My partner went out last night and is still not home!

[Georgie300]

My partner went out for a leaving do at 7pm and is still not home! I spoke to him at 1am and 2am when he said he was on his way home. He either hung up on me a 2am or his phone died and has been off ever since! We have been together 12 years and have 3 boys together the youngest of who is 4 months. We are very happy and get on really well but He used to do this every now and then in the early days and the late nights then turned into all night! This would always cause a massive arguement and it all came to a head a couple of years ago when he went ‘missing’ for 2 nights! I left him over it and he was so apologetic and agreed to all my conditions so we sorted things out and he hasn’t done it since... until last night.
I feel gutted but I know I have to act on it so it doesn’t all start again. Should I leave even tho it means dragging 3 kids with me? Or since he hasn’t done it in a long time am I overreacting? Not sure what to do 😩

charolais keep the home fires burning??? WT actual F? Is this 1950?
'Be a good, docile wife and don't screw up your kids. Stay with Coke Bender Dad.'

Slow clap.

hope he is back op. i know how this feels

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Women alcoholics do this and sometimes lose their children.
Ppl who binge drink and take serious drugs occasionally end up dead, more dangerous than someone drinking steadily.
aa for Him, alanon for you, alateen for the kids later

Any news op? This is bad if he’s missed big for 2 nights......

TheVanguardSix
charolais keep the home fires burning??? WT actual F? Is this 1950?

Oh! I read that and took it to mean make sure the home atmosphere is like a burning hell for the selfish b.

Been missing not missed big!!!!!!

Hoping for a successful outcome....

No flowerpot not at all. I am being hard on charlolais (?), I know, but that's just 'be a doormat' advice being offered by the poster.

I’m so sorry you are going through this op. I had an ex who did this, he wasn’t a very nice person in a lot of ways so perhaps different to you dh

The first time he didn’t come home and was uncontactable I rang every hospital in a 20mile radius, I was convinced something had happened to him and I was terrified. Of course he was just off his face with his mates and didn’t give a shit that I was worrying.

Hope you get a positive outcome xx

It's now 7pm. I would call the police.

Hope you're ok, op

Hope you're OK. Reading this brought back terrible memories. I couldn't take it and I left, with a baby. Nothing is worth putting up with that shit. Best of luck to you x

But she promised to come back and update us.

OP?

Perhaps she's managed to get some sleep. Hope things are OK.

The OP shouldn't ring the police unless she's sure harm has come to him. He has form for staying out and being uncontactable. He has a wallet with ID. He also has a phone. If the police have him I really he's in hospital he'll be identified. Don't be wasting limited resources.

Really hoping it’s not terrible news and that’s why you’ve not been back

I know he’s done this before, but him saying he was on his way back then suddenly disappearing is not sitting right with me and my Spidey senses at all....

Please update us if you’re reading this and feel good & ready OP X

Elephants Are you serious? If he isn’t home yet then he is missing!!! In which case, every minute counts!

Op, if you feel there is something wrong in your gut, then phone the police. Do not let posters on here tell you you are wasting police resources.

I hope you have heard from him and that you have peace of mind tonight for yourself and your boys.

Hope he's surfaced now OP.

Protecting... Yes, I'm serious as the reason he isn't home yet is more than likely because he is pissed/drugged and /or wants to put off the bollocking he thinks he'll get.

Obviously if the OP is worried enough to call the police she'll be ringing them herself and nobody saying do/don't do something won't affect her. She can make her own choices.

Hope you're OK OP xxx