Disappointed with your sex life Part 3

[lemonade]

A new thread for us. I'll see you here instead of at Part 2.

how is everybody doing? any changes? any positive developments? what are you all up to?
and lemonade, i hope you're OK. we miss you!

hello dont want too start a new thread but at the moment my selfish dp is dissapointed with his s l cause i am too tired doesnt understand that i am breastfeeding dd teething with ds getting up earlier than him at the moment working harder than him(imho) and all the selfish btd can think about is getting it
im not being unreasonable contemplating murder am i?
advice needed please cause he just wont listen too my (downtrodden) p of v

not unreasonable at all earlygirl! Does your dh realise how you are feeling? Is he sharing the load with looking after the children? You need to make him understand how exhausted you are and that the last thing on your mind is his sex life.

ice maiden hes just being a selfish pig at the mo the angrier i get the more i push him away .weve been through worse than this but at the moment he just wont listen is being utterly selfish .was going to start thread but cant be bothered as i feel a bit silly and id just rant
the thing is he does get some action just not on demand(as much as hed like)yet when i was pregs and wanting more than my fair share there ewas something wrong with me!!????
im so pissed off at him today that i feel like leaving hed better be ok when he comes back with ds

hello everyone....how are you all?

Nothing has changed here. Will post a message when I'm in the right frame of mind and have the time. Everybody else OK??

hi branster will talk to you later on my contract killer thread if thats ok
thought it might be a bit early to mention s-e-x!!

That would be great early girl! i'll try and get on the computer later tonight. take care.

It's all gone ver quiet here? How are you all?

REB mate how is it going???

Lemonade WHERE ARE YOU? I miss your messages. Are you coming back to this thread? How are things going at home? I hope you're OK.

Nothing new here. Apart from the fact that I find myself fancying some other men which is totally wrong of me, I know. The most unsuitable one being one of my neighbours' gardener. great body and such an inocent smile... Obviously I'm not pursuing anyhthing and he probably thinks I'm way out of his league but still, it's nice to fantasise now and then. Not healthy though I suppose given my situation. I'll probably wake up in 10-15 years from now on realising how much sex I could have had with the right man. I'm surprised I haven't fallen ill yet with all this frustration inside me. So REB I have some idea of where you are.
And I have actually given up trying with DH and just go about my daily life as best as I can without getting in his way. And it has got to this point where most of our evenings are spent sepparately but I'm just fed up with him in this respect and don't want to get myself worked up about it at the moment. And otherwise he's a lovely guy really. I guess we're just not 100% compatibile...

branster....lemonade is ok......her computer blew up in a storm so she hasnt had internet access for a while til she can get it fixed. But she assured me she is ok.

oh that's good to hear. give her my love if you get in touch with her Titania please.

Want to borrow my copy of Lady Chatterley Bran?

will do branster. REB hows things?

Cheers REB, that's very kind of you. I think I'll give it a miss. I remember reading it when I was a teenager and didn't do that much for me. Mind you, in those days I had nothing to complain about in this department .
You'll probably agree with me that it is not nearly as good as the real thing IYSWIM.
I really miss the physical touch of a real man. Not just good sex, but the cuddless, touching, intimacy on that level. The way things are, I don't think I'll ever get that happening to me and it's sooo hard...

Thanks Titania! How are you doing? How are things going with DH? How are you feeling?

not bad......i think!!! will post more tomorrow when get the chance and DH isnt looking over my shoulder every 5 minutes!!!

horrible isn't it Bran - do you feel lonely all the time too, moody, shutting people out?

Evening everyone. I have to admit that I feel lonely all the time, moody and shutting people out and I am the one who doesn't want sex. In fact I think I shut people our so much I have forgotten how to be really close to someone.

strangely, I don't REB. But my personality is as such that I'm very optimistic and open to people and don't get bothered about stuff too much in the sense that it doesn't consume me if there is a problem around me. So socially etc is all as it's always been. but I can confidently say that if it wasn't for DD i would have gone astray on numerous occasions by now. And it all comes so clear just before I fall asleep when I have time to think about it in peace and there is dh a few inches away from me but feels like it's an empty bed and he wished i wasn't there to bother him. that is hard and makes me feel very lonely. and the rejection doesn't help obviously. that's why i've given up for now at least.
how strange life is. i would have never imagined i'd end up in such a marriage.

i'll have to re-read the threads to work out what is happening with you icemaiden . don't know what to say really... but i'm sending you lots of hugs
xxx

hi all, just seeing how everyone is, nothing to report here, just the usual round of loneliness and self loathing - i nearly did something silly last week

Hi REB, you sound very down. What do you mean, nearly did something silly? Do you mean being unfaithful or trying to harm yourself? If you don't want to talk about it that's fine of course, but if you do then please feel free.

too cowardly to do anything involving pain ice - nearly took an opportunity that presented itself to me, shall we say - it was flattering, and frankly i do get frustrated, but sense prevailed, though of course a part of me is going "you idiot!"

It was very restrained of you to refuse reb.I hope it made a difference to your self-esteem to know that you are attractive to women, as you have been saying that you feel unattractive. How do you think dw would react if she knew? does she admit that there is a problem.

I'm not sure thet fact that dh and I discuss the fact that there is a problem helps or not. I have decided to take some definite steps and try and work out what is causing the problem (as it seems to be me) and do something about it. It may take a while though, but I suppose it's better than nothing.

I don't think she accepts there is a problem, because for her there isn't a problem, iyswim.

As for it being flattering.... well, shall we say the other party clearly didn't know me at all well - I mean it's flattering for a few seconds, but it doesn't mean i'm this wonderful caring handsome charming sexy soul.

I'm not looking for a resolution any more, just ways of getting by.

well done REB! Flattering or not, you don't want DS to be part of the 62% statistic of under 16 year olds who's parents are sepparated because it was your fault. that's the main reason that keeps me away from doing something 'silly' like that.