What age were you married?

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I'm struggling to process a few comments made of late regarding my (lack of) marriage/proposal.

First my mom tells me "people are always coming up to me and asking why isn't your "lovely" daughter married yet?!"

Secondly of 17 working women I am solely the only one not married or even been engaged, 3 are divorced, one a widow but at least they've had a bite of the cherry.

I'm 33.
Work full time own house and car.
Ok looking and frightfully honest.

At what age did people on here meet people or get engaged/wed?

My confidence is fractured so please be gentle 😔

Friends since I was 11 and he was 13 . Got together and engaged when I was 18. Had DS1 at 22. Married at 24. DS2 at 26. Been together 28 years now and I still love him to bits.

I'm still by far the oldest to get married and have kids judging by others posts. You do not know how things are going to pan out.
At 35 I was a comfy single woman. By 45, I was married with a daughter.

Met at 32, married at 35.

Met at 20, married at 23.

Met dh when I was 21, had ds1 day after my 23rd birthday, married just before my 25th. I am now 42, still married

So I think if I couldn't make it with him after 8 years together, starting again feels nigh on impossible!
But you did "make it" with him, you had an eight-year relationship, that's longer than many people stay together including their marriage, and the average length of a marriage ending in divorce. Don't just write that off, whatever any nosey gossips suggest! It shows you're able to live in a long-term relationship. Many people don't actually get that far.

I got married at 28 (after 5 years) and will be divorcing at 48. Make of that what you will!

I never married and never will.
I had my DC at 40 & 43.

29
Met in the January and married in August
No messing

I was 25.
In hindsight I was too young, even though we are mostly happy 10 years later.

Met at 18, married at 22/23, now 38. That was unusual in both peer groups, though more so in his. Over the last couple of years, I'd say the balance has shifted: more than 50% of our friends around the same age have married, though by no means all.

The friend who panicked, met someone and married quickly is having a hard time now. One data point doesn't make a general rule, of course.

People are awfully rude. I feel indignant on your behalf. I might give them a hard stare and ask if they want to enquire about my biological clock while they're at it.

I was 25 when we met & 29 when married. My husband was 40 though and it’s his first marriage

Everyone’s different though, for him waiting until he was 40 was the right thing for him

I was with my ex 23 - 30.

Met DH at 31, engaged at 34, married at 35 with a 9mo

Still together at 53

Met at 22, married at 37 - no point in rushing it!

Met at 17.
Married at 23.
Separated at 38.
Divorced at 40.

Now happily unmarried to the love of my life.

I was 23 when I got married the first time and will be 37 when I marry again in 2019.

Met when I was 30 and he was 34.

Moved in together when I was 32 and he was 36.

Married last year (me 36 him 40)

Currently trying for a baby but not a lot happening there

I was in 2 pretty serious relationships before I met my husband and looking back thank fuck I didn't marry either of them, that would have been a disaster!

It's better to wait in my experience.

19 (wouldn't recommend that young) and 55. No rules. Just when time and the right person are right

22....it's our silver wedding next year

Met at 18, married at 20. DC1 at 22, DC5 at 44.

DC1 & 2 both 30+, neither married, and no grandkids.

Met at 36, married at 37, dc at 38 & 40!

I partied hard and my career was far more important to me. I did have a long term boyfriend beforehand but it turned out he see me as a financial gain so I walked away 3 yrs in at age 33. I thought at that point I’d never meet anyone else and was even fussed! The comments about not having a partner we think and fast.. then one day I just met a great guy and we’ve been together ever since.

Ignore the comments, enjoy being you and if the right person comes along who’s worth your time it will just fit x

Married at 21. I was too young. The marriage only lasted 2 years. I never want to get married again.

I got married when I was 18. I am now 35. Had first dc at 33 and second will be when am still 35.

Met at 27, married at 28.

And had DD at 42!

Met at 31, married at 31 (we got engaged after 3 months and married after 10 months). When you know, you know