Dh has been having an affair. He get a home in an hour. Please keep me calm.

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Found emails and a receipt for flowers. The emails are just Facebook messenger notifications so I can't read what they say but he's addressed the flowers to "my love".

I'm in with the 3 dc. I'm going to be sick.

For future reference, if your DP has a PC (anything not-Mac) and their password comes up on any other sites you type into the bar. Highlight and right click, then ‘inspect element’ change where it says in the code [password] into [text] then exit the inspect. The password will appear in its readable form and you can try it in different sites.

keep it all together and gather evidence. You will think better in the morning. Don't rush into anything yet

Look after yourself x

Thinking of you op.

So sorry OP. I think it's pretty clear that he has been cheating with this woman. You're in a state of shock and you need someone there with you to make sure you're ok. Can you contact your family or friends or anyone you trust to come over and look after you.

Thoughts are with you can't imagine what's going through your head x

I've been there. I also messaged the OW. Very embarrassing to remember but I wasn't thinking clearly. You WILL be ok eventually but it's going to be painful. I'm sorry

Good luck OP

Don't message her again.

You're just fucking with your own head.

She's not your problem. He is.

I wouldn't even get into a conversation. He knows you know. Tell him to pack his bags and leave while you think. I'm so sorry.

I know it's a long shot but could they be for a work collegue? Perhaps someone died in family or something?

Has your DH been acting differently does he go missing etc.

Can you get much from the woman's Facebook page, workplace etc?

Sorry Op, I had something like this but not flowers just other stuff and I think I unearthed the beginning of an affair and put a stop to it. Thinking of you OP.

So sorry OP. Don't believe a word of his shit. Just tell him you know, and when he tries to lie and minimise say "I know that's a lie". What a vile specimen he is.

So sorry op ❤️😩

Just breathe. Take deep breaths, count to 3 on the inbreath and to 5 on the outbreath. Do that. Keep doing it. It might not feel like it makes a difference, but actually it does. You will find that your brain is a little clearer.

You don’t have to say or do anything else for now. You don’t have to speak to him or answer questions, he’s forfeited the right to make any demands on you of any sort. Do the breathing before you speak, if you want to speak. It will help you retain control.

I’m so so sprry this creep has done this to you.

Could someone explain the "deleting the thread" bit to me please. I don't do Facebook. (I understand about getting into FB and reading the messages.)

Meant to add so sorry OP. It must be awful.

Good luck op so sorry x

Dont message her op it won't help your state of mind

My heart is breaking gig you OP. Stay strong

For you*

This is so bloody shit. Thinking of you op & the kids

Lots of hugs

Thinking of you this evening.. what an awful thing they've done to you. Honestly just don't understand these people who can do this to the mother of their children.

frasier it just means he's deleted the messages between him and OW before OP had a chance to read them.

OP so sorry... you will get through this. Lots of people will be here through the night if you need us.

fraiser
It looks like OP's H got spooked when he saw the password had been reset so deleted all the messages between him and OW to remove the incriminating evidence against him/them

Thinking of you op.