Frustrationqueen's frustrations

[Frustrationqueen]

I think i sorted the other thread.

If he does show up at your door, don't answer it in case he turns nasty.

Good point actually. I never expected the awful words that came out of his mouth, so i really have no idea.

Well done op I was on your other thread and I think you are doing amazing! I think he thought after he sent that text you would beg for him and it's taken him by surprise and now he's blindly panicking. You are well rid, stay strong!

Oh well done you. I'm so relieved for you.

I'm the same when it comes to switching off. Had exactly that with xh. Such a liberating feeling.

Now calibrate your weirdo radar so you don't ever tolerate this madness again.

Just read previous thread, have come here to say well done, stay strong!
Good tip from whirly calibrate your weirdo radar

I think I missed what happened.

I take it you told him it was over and he took it ...badly and was nasty to you ?

Don’t want to bring up too much up from the last thread if you wanted gone.

No Fishfingers he messaged OP that he was 'done'.

Yep i think he probably was expecting me to chase him.
Haha i will calibrate my weirdo radar for sure!
Fishfingers he just messaged to say he was done and dropped my things off at my dads. Now he is trying to make contact and im ignoring

It is seriously starting to drive me mad wondering where he was last night. For the place i spotted him this morning...there is no way he was coming from home or grandparents!

Honestly its doing my head in

Maybe he was at an Aunt or Uncles to mix it up again. I bet they let him have two scoops of ice cream instead of the single one grandpa gives him.

Is it possible his family are encouraging him to make contact to sort things out because of the pregnancy?

Lol. The only other place i know he stays on a rare occasion is his friend. Only he lives in a completely different direction, too.

It is possible his mum is telling him to get in contact. Im really surprised she hasnt contacted any further. She hopes we will sort it before christmas

A bit* not again. Bloody phone.

Seriously though, don't worry about where he was.

I'm surprised none of them have appeared at your door yet, although I'm glad they haven't!

Im glad they havent too. I think ill have an early night tonight to try and force myself to switch off from it all

Yeah sounds like a good idea. Just make sure all your windows and doors are locked to be on the safe side.

You are well rid.

You are so doing the right thing but tbh I think the adult thing would be to finish things properly by talking. I know he was childish and wrong in the first place but you can end things in a more grown up fashion. This ignoring and blocking is a bit juvenile.

Whinesalot have you RTWpreviousT? If so, you will know that OP is not really dealing with a "grown up".
HE left her expecting him to return after a short while to make good on his promise to step up but instead HE disappeared for the night, ignored all attempts by OP to contact him and then sent an "it's over" message then arranged for her stuff to be dumped at her dad's home.
Why should she have any more contact with him? Why should she put herself out for him??
She is doing the "adult thing" by putting herself and her situation first.
She owes him nothing!

He really did lose any attempt of contact when he decided to do what he did.
He begged for a final chance and when i gave it to him, he acted as normal and left making me believe he was coming back when he had no intention.

Im not putting myself in any kind of position where i could fall for his bullshit again.
Under different circumstances id completely agree with you, and i wish it was the case that i could do what you suggest, but i just cant

Did you manage to get a good nights sleep?

Yes i did thank you. I havent heard anymore so hopefully this is it :)

Hello - I was on your previous thread.

Glad to see you're 'ok'.

I'm kind of glad he's behaved like this now - I think it gives you the conclusive proof you need of what kind of support he would be to you in the future and the kind of life you'd have. You feel trapped and unhappy now - it's nothing to where you'd be if things stayed as they are.

I hope you manage to get things sorted and move on free!

Hi again :) yes it definitely gives me proof of what to expect.
Lucky escape as many have said.
Thank you

Ugh, I think lots of us will have been out with one of these. Mine was 29, stayed with his mum two nights a week (at least), had never had a real job and got a monthly cheque off his nan (I found out after we split up). Nice guy, we got on really well, and I suppose we did have stuff in common but we broke up after he refused to commit to a holiday 6 months away. Strangely enough he talked a lot about babies and buying a house as well. His mum was also overly invested in our relationship. Was devastated when we split, but 3 months later went on a first date with my now husband, and I'm now extremely pregnant. Yes, my friends wondered why I was with him (I had a normal job, paid bills etc.) but quite sensibly waited it out. TL:DNR there are more men like this in their twenties than you'd think... You're doing the right thing ignoring him as well.