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An update on my 'To top off my crap year...' thread

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October · 17/04/2007 14:40

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lou33 · 26/05/2007 15:31

well you know where i am if you need me

Dior · 29/05/2007 08:27

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Dior · 29/05/2007 08:28

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lou33 · 29/05/2007 09:54

can you not call relate and find out how long it will be?

Dior · 29/05/2007 09:59

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lou33 · 29/05/2007 11:03

burst into tears or something, see if it will speed things up

Dior · 29/05/2007 23:32

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Dior · 30/05/2007 12:59

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Dior · 31/05/2007 08:36

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Dior · 31/05/2007 08:51

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mylittlestar · 31/05/2007 09:18

Glad you managed to have a good night

I think in situations like this the smallest thing can be turned into a massive issue. It wouldn't have been the end of the world for him to get something out the freezer and cook it. But like you say, he probably didn't want you to go out and that was his excuse to have a go and not drop you off...

How were things this morning?

lou33 · 31/05/2007 10:45

i'm glad you still went and had fun

Dior · 31/05/2007 15:17

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lou33 · 31/05/2007 16:47

well maybe, but we all get to a point where we feel we have to start protecting ourselves emotionally, which is where you seem to be

Fubsy · 31/05/2007 17:32

Glad you had a good night out, Dior.

Did your H always expect you to behave like a 1950s housewife, or did it only start after your DS was born?

P and I always shared the housework, but since having DD, and more to the point working part time, he without discussion, decided that it was all my job, and that I ought to enjoy doing it. This was part of his "Im a REAL man, me" phase. Also includes wanting the car to look pristine and costing a fortune in car washes, and having to go to every possible pool night at the pub as LOYALTY to the TEAM is SO important. (LOL)

Im not in as bad a mood as I sound, Im just a bit cynical these days

Dior · 01/06/2007 14:50

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lou33 · 01/06/2007 16:20

omg dior what is he like!

Dior · 01/06/2007 19:59

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Fubsy · 01/06/2007 22:32

He had the cheek to moan about a card when you brought him all of that? It was a planned op anyway FFS, not a bloody heart attack!

I spent a week in Hosp with a broken ankle and P didnt bring me a card, didnt bother me.

(That was the most restful week Ive had since giving birth - I read 5 books, lost weight because the food was so crap, it was almost worth the pain!)

Dior · 01/06/2007 23:54

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lou33 · 02/06/2007 14:22

a nob indeed

Dior · 02/06/2007 14:23

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Dior · 02/06/2007 14:24

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lou33 · 02/06/2007 14:26

relate will help you cope with the split if that is what you decide to do

i'm ok i guess, i miss him terribly, but there isnt anything i can do, or to be gained by sitting about feeling miserable

Dior · 02/06/2007 14:27

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