Battling on!

[lollipop7]

So I'm starting a new thread following on from 0I don't know what to do" as we're almost full.
Blimey! How did that happen!

Seems lots of you are rather ruddy marvellous and want to keep going on this journey with me so I'm opening a new chapter.
Will be back with a proper update later 💐

@HazelBite we have phoned every day for almost two weeks. Nothing.
Still no sign of anything and I’m going into hospital on Saturday.

I’ve sent all my application for stay of arrangements papers over as a precaution should they turn up.

Has he been in touch this week @lollipop7 ? Any harassment or has he dropped off the face of the earth?
I can’t believe the court hasn’t sent the order. I don’t know how long these things usually take, but considering this is all time sensitive you would think they’d pull their finger out.

Flipping heck Lollipop, just been catching up with the original thread. You are a legend!!! I am in awe of you! Hope your little DCs have settled down a little? And hope vile ex leaves you in peace. Good luck with new little one, I will be checking this thread religiously!

It can take weeks, sometimes months, to get the court to seal the order.

In this case as the Judge decided to draft the order himself, God alone knows when it will get done. No doubt he set out with good intentions, but judges have many calls on their time, and ever-decreasing clerical support.

You can thank the Tories for that.

So no sign of either the court order or my Barrister's note of attendance.

CAFCASS called today and it transpires that the Judge received their safeguarding letter but has not shared with either Party. They said I could appeal / ask for disclosure.

In any event it's the end of the line for me Court wise before baby lollipop.

I've submitted my papers in support of adjournment with GP letter. I've done the same with preparing for a stay of arrangements and it's all with them should the paperwork miraculously appear tomorrow. Otherwise it will be another impasse as the Court confirmed today the order wasn't present in the ones that have been written. And in that case this will be communicated to the other side.

And I did that letter too @MrsBertBibby. Thanks x

That's as much as I can do.

I have to stop fighting now and think about the baby. For his sake and for my sanity.

Just hope that things remain calm and he doesn't do anything stupid.

So I'm finally packing my hospital bags tomorrow and eating vindaloo, a dozen pineapples (and anything else apart from sex) to try and get this little monkey out before a third imduction 😉

You are so inspiring lollipop. I’m genuinely in awe of how well you have handled yourself. All the best for tomorrow- fingers crossed x

Hope all goes well Lollipop.

Eek baby Lollipop!!!

Well done @lollipop7, get your priorities right, baby first! Good luck x

Wishing you all the best for the arrival of your new little one.

thanks everyone it's really lovely of you.
I am going in before the induction for monitoring some point over the weekend more than anything. Induction will be first thing Monday
I've just had to make a decision in my head that I can't keep struggling all the time with this awful stuff.
I need to metaphorically clear the decks and get my head ready for baby lollipop coming.

I'll keep you posted if anything happens tomorrow and of course when he is here.
😘💐😊

Remember to pack your ear plugs and eye mask so you can get some kip in the hospital!

Good luck with baby Lolli. Hope all goes well and you get to have new born snuggles very soon!!

Ohh! Baby is almost here!! Congratulations, Lolli! You've done all you possibly can for right now, so focus on yourself and the new little love.

We're here supporting you!

good luck from a longtime lurker,

Thanks everyone.

It’s such a strange evening. I’ve done all I can with the police, the legal stuff, Children’s Services. No stone left unturned no words unwritten. Twiddling my thumbs a little.

These last four months have tested me in ways I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. Well on him but nobody else.

I have spent hardly any days relaxing and thinking about this poor little baby. I barely think about him at all, though I love him desperately and so hope he makes it into the world unscathed and I do too. I’m terrified at leaving my little ones and never coming back home to them. The responsibility is crushing.

I hope that when this baby and his siblings are older I can sit with them and look back on this week to come as when I saw the start of a new life for us all together as a little team. That his birth brought a new chapter, hope and resilience as well as ushering in some luck in keeping in us together and free of the man that I didn’t really know at all, that never truly loved us. That little baby lollipop was our precious talisman.

The alternative is too much to take so I have to keep plodding on and putting my faith in us.

Your little lollipop and dc’s are incredibly lucky to have such a fabulous mum! Don’t you ever for a second forget that.
I am in awe of you.
Sending positive vibes for a straightforward birth

You're an inspiration, Lollipop. Your children are so lucky to have you.

Hope you are getting a bit of R&R now?

Good luck!

Also loving the title thread!

I'm following quietly rooting for you.
You're amazing. Hope you can now take some time to rest

Thinking of you and baby Lollipop this weekend.

Mentally trying to put it all to one side is sensible.

Wishing you all the very best and looking forward reading that baby is here safely.

More legal disasters
Solicitor is refusing to lodge my application for stay of arrangements. Clearly they know it makes them look crap so they won’t despite agreeing to
They’re now also telling me that even if the Court Order and Note of Attendance I have to allow Contact this weekend regardless.

Just again all this work for nothing and at the end of the road.

Shouldn't they just be doing as you ask?
Not sure how it all works but surely they can't just refuse.
Can you switch solicitors this late in the day?

I thought you had a new one now ?