An update on my 'To top off my crap year...' thread

[October]

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P made the decision in the end for us - but he had to, as i couldnt throw him out. But I think I did goad him into it.

Once he thought it was his decision, it seemed easier for it to be amicable in a strange way.

That wouldnt work for everyone. But I suppose I was lucky in that the relationship was just fizzling out, it didnt come crashing down like some.

i think he uses your relationship and the fact he could end it, as a way of keeping you in libe

he's probably a big ball of scared insecurites, which manifests itself in controlling and cold behaviour

he knows he has a good thing, is worried others covet you, and instead of being flattered, he thinks the way to keep you is by making you feel worthless

Maybe he thinks you need him, and you couldnt cope on your own?

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i dont think he is evil dior, it's just him, i dont think he actively plans ways of making you feel small and shit, it's just all he knows

and he wont make the effort to do something about it

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i wonder if he has tried tho so he can say he has and you havent responded

another way of saying look shes acting like ababy

Agree. P can be controlling, but its not in a power mad kind of way, more a my life is easier if everyones doing what I like sort of way.

Youve never made your h sound like a nasty man, he's probably as scared as you, but cant deal with it like you do.

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am off to bed too, had a tough day here

i'll catch you tomorrow dior x

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oh dear

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i will be on msn later for a bit if you need some moral support

text me if you need me

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onwards and upwards eh?

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Thats sad. I suppose we were like that as well for a while.

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