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What age were you married?

211 replies

thebestnamesweretaken · 03/12/2017 20:29

I'm struggling to process a few comments made of late regarding my (lack of) marriage/proposal.

First my mom tells me "people are always coming up to me and asking why isn't your "lovely" daughter married yet?!"

Secondly of 17 working women I am solely the only one not married or even been engaged, 3 are divorced, one a widow but at least they've had a bite of the cherry.

I'm 33.
Work full time own house and car.
Ok looking and frightfully honest.

At what age did people on here meet people or get engaged/wed?

My confidence is fractured so please be gentle 😔

OP posts:
sausagerollsrock · 03/12/2017 21:13

Met at 20, married at 28.

inlectorecumbit · 03/12/2017 21:13

Met at 18 married at 23-still going strong 32 years later

cowssheephens · 03/12/2017 21:13

Met when I was 17, married when I was 19. 15 years anniversary at the end of the month.

dudsville · 03/12/2017 21:16

About 22 and about 29. I'm now happily unmarried to a fabulous man. Marriage means different things at different times to different people. Do what matters to you. Other people will always have opinions.

ReggaetonLente · 03/12/2017 21:17

Met at 19, married at 26. He’s 3 years older.

Justabadwife · 03/12/2017 21:19

I was 16 when i met now DH (he was 19) 17 when dd was born (he was 21) married at 25 (he was 28) we've only been married just over a year.
I've always said if we got married when we were younger we wouldn't be together now.

Codlet · 03/12/2017 21:20

Met him when I was 22, got married age 29.

flingingmelon · 03/12/2017 21:21

Met when I was 23, married at 32.

DH didn't get married until he was 46. No one batted an eyelid.

Allnightlong2016 · 03/12/2017 21:21

I was 33 when I met my husband and married at 38. Had ds in between. You have plenty of time, I’m a firm believer that things happen when it’s time and when it’s your time, it will happen!

Skyechasemarshalontheway · 03/12/2017 21:21

Met at 18 married at 24.

travailtotravel · 03/12/2017 21:21

Met DH when I was 33, married at 35.

thepatchworkcat · 03/12/2017 21:22

Got together at 26, DS at 32, married at 35, DC2 now on way at 37. Most of my friends got married/settled between 30 and 40.

nameshelpplease · 03/12/2017 21:23

Split up from an ex at 32, met my now DH 6 months later and we married when I was 35. Have a few friends who have split from long term partners and gone on to meet their now husbands relatively quickly.

TeaAndToast85 · 03/12/2017 21:23

Met when I was 20, married at 30 x

JustHereForThePooStories · 03/12/2017 21:26

Met when I was 19, married when I was 25.

None of this makes a difference though, OP. People make stupid comments all the time. I recently had a family member tell me she was “relieved” when I met my DH as she was afraid I’d not “get” a husband. As I mentioned earlier, I was 19 meeting him.

People are weird.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 03/12/2017 21:28

Met future dh at 17, engaged at 17 and married on my 21st birthday

I am 48

shhhfastasleep · 03/12/2017 21:30
  1. Now in early fifties with a 10 year old dd. Dh is in mid forties.
LondonLassInTheCountry · 03/12/2017 21:32

Was in 10 year relationship. Wasnt engaged. But did live together.

Seperated. Single 2 years

Met someone, engaged after a year. At 34!

It will happen for you. You are lucky to have a home, a car and be good looking 😎

affectionincoldclimate · 03/12/2017 21:42

Married at 25 and divorced at 31 Grin
Currently happily unmarried with a partner and a baby

mrssapphirebright · 03/12/2017 21:45

Married at 18. Divorced at 19.

Married again at 21. Divorced at 35.

Married again at 35. Happily 7 years later still very happy.

You can make mistakes at any age. When you meet the one then you meet the one. Age is irrelevant.

mindutopia · 03/12/2017 21:48

I met my husband when I was 28. We got engaged/married when I was just turning 31. Honestly, it was just luck and being in the right place at the right time that we met. I had a horrible history with relationships and was pretty much ready to give up on ever meeting anyone who wasn’t an asshole. I had some bad career luck with some opportunities falling through and was just fed up with life. I decided I wanted a change and took a new position in another country on the other side of the world. I met my dh (who also had moved there for work) 2 months later and we’ve been together ever since. I think it really was just luck and the fact of being out of my comfort zone and my usual social circles that meant we met. At home, I probably never would have even met someone like him and I would have totally turned him down as he was very much not ‘my type’. I think just trying something so different was why I was open enough to meet someone new (and really right for me). Have faith. I do think it happens often when you stop looking.

MeadowHay · 03/12/2017 21:51

We met at 18 (same age), engaged at 19, married at 20. We are now 23 and I'm pregnant. But we are massively not the norm amongst our friends and family.

BelafonteRavenclaw · 03/12/2017 21:55

Met at 17, married at 25

DramaAlpaca · 03/12/2017 21:57

Met at 23, married at 26.

wonkylegs · 03/12/2017 22:00

26 but we met when I was 21
I was one of the earliest of people I know and have been attending friends weddings throughout my 30's and now 40 is looming very fast.
It's different for everyone there is no right time until the time is right.

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