practical side too and also the social acceptability for it to be ok for him to just jump in the sack with someone else. Or is that all just in my head.

Oldbook that's such a shame he never pinpointed what changed in your relationship. No wonder you were confused. Talk about mixed messages. Did you reply about the group meet up or what's your plans about that?

Itsa it does seem much easier for men. They seem to be able to push through and bounce back.

I'd like to think my guy is as sad as me but I've no way of finding out.

If we've got children we always have to put them first and I'm trying so hard to do that and Not show my sadness but I'm not doing a very good job at that. How do you with children hide it? I hope you all do a better job than me because at the moment I feel like a crap mum on top of everything else.

Oldbook
It's mild celebral palsy.
Nothing too obvious but I guess there's backstory in my mind..
I really liked a boy in school, he had a celebral palsy but more severe. The boy didn't reciprocate although he knew.
And it's the whole different mindset for me now, I want a strong sporty man😣

oldbook I don't know how you have managed with those confused messages for so long. That must be impossibly hard. I don't think I could sustain such a friendship when I had stronger feelings than friendship.

oldbook I feel like I should know after all this time on the thread so I apologise but has anything intimate ever happened with you two or has it only ever been friendship where you've wanted more?

Itsa I have children. I found It hard at Xmas because we were together 24/7 but I try to ponder on things when they're at school and put it to one side them. I do feel like I was in somewhat of a bubble the last few months so think I am emerging now and spending more time with them

Oldbook I love your idea of going for an hour (dolled up and looking hot) and then swanning off to your friends party!

Itsa
I have children, older teens .
I hide in my bedroom or go out for a walk ridebuses and cry when they don't see it.
I appreciate it might not be possible with younger kids though.

I love it. Breeze in and then breeze out!