Dh has been having an affair. He get a home in an hour. Please keep me calm.

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Found emails and a receipt for flowers. The emails are just Facebook messenger notifications so I can't read what they say but he's addressed the flowers to "my love".

I'm in with the 3 dc. I'm going to be sick.

Hope you're ok OP. Thinking of you, you deserve better

Things won't be this shit for ever. At some point you will start to feel better. Thinking of you xxx

OP

Oh, I’m so sorry OP. My exH cheated on me pretty much constantly over 18 years. I could never get the proof though. When I finally kicked him out he ran straight to a woman he’d been seeing on and off for 12 years. You will get through this. I’m so much happier now. 2 years on I’ve rebuilt my life and me and my children are so much happier.

Been there too OP. We are all here for you

I feel sick to my stomach for you...but some great support and advice for you on here...good luck, be strong, you are better than how he is treating you..

Hope you are ok, lots of us have been here and can help you.

Thinking of you op, I’m so sorry you're going through this

I’m so so sorry

Stay strong OP

Thinking of you OP

I have just finished this thread-OP I am so sorry, really hope you can manage some time away from the house and get some close support in the next few days.

Take care of yourself.

I keep coming back to see if you have posted OP.
Im alternating between feeling so sorry for this lady to feeling bloody angry with the OW thread and consequently can’t sleep.
I’m desperately hoping it’s all a big mistake and you have gone to bed but I’m pretty sure I’m wrong.
I’m sending you a massive hug and hope that you have good RL support. I’m sure there must be someone here who would live close enough to hold your hand in person if you haven’t.
You have three wonderful kids who will help you get through whatever life throws at you.
Keep strong.

Just went to bed. He admitted he has been messaging her but he said he hasn't met up with her but he did try to and she said no. He said they argued when she said no and they had a fall out so that's why he sent her the flowers.

I think I could probably get past the whole emotional affair thing but the fast he sent her the flowers is violently breaking my heart inside my chest right now. I am dying inside.

So sorry OP

So sorry you're being put through this hell, OP.
Btw, he's never met her, yet he called her "my love"?

Hope you manage to get some sleep. Try to rest tonight and think about it tomorrow. So much he needs to explain.

So sad that it is only an emotional affair because OW refused to meet.

My heart breaks for you, YouSpin, wish there were words to make you feel better but there really are none.

You will be in my thoughts tonight.

Oh god! It does all add up but the “my love” is awful. Do what’s best for you, not for him. I know you probably won’t sleep tonight but try and get somewhere to clear your head tomorrow, even if it’s just going for a walk. Is there anywhere you and the kids can go for the weekend?

If it was as he says then he shouldn't have deleted their conversations - he needs that to show you he's telling the truth (which of course he isn't) 'My love'

So sorry

I’m so sorry for you OP.

It’s not what you want to hear, but he may be admitting to the only thing you can prove i.e. messages and flowers. Very rarely do they confess to everything, just the bare minimum they can get away with. I’d be very wary of making any decisions based solely on what he’s owned up to, as it’s likely more will come out in the wash as new things come to light - hotel bills, more messages etc.

The script goes along the lines of.... They did meet up but didn’t kiss; then they kissed but nothing else; then they slept in the same bed but no sex. Then it was sex but only once.

It’s shit - you don’t need any more uncertainty - but he is not your friend right now, you can’t trust him.

That's so shitty of him OP, I'm sorry.