What age were you married?

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I'm struggling to process a few comments made of late regarding my (lack of) marriage/proposal.

First my mom tells me "people are always coming up to me and asking why isn't your "lovely" daughter married yet?!"

Secondly of 17 working women I am solely the only one not married or even been engaged, 3 are divorced, one a widow but at least they've had a bite of the cherry.

I'm 33.
Work full time own house and car.
Ok looking and frightfully honest.

At what age did people on here meet people or get engaged/wed?

My confidence is fractured so please be gentle 😔

Met 16, engaged 19 and married at 23.

I will be 28 in 4 months.

Met at 18, engaged at 19, married at 21.

DH is 18 months older than me.

We are just approaching 21st anniversary.

29. But most in my family got married by 25.

Its up to you when youre ready and have met someone you want to settle down with. I met my husband in may 2012 and married him in may 2013 and our son was born a week later. Sometimes i wish we'd waited before having kids to enjoy just being a couple for a bit longer, but i dont regret getting married so soon after meeting. Weve been married 4.5 years now

Met at 16. Married at 29. No DC yet (32).

Met at 15/18. Started dating at 25/28. Got married at 35/38. We're apparently slow to make decisions

Times have changed! Getting married in your 30s is the "norm" now but "in my day" if you weren't married by the time you were 30 you were "left on the shelf"!

Be kind to yourself and ignore those people who criticise. Those people I know who have married in their 30s and 40s are having very successful marriages because they know what they want rather than think they know what they want!

Don’t take any comments people make to heart OP, it’s a clumsy way of people saying to your mum what a lovely person you are and they can’t understand why you haven’t been snapped up.

At 33 you still have around 10 years of fertility left, so you can very much still meet someone and marry and have kids should you choose to do so.

I’m late 30s and in my group most got married late 20s/early 30s and had kids mid 30s but a few were still single until recently but now one of those is engaged and another just had a baby, neither of them met their partner til late 30s. It’s far more common than you maybe realise.

Married at 23. Divorced at 29. By chance, today I would have been married for 19 years!

DP and I met when I was 22 although we were friends for a few years before anything happened between us. I'm now 27 and we know at some point in the next couple of years we'll get married.

Everyone's different though. We don't own our house (yet- currently in the process of buying) and our car is on finance. I know it's easier said than done but try not to compare yourself of others. Outward appearances aren't everything. I'm sure some of the people you know are happily married and some are likely unhappily married. You have achieved so much! Ignore what your mum says.

I guess the real question is are you are happy?

We met at 20 and 18 (at uni) and although we were friends we had no romantic interest in each other for years. Then something changed. We got engaged at 27 and 25 and married at 28 and 26.

Meant to say, an 8 year relationship is really long. So it didn't work out but honestly I wouldn't see it as not making it.

DP met, got engaged, married, had a baby, divorced and had the decree absolute in less than half that time. Although that wasn't a particularly good relationship.

Met and married at 33
We were married 6 months after we met , it’s nearly 25 years married now

OMG you’re so young. You’re doing exactly what you should be doing - having a life and entering marriage when you’re ready. Personally I got married at nearly 39 and I never for a moment felt like that was getting on a bit - I didn’t meet my husband until I met him, basically! Please don’t be pressured or feel judged - it’s AWFUL if you do, not fair and there’s just no reason at all!!! Being married in your thirties is fantastic - you know yourself so well and you have established who you are. Basically getting married at ANY age, very young or even very old can be the sweetest of life’s events when you’re in love and happy. That’s basically ALL it’s about. Good luck and wishing you much happiness in general

first time age 29 second time 34

Met at 35 and married at 37.

Really glad I kissed a few frogs and married later. I really appreciate what I have with DH. He was worth the wait!

Met at 22, married at 29, baby at 30. Realised big mistake and looking at my options at 34. It doesn't matter what age you are, make sure you don't settle because everyone expects it otherwise you will regret it.

I'm 29, not married, have had several longish term relationships (2-4 years). Would like to marry someday but in no rush.

It's fascinating to see people who married in their mid and even early twenties as I've never known anyone IRL do that, a couple of my friends are now engaged but nobody married before 30 and many are still single or happily partnered in no rush to marry. Couples getting engaged did it after being together 4-5 years. While nobody would say it, there'd be some funny looks at a couple getting engaged within a year or marrying less than a couple years after first meeting as most people would say they hadn't known each other long enough and are rushing into it.

Each to their own, I doubt the age you marry has much correlation with the longevity of the marriage.

A lot of these threads almost assume everyone will marry someday which isn't true. Plenty don't, and are still happy single or in a partnership, cohabitating or living apart. I love that we're in an age where as can be choosy about who we marry and if we marry at all, something not afforded to many women across the world even today!

Met at 20 and married at 25. Now early 30s and a pretty even split amongst friends between married, LTR and single.

25, just short of 26. I’ll be divorced at 30.

Met when I was 20, we are getting married in 6 months and I will be 30. We have 2 DC (at age 26 and 28). I get a lot of the 'you were so young when you met, you'd barely lived'.

I met my now DH when I was 15. He was 17.
We got engaged when I turned 17, which is also when we moved in together.

I had our DS when I was nearly 19.
Then our DD when I was 20.

We got married when I was 22.
I'm now having another DS and I'm 24.

Met at 25 (me) and 32 (him). Married at 33 (me) and 40 (him). First marriage for both of us. We get round to stuff on our own timetable, as should you OP.

Sorry I'm lost as to the difficulty answering that question (which is a slightly rude/inappropriate one even if if is couched in those terms) ... 'Because her ltr recently broke down and she's naturally not rushing into another relationship at the moment' (?)

It can be more difficult to meet a partner in your 30s than 20s because fewer people are single, however that doesn't mean there are no single people and that one if them won't suit you. It's a matter of making every opportunity to meet people and nog getting hung up on the no-go's.

I know a lot of people who've met first or second time spouses in their 30s.

Me; met at 27 (him 24).
Broke up for 2.5 yrs at 33 during which I was in another relationship with an older man.
Got back together at 35/36. Married 36.