Hello! Hello! Hello!
Happy New Year everyone!
Newstart I hope you're well. We miss you!.
Titania I hope you're well too. I'm sorry I haven't contributed to your threads much but I felt that everybody else had such good advice to give you. I missed your messages on here so don't know much of what happened but have some idea from your other threads. I do think of you and really hope things will get better. they already did with the house (if things are still the same) but emotionall issues take such a long time to solve and it must be draining on you. I wish you only the best things in the world and hope we'll come accross each other in the future sometime on here.
REB, of course you have the right (and need) to think and want sex, especially as you are married. only monks are denied this natural right and I'm certain they do it all teh time anyway. More than you probably
As for the working girls issue: is only normal that it crosses your mind given the circumstances as well. BUT whatever you go through, please, please, please DON'T do it, not even approach them. You don't need it, it costs money and you're sure to catch something nasty even if you use two condoms instead of one. I don't know you but from your past messages, I chance the guess that you'd feel totally disgusted with yourself if you are ever to go ahead with such a thing. Better to have an affair in your position really.
I think you need to somehow talk it through with DW, it's really really difficult for you (and her for all you know) and if you at least talk about it it might improve the situation. I don't really know what you'd say exactly but maybe if you start, words will follow.
Now about me, since it's been such a long time since I alst posted. As mentioned last time, we did have a chat which was only spurred on by a (very civilised) discussion on a different topic that affected us both (nothing sinister, more practical but needed dealing with and that's all sorted now). It turned out that DH was not aware we were having any kind of problems and in his opinion , having been married for a number of years now, and having a child means that sex and closeness doesn't have to occur to often. I told him that it shouldn't be like this and I'm not prepared to carry on under present circumstances. Anmyway, we left it at that and his attitude did change by itself (or maybe he made a conscious effort). Now is slightly more attentive to me with little things like kisses and cuddles, but not as much as I would like still. Sex does happen a lot more often but I'm sorry to say it's still not great. Although at first I thought it was better, I think it was just in my mind. Hopefully things will improve but I am aware we have to still work at it. Maybe we will, maybe we won't . Time will tell. At present I feel really happy with everything so that can't be bad.