NC Dignity Club Part 3 - Stronger Every Day

[SweetBerries]

Here we go ladies. The place we come to do the 4 c’s - confess, console, comfort and consolidate. Every one of us is on a journey here but at the end of it, we become stronger better individuals who can be better prepared for future relationships - friends and romantically.

I’m so proud of you all xx

@IceCreamSundays - Welcome :). Working together will be very difficult but not absolutely impossible. It will become easier for him to cycle back into contacting you outside work, but if you can be the one to freak the cycle yourself, then he won’t have his opportunity and may realise that things have changed this time. It will be a process, but we have ALL gone through NC in different ways here, and understand the pain and stages of grief even if not the individual situation. We are here. X

I’ve been nc 21 days. But he liked something on my sm today. Funny it was a picture of me with an attractive male friend.
He would never normally ‘like’ anything on my sm, he was just never that type of person.
No idea what it means at all.

Sweet you've really come a long way

Rhubarb my guy did that last week. He liked a photo of me on a mutual friends SM. We aren't friends on SM so he knew I'd get a notification. Not sure what it means either?

Maybe they’re just trying to prod us NK. To make us think about them.
Unless they genuinely like the photo

I think they are looking for attention Rhubarb didn't work for my lad. Day 10 NC lol

Good point NK. Maybe it’s just more crumbs
They don’t have to ‘like’ anything. It was just poignant that he never likes anything, but nc21 days and he does.
He’s away with work abroad at the moment and due back late next week. He’s been away for almost a month.

Do you think he'll contact you when he gets back Rhubarb

I don’t know nk. It’s the longest we haven’t spoken and it’s been good for me. I think he might contact. That’s what prob worries me a bit. We had ‘words’ before he went. In some ways I really hope he doesn’t. But if he does, I wouldn’t know what to reply if at all! He would likely send a message along the lines ‘hows things?’ which is crumbs

RHUBARB
It's like a message from yhem: I'm herd, I still exist. I can use last resort remedy:stalk you on SM! How dare you take pics with males! Oh let me show by my like that I'm totally cool with that! 😂

Herd-here
Damn autocorrect

teens do you think he was trying to pretend he was ‘cool’ with the pic.
My male friend is good looking and we had a thing years and years ago, but is now purely platonic. My nc knows this.

I think you’re right. He is trying to send a message. Unsure what the message is.
Maybe I’m overthinking it.

CRUMBS
CRUMBS
ALL CRUMBS

Sorry I really like that word but it’s true. They bait you in but as soon as more is expected, bam. Gone. It’s a horrible, repeating cycle. They will think about us, they must do, but not enough to commit themselves to any level of deep interaction. Please remember how we all deserve so so much more than that. It’s all that keeps me going back to my idiot NC.

Keeps me FROM going back, I mean...

rhubarb
Yes I think he's trying to show he's cool with it
He definitely acknowledge it, as in I know what you're up to now!

Guys some of us pine for viable contact with our NC's some of us don't. Some of us would have them back whether we know we should or shouldn't but one thing we ALL have in common is sweets comment we all deserve so much more! Keep strong x

Yes...bait. Draw you gradually back in. Then once you’re hooked. Turn on you.
Like a drug dealer!

Day 4 achieved.
Night all.x

Well done bassetting. Doing good

I had zero communication from my guy since I went NC with him month ago. I broke NC 3 times: drunk missed call, HNY message and a sarcastic text yesterday.
He replied to none
Think I know what I mean to him now, I'm glad I did start nc , but for this we'd still be in touch and Id still think theres something between us,more than it is in reality..it showed me clearly where I stand

teens same here. Since I went nc I have heard not a peep and he is online all the time so has clearly moved on, didn't care about me one jot. It hurts a lot. I am gradually weaning myself off checking the sm thing. I know where I stand now. Like 'Anxious says we deserve so much more.

This all moves so fast I have trouble keeping up but someone up thread said they were considering yoga. I have been doing it on you tube. It is quite therapeutic and takes my mind off things for a while.

Teens and Itsa mine hasn't contacted me either, just liked my picture on SM.

We all deserve so much better.

Well done Basseting. Any plans for tomorrow?

Itsa
The penny dropped for me
And I'm glad it did
I'm glad I didn't waste more time on him
I can move on without what ifs
There's no what ifs