Frustrationqueen's frustrations

[Frustrationqueen]

I think i sorted the other thread.

I agree, Across. I think that is exactly what she is doing.

That makes sense acrossthepond

I really will go to the police if they try to contact me again.
I am ill today. Really bad head and vomiting. Feeling sorry for myself

I think it's reasonable for you to feel sorry for yourself, FQ! They're treating you badly, and you've got a lot to worry over. You're under a huge amount of stress.

Try to remember that you're doing the best you can, that you can choose to do whatever you like, and that you can change your mind if you want to but if you don't want to, that's absolutely fine.

Look after yourself. Treat yourself well. This shall pass.

Thank you ontherise

How are you doing queen?

Not too bad thank you shoeaddict
Less than a week to go and i definitely feel i am making the right choice.
I have told him the truth. I felt i could live with potential back lash from him and his family far easier than i could guilt from lying

glad to hear you are ok :)
how did he take it? Havent had his mother banging on your door again have you? You sound so strong you've done so well!

He tried to talk me round but in the end accepted my choice.
I havent heard any more from mummy dearest but i did warn him that if she turns up at my door again, i will just phone the police.

I have almost caved and went back due to his persistence, but i just cant. I went for a walk with him. I cant get past everything that has been said and done.

Thank you for checking in shoeaddict

Sounds like you are really holding it together Queen, really pleased that youre coming out the other side of this. Im sure your dad is fully supportive too!
Itll soon be over then he can say what he likes to you, you dont owe him anything after the way he has treated you - and his weird family!

Hope you have a great xmas and a positive start to 2018 which im sure will be much much better year for you!

Thank you. I hope you have a great christmas, too

Frustrationqueen

Very best of luck for your appointment next week. Stay strong, on everything

You've been on my mind a lot too. That's great that you have been able to be upfront with him, it must have been hard, but at least you've been able to do what you can at this point. The waiting must be very difficult. Glad you are feeling more resolute.

Thank you

He is turning nasty now. Its not bad nasty. More like a 7 year old in a strop.
I only asked for my money back (they have over £100 of mine) and said no thank you to christmas gifts.
Im ungrateful and horrible. I told him to keep my money to cover the costs but they dont want that either. Its dirty money since it comes from a horrible person 😂
They can do what they like with it. Ive blocked abd will never unblock.
Spat his dummy out because i wont remain friends with him

Kiss the £100 goodbye and consider it money well spent if it meant I never heard from them again.

How are they getting in touch with you? You should have them blocked on everything and not answer the door if they come round.

Definitely money well spent if that is the case.
I unblocked to tell him about my plans.

He and they are just weird. Soon this will just be a memory - that weird phase in your life when all that crazy stuff happened. It won't even feel real.

At least you've got the nice symbolism of a new year and a fresh start. Roll on 2018.

Yes. It really will be a new year with a new start.

Argh the tit has messaged my good friend trying to turn him against me.
It obviously hasnt worked as he has sent all of the screenshots and knew all anyway.

He has told him everything! Thankfully he is a close friend so knows everything anyway, but he doesnt know this.
Its got me worried about who else and what else he is saying to others.
He even said that he is happy now that there is shit between me and my friend.
There isnt but he doesnt know that and thinks everything he has said is enough to make my friend hate me.

Please don't let him get to you. Remember, "those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind". He isn't going to be able to turn anyone who really cares about you against you. Just keep your head held high and don't dignify anything he says to anyone with a response other than a worried frown and an "Oh dear, it appears he's suffering from some sort of a breakdown, doesn't it? So sad." or words to that affect.

Yes that is very true.
All it showed me was that he was bitter, angry and his christmas eve was ruined since he spent it doing that.
Mine wasnt 😊

Have you contacted the police about his harassing you yet?

No. I thought it was all simmering down. His mum has stopped completely. I thought he got the message to leave me alone and then this.

He'll keep 'coming back' as long as you give him an inch. I understand wanting your £100 back, that's a good deal of money! But as I said before, it's not worth cracking open that closed door.

Kiss it goodbye, lesson learnt. No more contacting him for anything. If he contacts you again, do call the police.

The £100 is gone as far as im concerned. If id of known it would have been so difficult to get back i wouldnt have even bothered asking lol.
Its definitely not worth cracking that door open like you say

That is the end of it all. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.

Thank you all for your brilliant support throughout all of this!