The man who disappeared part 2

[Carrotgirl999]

Sorry, I don't know if I need a new thread, as it will probably be me just wallowing / getting angry / getting sad. But thought I'd better anyways

At least I can tell you all when his stuffs gone and the chapter is completely closed.

I am so fucking shocked by all this I truly am. And il have to sit my son down tonight and tell him.

Cowardly cowardly bastard.

I wouldn't block or delete him til you have the keys back. Then do it.

It’s just escalated so fast. From contact out the blue on Saturday, saying she couldn’t leave a trail for her partner and wanted to talk in person , to living toghether by wed and now he’s lost his job that he was on annual leave from.

Your head must be spinning op.

Can I come too? I'm in Bedfordshire and have some time off over Christmas.

He's moved counties to be with her, I can't imagine he will be commuting 50 miles on public transport to a job he's not bothered about.

The job is the last thing he cared about tbf.

If the bus is going to Sussex, it can flippin well nip along the coast and pick me up in Southampton. KOKO Carrot, you have handled all this in exemplary fashion and your ex is a twat of the highest order who will get his comeuppance pronto, make no mistake about that.

Oh blimey, he's not gone to Lancashire has he?

They'll tear him apart...

OMG he is such a tit!! There must have been other red flags during your relationship. He can't have been perfect for 6 months then buggered off as soon as she clicked her fingers.

Sounds like pure Jezza Kyle, you are well out of it.

He will come crawling back, but you couldn't be attracted to that thick flakey twat now you know the real him.

Jesus.. that ‘man’ just gets worse. He’s pathetic.

carrot I just wanted to say (again) that you are bloody marvellous and an inspiration for us all in the way your are handling this.
(Similar crap happened to me many years ago and it is now a distant memory)

Keep looking forward and huge good luck with your new job tonight.

I’m surprised you ended up with a prize berk like this. I think you’re far too nice. Onwards and upwards. Be glad that pond scum is out of your life before he had too much of an impact on your ds. He’s clearly not a good role model.

Wow, what an arsehole.

The best thing you can do now is act compoletely nonchalant. You have no reason to contact him now and any attempt at contact from him should be ignored.

"I’m surprised you ended up with a prize berk like this."

Tbf I think all Op did "wrong" was live together too soon.

If he was saying that he was over his ex & telling Op that he loved her, why should she think he was lying?

Seems that plenty of women on here actually end up & have kids with far worse!

And as for being "too emotionally invested" after 6 months. Do me a favour.

I fell head over heels with my partner after about 2 months. 5 years later we are still together.

Carrot its better to be alone than to be someones 2nd best. You are now free and have the opportunity to find someone you deserve.

Nonchalant is the plan. He sent me a few sorry texts. I replied simply with my friends address for him to post the keys. Nothing more. I'm so lucky that Iv got this job opportunity. I can think of nothing worse than sitting here alone on a night imagining them.

Onwards and upwards x

Oh, carrot, another bloody reason I hate living down South. I used to live in West Yorkshire and would definitely have done whatever you needed a body to do.

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Yorkshire is lovely. I like Harrogate and knaresborough. So pretty. I'm in Sussex, it's nice but so expensive and now densely populated. I'd love a jolly to Yorkshire.

So he's giving up his job.....what a twat. So when she gets bored next he will have nothing. Stupid man. Carrot you are really too good for that idiot thank god she's done you this favour. Hope tonight goes well.

I hope he does send the keys securely.

Anyone think he may hang on to them so he’s got a bolt hole when it goes tits up again?

Nah. He'll send them. Recorded delivery. He's clearly feeling very guilty and rightly so.

He knows he's fucking up, he's even said he knows it's a mistake, but we both know he has to, he'd never have been happy here if he's forever wondering about her.

And when it goes tits up, which it will, he can regret it forever.

I hope it goes brilliantly tonight OP, I'm sure you'll smash it. Great idea to do this, it'll let you get a few hours' peace from thinking about him. Sounds like a fab job.
Well done for being so dignified and calm with him. You're doing so well.
Speechless at how he talked to you about ex's kids - how he could imagine you'd want to hear about that, I can't fathom.

Good luck tonight OP, I think the job is a great idea.

Plaster a smile on even if you don't feel like it.

Fake it 'til you make it.

You will be fab.

Good luck tonight OP.

You're amazballs xx

Bear in mind that he may send the keys - but he might also have copies made first. If you can, ask your landlord to change the locks, even if you have to pay for it.

There is no reason why he couldn't have posted the keys to you sooner. He sounds a sackless twat - even if he intends to send them, he may "forget".

Alternatively, ask where OW lives and ask a friend/relative to go and collect the keys on your behalf.

And enjoy your new job!

Best of luck with the job tonight op...knock em dead... channel your inner bet from the rovers (minus many years and a lot of leopard print obvs)

You've got more grace in your little finger Carrot than he has in his entire body. He's got no manners or humanity, and this "love story" he's created is nothing more than fantasy.....the reality of it all will come crashing round him again in months to come. If not weeks.
You've dealt with this with such strength, but I'd wait for your keys to arrive and then block his number. Don't carry on any dialogue with him now, there is no reason to and it's just going to get worse for you hearing his shit. You should be really proud of yourself.