Dh has been having an affair. He get a home in an hour. Please keep me calm.

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Found emails and a receipt for flowers. The emails are just Facebook messenger notifications so I can't read what they say but he's addressed the flowers to "my love".

I'm in with the 3 dc. I'm going to be sick.

He'll be crapping himself now

How did he delete thread if you changed password? I'm so sorry OP I feel sick for you, what an undeserving prick and horrible woman. Wishing you courage and much love.

he's deleted it because he has something to hide; he can't deny it.

How did he delete them if you've changed his password?

Just lie and say you read it all. Wanker.

Keep ignoring him

Well, that's all you need to know, isn't it. He wouldn't delete it if he didn't need to.

He's a lying, cheating bastard. Move any money into your sole account!! And pack his bag.

Been there. I'm sorry OP. Stay strong.

All I can say for definite is "you WILL be ok" I promise. This will be very hard but you really will get through it and be ok.
Sending you strength xx

It will be much easier to read him face to face

you poor thing. So sorry he is such a ratass.

Try to breathe. Don't answer the phone. You need to be able to watch him when you talk. If you can't do that tonight then go to bed and do not engage. Be prepared for him to be furiously creating some complicated story right now.

Lydia when op tried to reset password it prob sent him an email reset. It wouldn't have allows op to change it

So sorry OP. Similar thing happened to me though I didn't find messages. Ex said woman he's been hanging out with whilst I was away studying was just a friend.

Yet neighbours told me she'd been regularly staying at our house overnight.

Turned out it had been going on for months. I understand that to this day (9 years later) he still denies anything happened whilst we were together and it was all my paranoia.

Don't believe a word he says.

allowed

I bet he's worrying now! He will be thinking g of excuses. BE STRONG. This will be the worst part I promise, I know from recent experience xx

He will lie through his teeth.

I'm so sorry I have been there before it's like your world has fell from beneath you. You need to change the password and look at the messages before he gets home cause as soon as you leave the room after confronting he will frantically delete all evidence, change passwords etc.

I couldn't bite my tongue either and confronted straight away.

Call his bluff and say you read it all.

He will minimise it all, you dont delete if you're innocent.

Big hugs x

OP I also wouldn't be able to not say anything today but I would just say 'I know' and wait for him to unravel. He won't know what u know eg about the flowers too so see what he tells you. Best case scenario he is totally honest with you. But I know nothing will help you here. So sorry :( my heart hurts for you and your children. I hope you have a good support network who can come and hug you and help you xx

If you're on a laptop try looking on archive in messenger - it might have kept the deleted messages

He is disbicable

Don't let on that you haven't read the messages. In fact, if he tries to minimise you can lie right back.
"That's not what I heard" worked very well for me.

You will get through this.

So sorry :( what an arsehole.