Dh has been having an affair. He get a home in an hour. Please keep me calm.

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Found emails and a receipt for flowers. The emails are just Facebook messenger notifications so I can't read what they say but he's addressed the flowers to "my love".

I'm in with the 3 dc. I'm going to be sick.

How did he respond?

Tip from m6 personal experience. Don't let him know how you know or what you know, just that you do. That way he won't be able to minimise.
Each time he makes an excuse, just say 'And that's your final story, is it?'

Try to stay calm OP. Try deep breathing and focus on your breaths in and out. This will help you to relax a bit and help you to think more clearly.

If you really can't hide your emotions then you're best to just ask him outright when he comes in.

Say you've seen the receipt for the flowers, addressed to "my love" and want to know what's going on.

Be prepared for him to deny it and make something up; only you can tell if it sounds plausible, or if he looks as though he's lying.

Thinking of you x

hope he doesn't minimize and deny.

What a slag she must be knowing he is married. He deserves to have his buts chopped off ..... bastards!!!

Tell him to leave the house now and get the keys back off him.

Raisinsarenotheonlyfruit you are right in what you are saying...
I was drop fed after I initially found out and it's only when I confronted more cane out.

Whatever else you do it don't do (move money, change password, pack him a bag) if you can't manage anything else whatever you do just get him sat down, look him in the eyes and say "I know about OWNAME". Watch him squirm, see what he tries to come up with, then tell him want you want him to do (move out, tell you everything etc).

But know that as soon as it comes out, it will all hit the fan. Getting evidence of messages, making sure you have money may all of a sudden become very difficult.

Anyone who goes near a married man when they know he’s married is a scumbag as is the married man

Sending you a virtual hug x

Literally seconds after I was in he sent me a message saying why did you reset my Facebook.

And the thread was deleted before I could even open it

Is he home yet? How do you know he knows? And yes to changing the password immediately to prevent him deleting stuff.

Well said peonytruffle

Remain calm, and ask him "who is [whatever her name]? We will never come back from this if you lie."

He'll probably lie. Prepare for that.

If she's such a slapper to see somebody whose married with a family she'll end up cheating on him he'll get his comeuppance!

For fuck sake...deep breaths...you have us here..

All these games people are suggesting.

Op what was your last post, did you mean he knows you know?

Ohhh OP I'm so sorry for you, I've been here and it's awful, this is the worst, every day from here is a step forward

Has he confessed?

Don't say a word until he gets home. Ignore the password text

Presumably he would get the password change email on his phone?

Hope you’re ok op. Horrible for you.

Now I've got a missed call from him.

Thinking of you OP

Ah shit.

Well I guess you could reply saying "why do you think? Rumbled"

He doesn't know if you've read the messages or not.

Sorry op just saw your last post..