If this happened to you, what would your DH/DP do?

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Let’s say you were about an hour away from home.
With a DD, having a day out at the seaside.
I have a known allergy and carry epi pens.
I went to a cafe with DD, asked about the food, ordered etc. Minutes later after a first mouthful I’m struggling for breath and it’s very obvious it’s anaphylactic shock.
DD is 7, tells a grown up they do the epi pen and n ambulance is called.

The nurse at the hospital calls home to say don’t panic but this has happened and it was a close call but it’s all under control.

Your DH.... what is their response to that call?

He left your 7yr old at the hospital with you for 9 hours?

He's an utter prick.

It was the "well we have a drill, you just had expectations" tone that sound blaming to me. Sorry I misread you though

But even in that case, the moment a kid's involved, would your partner just assume he's waiting on you personally to get in touch?

It’s alright. We’ve done so many hospitals over the years that yes either one of us would wait until personally summoned. I would have rang him myself and told him to come pick the bairn up in my own personal experience.

Still my situation is entirely different, hospitals don’t put us in panic stations anymore.

I think it would depend on what he was doing at the time. If he was at home doing nothing he'd come to make sure I was alright and would take the child home. If he was at work he'd try to get away and come but it's not always possible. He'd call me or the hospital as soon as he could though and try to arrange for me and the child to get home safely.

Whatever about collecting you, leaving a 7 year old at a hospital for 9 hours is outrageous.

Sorry but he is a total moron.

He would definitely collect the kid. Even if I was under control. That is hideous behaviour.

He hasn't even come to collect your daughter let alone you?!

What a bastard!!

Hope you're feeling better and your daughter, what an absolute star she is! X

Mine would come ASAP, as would I if it were him.

I’d find it unforgivable if he didn’t to be honest.

My ex would have probably done the same as your "D"H. One of the reasons he is an ex. I twice had to run DS1 to hospital with febrile convulsions, he stayed at home and read the paper/ watched the football. He failed to ask me the results of a mamogram, and didn't come with me when I miscarried or had a D&C. Its says a lot.

Hope you are ok.

Hope are ok now . Anaphylaxis makes you feel awful ,have had several, and there is no way I would have been able to get a train home the same night.
Your husband needs to realise that you and your daughter needed him there. What a selfish git !!

I had a not dissimilar situation with my stbxh. I'm sorry.

How foyoufeelabout it?

Inexcusable.

9 hours in hospital, with your 7 year old there waiting for you, and he sat on the couch?

I think my DH would be becoming an ex-DH.

Jesus. That’s atrocious OP. Truly. What a shitty thing to do.

Hope you’re both Ok. How clever is your DD?

Wow, mine drove to kent from nottinghamshire [and back halfway through the night] to pick me up after driving home the night before, and working all day before knowing when I was going to be ejected/released from the hospital.

I assume you are contemplating making him your ex husband pretty fucking soon?

If I was in your shoes and had a husband who did that, I’d be pretty confident he didn’t love me. You don’t sit watching Eastenders or whatever whilst someone you love is in hospital! Especially if you have transport/hospital reachable. Neither would you do that whilst your 7yr old is sat in hospital worrying!!!!!!!!

LTB LTB LTB LTB LYB LTB LTB LTB

His lack of action speaks volumes!!!!!

Holy shit.

I never say this OP. But LTB

Jesus.

As if you had to get the train. If he drives this is infuriating.

Hope your ok.

Your D.D sounds a sensible little trooper

He'd be there faster than you can say 'anaphylactic shock', and I know as I have gone into anaphylaxis before!

Your H is an arse, OP

My DH would come to the hospital. He would leave work, I'm certain of it. He certainly wouldn't let me get the train home.

God, that is disgusting of him OP

WTF? You had a 'close call', were kept in for 9 hours and had your 7 y/o DD with you - and he leaves you to it and you get the train home? Then when you get in he's asleep?

I wouldn't even try and talk this one out. I'd LTB.

Even setting aside the complete la k of care for you, I’m struggling to understand a father who left his 7 year old DD hanging around the hospital for 9 hours while her mother was treated while he sat on his arse at home.

I can imagine my (selfish arse of a) husband magnanimously telling me that I should get a taxi (rather than the bus) home when I was done. But he’d have been straight over in the car to pick up DS2 at least. So I’m struggling to understand quite how shit a husband and father he’d have to be to leave you and your DD to get in with it and then get the bus home.

What a horrible situation OP, how can he possibly explain it?

leaving your daughter with you in this condition for 9 hours... WTF

Where was your daughter when you were on a ward for nine hours??

If my dh did this to me id leave him.