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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

482 replies

Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

OP posts:
Mummalovex · 20/01/2018 08:19

What's the chances the 9am run was called off this morning 😉

MoNigheanDonn · 20/01/2018 08:56

That's what I was thinking Mumma Wink

TheSassyAssassin · 20/01/2018 09:03

Think they both had a lovely work-out and are enjoying a well deserved lie-in....or she could have been home alone before midnight and been up as fresh as a daisy and joined him on the run! no way did the latter option happen Smile

OverTheParapet · 20/01/2018 09:15

@Tyrianstoe where are you?! Snuggled up under the duvet I hope Wink

Tyrianstoe · 20/01/2018 09:27

The 9am run wasn't off but I got in an hour ago...Blush

OP posts:
Tyrianstoe · 20/01/2018 09:32

Not hungover at all though. Stick G&T's and had a cup of tea at his before bed. So feel great. Had another lovely evening Smile but I've asked him if we can slow down a bit.

4 times in a week is making my head spin a bit. So we are going to see each other next weekend. I just need a bit of time to quieten my mind a bit. I'm struggling to sleep and concentrate etc and I think it's because I'm a bit unsettled by the quick turnaround.

He sent me thw loveliest message this morning saying 'If you need one day, one week, 3 months I'll still be around. I think you are awesome' Grin

OP posts:
Guardsman18 · 20/01/2018 09:41

What a lovely message! Enjoy lovely. He sounds great

TeaAndToast85 · 20/01/2018 09:45

I can't believe I've only just found this! Just RTFT, feel like I am reading a really good romance novel 😍 perhaps called Gingers in the Snow? Working title

TheSassyAssassin · 20/01/2018 09:46

Oh and after all your good intentions too! Wink Glad you had a good night. I think whilst slowing down a little might give you a bit of time to take stock, in reality you might both find it hard as you're in the first flush phase. It's another good intention though! Grin

catyloopylou · 20/01/2018 09:53

What a lovely story. He sounds great OP and you sound enamoured!

NetflixAndGin · 20/01/2018 10:06

This is so lovely. Making me feel all warm inside on this horrid morning!

MoNigheanDonn · 20/01/2018 10:30

Aw this thread gives the warm and fuzzies.

veuveo · 20/01/2018 10:40

Aw that's a lovely message

Starlight2345 · 20/01/2018 11:14

Awe ❤️❤️

ClareB83 · 20/01/2018 11:37

Wednesday is the weekend right?! 😜

mnahmnah · 20/01/2018 12:11

Oh he sounds amazing!

purplelass · 20/01/2018 12:15

He sounds awesome, as do you. It's amazing finding the perfect man after a perfect nightmare. I'm 2 years into my new start and still can't believe it's real :)
Wishing you every happiness, you deserve it x

LittleScouseMouse · 20/01/2018 12:33

This warms the cockles of my cranky and cynical heart. So happy for you OP ☺️

YellowLily · 20/01/2018 12:38

This is so lovely - he sounds like a keeper!❤️

TickyTakky · 20/01/2018 15:19

Yikes, it's a bit early to think talk about him being 'a keeper'. 🤦🏻‍♀️

💕 👰🏻🤵🏻💕

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 20/01/2018 16:31

TickyTakky

Yikes, it's a bit early to think talk about him being 'a keeper'

Not at all, I knew after the first date with my husband. When you know, you know Smile

Mummalovex · 20/01/2018 19:14

I'm always checking this thread! I'm obsessed haha! Can't wait for the next update!

orangetriangle · 20/01/2018 19:27

i would agree you know when someones a keeper

Liskee · 20/01/2018 20:14

I knew! After like a week! He took a while to catch up with me though Grin we got there Smile

userxx · 20/01/2018 21:17

DiscoD - I love your story. Unexpected turn of events are amazing and I think being a bit older and wiser we see them for what they are and know to grab with both hands. Gives me hope.

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