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The man who disappeared part 2

385 replies

Carrotgirl999 · 07/12/2017 17:15

Sorry, I don't know if I need a new thread, as it will probably be me just wallowing / getting angry / getting sad. But thought I'd better anyways

At least I can tell you all when his stuffs gone and the chapter is completely closed.

I am so fucking shocked by all this I truly am. And il have to sit my son down tonight and tell him.

Cowardly cowardly bastard.

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LoneParenting101 · 08/12/2017 12:11

I'm in Harrogate Carrotgirl? I've also been where you are now! Pm me if you like? X

PizzaPlease · 08/12/2017 12:33

I'm near Halifax lovely. Feel free to drop a message in!

PhuntSox · 08/12/2017 13:19

I also love that he has a tattoo, sounds like its in a sensitive place, will hurt a lot when he has it covered over!

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Carrotgirl999 · 08/12/2017 13:39

Again. Iv read nothing yet just updating.

Iv taken his stuff, he was there. At his mums. AND HED LEFT THE KEYS AT THE OW HOUSE!!!

So he's posting them recorded delivery,

And I have my first trial shift at the bar tonight. A bit numb to say much else. I didn't grovel tho.

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TheRealBiscuitAddict · 08/12/2017 13:42

Wow, two threads already and it's only been two days.

Seriously allowing yourself to wallow at this level after a five minute relationship really isn't going to do you any favours.

After six months he really was still just a boyfriend. Yep, moving back to the ex in the way he did is a bit cowardly, but after six months it could have gone either way really. Neither of you really knows each other at this stage.

I'd suggest putting it all behind you and moving on, maybe seek out some help to not get so deeply invested so quickly in future

StickyProblem · 08/12/2017 13:45

ODFOD Biscuit. They were living together FFS.

FizzyGreenWater · 08/12/2017 13:47

Did he give you money for rent etc.?

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Carrotgirl999 · 08/12/2017 13:49

I think two days of wallowing is ok considering, we lived together, booked holidays, had Christmas plans, new year plans, and to have had it all ripped from under me so unexpectedly.

The shock if nothing else is bad enough.

I think I'm doing ok. I have got his things out, I kept my dignity seeing him, even when he was saying 'Iv seen the kids they are so happy their 'dad' is back' and that his phone screensaver was the pair of them, all lit up on the table when I walked in.

I still kept my head up.

And I'm focusing on me. This job is a good start. He's already texted a sorry. He can fuck off tho.

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Carrotgirl999 · 08/12/2017 13:51

He gave me some, not all. Left himself a whole 100 quid and with now no job and no income two weeks before xmas he will struggle with that. And be dependant on her.

And I'm sure that'll look very attractive in two weeks when he can't even buy milk.

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KarenW · 08/12/2017 13:51

what a prize twat!! you are so much better off without him, you sound wonderful and strong in the face of being treated so terribly. Good luck at the bar tonight, the only thing to remember is, you are just learning and to take your time! sending lots of admiration your way!

KarenW · 08/12/2017 13:53

oh, what a wonderful catch he is!!

cakewench · 08/12/2017 13:54

I married my husband after being together with him for six months. We've been together 14 years now. Not trying to pile on to OP, just trying to give Biscuit there a bit of perspective. Let the woman wallow a bit fgs.

NeilPetark · 08/12/2017 13:55

MN tour to Carrot! I’ll get the bus started! Yorkshire isn’t that far.

FizzyGreenWater · 08/12/2017 13:56

That would include the child removed from her mother's care for neglect I assume? Should think that child is more relieved to be in the permanent care of her actual dad tbh.

His family must be absolutely gutted to have this back in their lives and probably seriously rethinking what kind of person they thought he was too. I should think they're in for a pretty solo Christmas and perhaps family life after that, which also doesn't bode well for them given that he's so close to his bro.

Utterly shocking.

KarenW · 08/12/2017 13:56

Think that TheRealBiscuitAddict needs to read the whole thread! And then pull their neck in!! Two days to get over all of this is nothing, you go girl, you have behaved with great grace and dignity even when you were in love with someone who wasn't what he first appeared..

FizzyGreenWater · 08/12/2017 13:57

Oh, for that and a whole host of other reasons it will all fall apart sooner rather than later probably. So, poor kids and their fake, fair weather, reappeared 'dad' and even more catastrophic 'mum'.

KarenW · 08/12/2017 13:58

can the bus take a wee detour to scotland? I'd be on it!

gingergenius · 08/12/2017 14:01

I'm in the Sussex coast can I hop on the bus too?!? X

MiniTheMinx · 08/12/2017 14:03

I thought he was on annual leave, why has he got no job now?

JonSnowsHair · 08/12/2017 14:04

I give it until the first week of Jan before it all goes tits up, and that's being generous.

Looking forward to your update of him sending you a grovelling apology, I've made a huge mistake, etc etc.

TheRealBiscuitAddict · 08/12/2017 14:05

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MiniTheMinx · 08/12/2017 14:07

It won't take long for the rot to set in again in a one bed flat on benefits.

FML2017 · 08/12/2017 14:07

Oh go away with your Grins biscuit

shoeaddict83 · 08/12/2017 14:08

FFS real biscuit go troll elsewhere. If you arent interested why are you even bothering to post clearly follow this thread, and the other an post?

OP - id block his number so he cant contact you. You have no reason to now you have rid of his stuff and the keys are being posted so block him. Dont let him send apologies you dont need to see them.

DottyS · 08/12/2017 14:11

TheRealBiscuitAddict are you this horrible in real life or do you just save it for the internet - not that it bothers me either way but I am curious as to why you have to comment on a thread when it obviously means nothing to you or are you only here to wind folk up

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