Frustrationqueen's frustrations

[Frustrationqueen]

I think i sorted the other thread.

Im glad you found someone better for you.
I wonder what it is with these types.
It did seem genuine that he could see a future with us, but ...he is just a tit.

He has tried messaging me more. Im still ignoring. One more message and he will be blocked from where he is messaging me from.
I was walking about 5 metres infront of him yesterday, he made no attempt to communicate then and he definitely knew it was me

I blocked him so he has messaged my dad asking if he knows what im doing about it all.
My dad wont reply. He wouldnt have even told me about the message. His phone beeped while.driving so he told me to read it.
Feeling quite bad again

Continue to block and ignore. Plan your future and take care of yourself. You know he's an immature little oik. FFS getting his grandparents to pick him up every night for a sleepover at theirs. He is very weird.

What are you doing about it all?! Staying away from him, his family, and living your life! What exactly else does he think you might be doing about it all?!

What a dick he is.

Please get on with your plans. Don't let 'feeling bad' change your mind about anything - I honestly think you would regret it very, very bitterly.

And don't speak to him. Perhaps ask your dad to give him a VERY stern warning to keep the fuck away?

I am going to continue to block and ignore. Ive told my dad not to bother responding at all and he isnt going to.
He is still trying to call me and has left a voicemail asking the same question.
Since he is blocked though, his calls dont come through. It just tells me it was auto rejected.

I do feel bad, but its not going to change anything. He should have thought about all of this instead of being a little child who thinks its clever to play games.

I have a funny feeling that he is going to start opening his mouth around our mutual friends because im ignoring him

Honestly if he wants to start gossiping then leave him to it, his an idiot, everyone that knows him will know what his like.

Don't feel bad either, do you think he feels bad for how he treated you? Do you think his family feel bad about his behaviour? Of course they don't. So fuck them and concentrate on you.

How are you doing? Are you still feeling confident with your decision?

It is all just more lip service. Very easy and all he knows how to do in his definition of "relationship".
Nope.
Keep ignoring, keep ignoring Dory style.

Hi OP,

I read your previous thread and can't begin to imagine how conflicted you must be feeling - it's a stressful enough situation at the best of times. Please don't let anyone at all pressure you into anything, and don't do anything because you feel bad about the guilt trip he's trying to get you on. Just think about what's right for you in the long run, whichever option that is.

Exactly. He didnt feel bad at all, nor did his family.
Im not too fussed if he does start gossiping, i just cant be bothered with the hassle or dealing with the uncomfortable feelings etc.

Either way, whatever happens. My mind is made up and i am focusing on doing what is best for me.
I will also get in contact when i want to, not when pressured. Even then, the contact will be with his mum and not him. Basically to tell her to get him to leave me alone. Iykwim

OP - I don’t know how you can do it - but you need to figure out a way of snapping out of your fixation on this person.
You are pregnant - and the future life of you and this life in your tummy - is far more important than what this boy would tell your joint friends.

I know you said you are late 20s, but you really don’t sound it.
It almost still sounds like you hope he’ll show up at your door and you’ll get your pride and a happy ending.
Except - he is not a prize and you don’t yet see it.

You keept talking about having a good ‘relationship’ with this person (on your previous thread) - but by any normal criteria - it wasn’t.
You barely had sex, and he wasn’t a grown-up - being driven/picked up by his grandparents, and babied by his mother.
How you thought that his ‘staying over’ the night was the only issue you had is hard to understand.

Anyway - one day everyone has to grow up. Stop obsessing about this non-relationship.
And figure out your life and this pregnancy’s future.

I am really through with it all. I am definitely not wanting him to turn up at my door and for things to be all peachy.
I am finding it hard to switch off due to the circumstances.
I dont really have anyone irl to vent off to, and i dont like putting a lot on my dad so i am just using this as my sounding board.

I know thr relationship we had was not a realtionship, which is why it ended. Maybe i was warped by thinking the only issue was that of him not staying over. I never really thought of how bad the set up was with his living arrangements and his pick up/drop offs by his grandparents. Until i was able to see everyone elses reactions about it on here

Fq - keep on venting - that's exactly what mumsnet is for.
It's not a surprise you didn't see all the other signs of an odd relationship as you had one big frustration eating away at you.
Just keep strong, keep blocking, use your dad when you need to and use mumsnet to sound off to.

Thanks ferrier. Yep i am glad i have had my eyes opened. Thanks to the lovely mumsnet people for the help.

I have came home to find a note in my door from him asking to meet. He will be at this place for half an hour at 7pm. I will chilling in my pjs infront of the fire at that time

Is he after news of your baby? Does he know your plans?

How are the plans going?

I dont know what he is after. This place he usually wants to meet at whenever we had a falling out. It usually means he wants to mend things between us.

Im not talking about that in this thread. Sorry.
Nothing is going to change between us and i am not backing down

Enjoy the fire... I'm looking forward to spending this evening in front of mine too!

I think you rock. And you're so much better off without him!

Oh i will :) Its so cold out today!
Thank you, greenfingers.
He may have got the message that i wont be turning up tonight as he has tried calling and texting from one of his relatives phones. Which has been ignored

I think you are doing amazingly . Very strong lady.

Thank you xoticdreams

Sooo... his mum has started. She kept messaging and in the end said for me to let her know i am ok or she will speak to my dad.
To save my dad any hassle i said im fine.
She said for me to speak to her son as we both still love each other. I said no.
Now she is saying she is going to arrange to see my dad and they will sort things out.

I have responded with the thumbs up. I honestly dont understand what she hopes to achieve by talking with my dad,or if my dad would even entertain her.
She might not see me or her son as adults, but my dad sees me as one.
What the hell is her game and how do i get her to back the fuck off?

Say to her that her son isn’t good enough for you and you’ve taken the decision to move be on. That she should respect your decision and encourage her son to leave you alone as you do not want to have to report him for harassment but will do so if needed.

She's flaming bonkers!

You are well rid of this weird lot. Mum gives him an allowance, he doesn't work, sleeps at grandparents every night and he doesn't drive even a moped so they are his free taxi drivers ... can't imagine they really like coming out every night to pick him up. It's worse than having a teenager.

Enjoy your evening. So glad you have seen this dysfunctional idiot for what he is

Does this sound ok. I have said:

"I wasnt happy with the 'friendship' he had to offer.
I am not pushing away - i have walked away.
The rest of the family have done nothing wrong, but he knows what the issues are that ended it all so take it up with him.
My dad has no interest in getting involved in my life or my decisions"