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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

482 replies

Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

OP posts:
Tyrianstoe · 19/01/2018 18:46

I've not even got home yet Hmm chaos on the trains. I've had to ask him if we can make it an hour later. We are walking to the pub together this time though Wink

OP posts:
TheSassyAssassin · 19/01/2018 18:48

No red wine black outs this time though mainly because you won't be able to remember enough to answer our Qs tomorrow! Wink Hope you have a fab time!

Tyrianstoe · 19/01/2018 18:52

It won't be like last time. He's got a run at 9am in the morning so it will be a couple of drinks and home! To my house. pleaseretainsomemystery

OP posts:
Tyrianstoe · 19/01/2018 18:52

To my house on my own I mean!

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TheSassyAssassin · 19/01/2018 18:57

Well that sounds lovely and civilised and I don't believe a word of it! Grin But your good intentions are to be applauded Smile

TrampyCat · 19/01/2018 19:06

I have nothing to add just marking my place as I'm addicted to this thread!!

veuveo · 19/01/2018 19:20

Oh fingers crossed that this continues to go well!

Woulditbeworth · 19/01/2018 20:06

I feel a bit giddy after reading this. Hope you have a fab night OP!

Tyrianstoe · 19/01/2018 20:06

Grin Sassy it's like you know the RL me! I will try very hard though. The intentions of being pure at heart. Another obscure band reference!

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DancesWithOtters · 19/01/2018 20:07

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Mummalovex · 19/01/2018 20:12

I don't even think you need luck from any of us! He is deffo into you! Have a wonderful night OP, enjoy yourselves and have a drink for us all too! Wine

TheSassyAssassin · 19/01/2018 20:13

Ha! It could be because I have been there with the same good intentions! This thread is making me think should try and get back in the dating saddle again. Sat on the sofa and raising my Wine to you. Have a wonderful eve Smile

TheSassyAssassin · 19/01/2018 20:13

Ha! It could be because I have been there with the same good intentions! This thread is making me think should try and get back in the dating saddle again. Sat on the sofa and raising my Wine to you. Have a wonderful eve Smile

TheSassyAssassin · 19/01/2018 20:14

^double good wishes Wink

Noluthando · 19/01/2018 20:41

This is the best thread Since the ' I fancy the gardener ' one Smile he sounds promising

Starlight2345 · 19/01/2018 23:27

Hope it went well

MinorRSole · 20/01/2018 01:46

This is the best thread Since the ' I fancy the gardener ' one

I want a Green eyed gardener. I don't think dh would be impressed though

Waddlelikeapenguin · 20/01/2018 02:10

Oooh this is excellent hope you get snowed in together

huha · 20/01/2018 02:39

I love this thread. Well done OP. Hope you are have a good time.

DiscoDeviant · 20/01/2018 03:00

I met my boyfriend when I was in the process of trying to leave my bastard exH who cheated on me constantly for 20years. I’d been building up to it for 2 years. He was a friend of a good friend of mine. We grew up 4 miles apart, have the same friends and went to the same places when we were young but somehow never met. I moved down south in my early 20’s and he moved to Birmingham but we had friends in our home town and our paths never crossed. The night we met, we had a mutual thunderbolt. The next day I headed back down south. We spoke on the phone 3 times a day for 3 weeks. I was terrified because I didn’t believe it could be true. Eventually I said you’d better come and see me so we can see if this is what we think it is. It was. He moved down south (to his own flat) 5 months later. Another year on and he’s just moved in with me. I am so so happy. Just because you’re newly single doesn’t mean it’s not the right time, is what I’m trying to say! I was 43 when I met him. It was the most wonderful unexpected turn of events.

Pinga · 20/01/2018 03:07

Horribly cynical/paranoid of me but.........is it at all possible he likes the same things as you.... to reel you in and actually he has somehow stalked your fb or something and is a weird stalker type?

Really hoping he isnt and is actually as lovely as he sounds.

Pinga · 20/01/2018 03:09

Oh ignore me...... when I posted that darn slow internet hadnt let me read the bit where you met and he was lovely etc. Ignore me x

MoNigheanDonn · 20/01/2018 07:37

Tyrianstoe how did it go?!

TheSassyAssassin · 20/01/2018 07:49

I vote it's still going.... Wink

Liskee · 20/01/2018 08:01

I’m here to get filled in on the next instalment of this fab thread!