Lollipop I posted early on your last thread but have just caught up after reading your whole previous thread tonight. I feel emotionally battered just reading what you have been through! You are honestly and amazing woman and Mummy! Your Mother must be so, so proud of you, of your grace, determination and relentless protection of your babies! Your children are very fortunate to have you fighting their corner!
I have a little boy with autism, as a result I have undertaken a great deal of research and partaken in many workshops and courses regarding behaviour. One of the most reassuring things I learned, was that when my ds was lashing out at home, whilst it is incredibly upsetting, it is actually a sign that my child feels completely secure in our relationship/ bond and that he knew that no matter what he says or how he acts, I will never abandon him or love him less because of the bad behaviour. I realised that the outbursts that he saved for me, were actually an outlet for the emotions/ distress from elsewhere (in my case school). Your ds when he lashes out is projecting his feelings, that he is too frightened to express to his Father! I found it easier to bear the outbursts when I realised this! I hope that this may help you!
I am very excited for you to have reached full term and be in the last run of pregnancy. I pray that the court will agree with your request for adjournment and that you can look forward to your beautiful baby boy arriving after what has been an incredibly difficult pregnancy! Hopefully the court will respect your Doctors advice on a 6-8 WK at least adjournment, so that you can enjoy your new baby and bond as a new family of four!
Have you asked the police what will happen if your ex tries to enforce visitation at hospital? Or if he tries to follow you home/ is waiting for you outside hospital/ your Mums when you are bringing your ds home? I hate having to ask a negative question on such a positive start to the thread! I just fear that he will escalate when you are vulnerable and just delivered of your baby boy (he is a complete sociopath and will not take kindly to not being allowed access to your ds). I would also be concerned about flying monkeys in the form of relatives/ friends of his showing up at hospital demanding/ pleading with you to allow your ex access. I really hope that I am wrong!
I'm sending so much love and unmumsnetty hugs to you and prayers for a safe delivery and a hassle (ex) free babymoon xxx