An update on my 'To top off my crap year...' thread

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I have actually had a nice weekend with h .We went out for a curry buffet lunch while ds was at a party and I actually told him about my colleague. Well, the fact that he offered sex and I refused! It was during a conversation about his general flirtiness (colleague's) and he (h) asked if colleague had flirted with me. So I told him!

He seemed disbelieving at first, and asked a few questions. He then seemed a little disgruntled but not with me.

Lou - will read your link...

Oh yes, saw that. Will email you. Sorry you lost your phone - what a pain. Nice friend though

Good call Dior good to let him know you are attractive to others

Yes, I was surprised that he wasn't annoyed with me...guilty conscience maybe...not that I actually did anything in the end. God, I'm so glad I didn't.

yeh i know, am really mad with him actually

put your number in the email please

I'm more cross that he didn't believe it at first. I commented that G had not flirted with all women, only the more attractive ones and he said, 'So you were safe then...'

maybe your h will suddenly realise how lucky he is now

see my last post Lou!

oh man

It was a 'joke' - pmsl (not)

He did make some comment under his breath about not believing it. I asked what he said and he said, 'nothing'. Then he asked a few questions but nothing too deep. I think he prefers not to believe it TBH. Well, he does believe it, but if he asks too many questions, he might be faced with knowing that I could have had someone else and he prefers to pretend that is not the case.

Having said that, we have had a laugh this weekend which has been nice. No affection still, but laughing is good too.

laughing is good

glad you managed to have a laugh this weekend, it really helps doesn't it.

as for his reaction to you telling him about G, i'd say he's jealous and that's the top and bottom of it.

xx

Good move Dior, I think youve upped the stakes a bit there!

anyway I've seen your picture and you rally are mega gorgeous so he's def talking out his behind. He H makes similarly hilarious jokes. And I'm not good on false praise either so you can rest assured thos are genuine words from me.

i've been telling her that for bloody years, she really is an extremely attractive woman

Thanks That is a skinny picture though. I will ask h to take a current one . My face is still ok, but I look like a heifer . Back to WW tomorrow.

When I parked at work today, one of the solicitors from the office next door (we share a car park) smiled at me . I smiled back too...tart!

How terrible, smiling at someone

lol at least you get it from men, i got hit on by a very masculine lesbian on friday!

and I get hit on by nobody. sob

awwww

funnily enough i was at traffic lights just now coming back from sainsburys, and a car drew up alongside me, the man inside blew me a kiss!

i chuckled and drove off

one more slight hijack, i mentioned further down about an email i received which made me mad

he just emailed back saying it was supposed to be a joke and he apologised

Hi Dior,

Hernia op on 1 June, Yep, spooky! Hope your H feels better sooner than my dp - he's doing a one day corporate roleplaying job today but is still bleeding (a nurse friend reassured me that this is normal as they are no longer kept on a drain for days but it's a bit yuck). Also, they get TERRIBLE bruising Down There - won't go into gory details but I said to dp it's still nothing in comparison with having a baby . If you need to compare notes with me, do feel free to email.

Glad you had a laugh this weekend - laughing IS good - it's companionable - but get some 'affection' in before the hernia op as there won't be any for weeks afterwards!

I have found that dp has been VERY loving towards me since the op - keeps saying how lucky he is to have me in his life - bit of a change from that ghastly weekend when he wanted us to seperate and I collapsed on your support on MN! I guess it's cos he feels physically very vulnerable at present, and stir crazy because he's stuck indoors waiting for me to get home from work - hope it works that way for you too - every cloud has a silver lining ...

What did H mean by saying you were 'safe' from G's attentions?? Hope he WAS joking - but at least it's put the thought in his mind, perhaps, that you ARE attractive to other men.

Your sewing skills look great - you are very talented - I've completed one square of my quilting over the weekend, thanks to the rain keeping me in. Watched a whole 3+ hours of Madame Bovary from the BBC production whilst doing it, so feel very cultured. Only 11 more squares to go. Sometimes wish I didn't insist on quilting by hand as it takes so long, but I like the look of it.

Hope you're having a good day at work. Take care x

By the way, you said you're size 14/16 - isn't that the British average these days? I'm about the same (depending on which shop I use - even a size 12 at M& S ) - but I guess if you've been an 8, you do feel huge - I've never been an 8, but in the 1980s I was a 10/12 - which judging by the old clothes I've kept, was somewhat smaller than 10/12 is currently, as my size 10 daughter can't fit into them!

Yes Tanee - sizes have become roomier in the last 10 years - judging by my old work clothes!

Well, G actually initiated a conversation with me today. H, ds and I always park at our gp's surgery at the weekend, as it is free, and we have to walk past where G lives to get into town. Every time we park there, I try to be very jolly and laugh-y with h and ds, in case I see G. Today, he said to me, 'You walked past my house on Saturday didn't you?'

I sort of looked a bit confused and said '...did I?' and he mentioned the name of his road. I deserve an oscar as I pretended that I had no idea where he lived - as if I had forgotten because he wasn't important enough to remember! I asked if he had seen me because I was shouting at ds, and laughed. He saids no, he heard my voice, and that I had walked back the other way later! His lounge fronts onto the road apparently!

I know it sounds as if I am reading a lot into it, but he was obviously looking out for me to go the back that way and I feel as if I now have the upper hand. I acted all light-hearted and innocent, and he actually didn't have to mention it at all did he?

you still like him dont you?