Hi Dior, how's you? It's good that you've organised lots of girls nights - though he'll probably throw a bit of a strop. It does sound like he's dependant on you but won't admit it - and that, really, is his problem that he won't face up to - hence saying everything is your fault; but the important thing is, do you REALLY want to go on like this the rest of your life. You know, you do deserve some real happiness that isn't dependant on him condescending to smile.
Any news of your next Relate appointment? I feel more and more that you and he aren't going to progress in any direction - either together or with considering separation - until you can discuss all this with a counsellor. It seems that you are just going round in circles and unable or afraid to find a way out.