Dior - he tried looking for casual work initially, but the agencies he joined came up with nothing & then his jobseekers allowance claim was lost - and he quite suddenly dropped into a depression at New Year. He's been lucky that he worked pretty steadily the last four or five years, so this has been a new experience for both of us, and bad timing, since we now have a mortgage to worry about. The feeling that he's not been able to contribute much financially has been part of it (though he found enough money to keep buying the vino ). He always has drunk a fair bit - it's been part of his acting culture & he admits he increased drinking after he gave up smoking some years ago. But it was never an issue till now. Maybe he always got through 2 bottles a night - I didn't notice as we weren't living together. I can put a fair bit away myself, on occasion, but I've found myself drinking less now that he drinks more.
At least he's been coming to bed a bit earlier, we've been communicating better, and we've had some nice times - a trip to the V&A museum for their late night opening last Friday was wonderful, listening to free music at a country music festival on Saturday (50 people in cowboy hats in a soaking wet marquee, with a band playing washboards - not my idea of music, but it was a laugh). He's going to be working steadily from now until December, but I'm already dreading a repetition if he doesn't get any work after Christmas ......Actually, if it does happen again, I shall have to try giving him a kick up the backside to either sort himself out with some ADs or find SOME kind of work, before the depression takes hold. He knows I love him, so it's up to him (though on Saturday night, he said that, when he came back from working in Germany last year, he felt it wasn't his home - we'd only lived in the house 3 weeks before his going on tour - and that I loved my dd and even the cats more then I loved him! (actually, the cats have sometimes been better company !)
Glad your H managed to produce Sunday lunch AND do the hoovering. Must be something in the air - so did mine! It shows he IS capable of effort - if only to impress his father & step-mother!