All he told me was Contact was fortnightly by his parents and that was the best I could hope for. I’ve never denied I knew that, it was the details surrounding it that nobody knew, I was told would be within the actual Order. That’s all I knew. That’s why I’ve said I didn’t know whether all those threats and emails last week continued a breach, that’s why I was trying to get the note of attendance and Court Order. I felt so ill and pressurised it was a bit of a blur. In effect I suppose I agreed duress essentially and have been saying this since October 12th but my solicitor just wants to cover his arse and deny it all. They’re a nest of vipers who can’t be bothered to do the right thing by me. Frankly it’s utterly contemptuous.
If he hadn’t breached the order already so many times I had resigned myself to allowing contact or being in breach myself as of tomorrow if I refused, though there’s been no word from him so was in limbo. If that clause wasn’t in it certainly was the case. The lack of an enforcement order from the other side suggested to me that as of today I have not breached a thing otherwise it would have been served on me. My solicitors confirmed in writing yesterday that the other side haven’t served anything.
I said I wanted a contact centre I wasn’t happy. I said this to him and CAFCASS but no there was none of that. It was made abundantly clear my time and money had run out and that was the judge’s decision.. I feel as though my condition and fears were just either exploited or ignored, by everyone including those who were supposed to protect me. I truly can’t recall every word that was said and like you thought it should have been adjourned.
I know my solicitor didn’t give him all the emails and evidence. He did show the judge the Skype videos and that put a stop to that but that’s about it. I haven’t seen the brief of instruction so I shall request that.
He cast a cursory glance over my evidence, but it is clear from the Order he didn’t raise the repeated breaches of contact.
This is why they refused yesterday to apply for my stay of arrangements / variation application based on the fact my evidence and proven specific instruction on email dating from the 9th October regarding my wishes around no direct contact implicated them, and cast my solicitor and my barrister in a dim light. They started shitting themselves at that point and indeed the entire firm of Solicitors shut down and didn’t return any of my calls or emails. Reading the Court Order it is clear for the wording they failed to prepare and prepared to fail. They just wanted to get in and out twice. My ex’s solicitor denied he’d breached contact the Counsel didn’t serve the evidence that I gave them that he had. Until today I had no idea.
It’s not just the two of them CAFCASS saw me in a total state sobbing about his threats and his treatment of the children and she walked back in there and said there was no risk of emotional harm.
This is why I’m having to complain to CAFCASS.
It is a bloody shambles.
Apparently my having to agree in tears on a hospital monitor and in a conferencing room because my barrister told me that was the best I could get is my agreeing. Despite me reminding my solicitor about the harassment warning in place. I’ve spent every day since October 12th fighting that supposition but they won’t hold their hands up and prefer to collude, stitching me up like a kipper which I why I have to comply.
Unfortunately for them I have a paper trail and emails for all of this which will be sent to my new solicitors.
This is why I need a new solicitor to go right back to when the failure to adjourn and represent occurred on the 12th because it all flows from there and my solicitors have shut down on me. The letter from my solicitor confirming that he has not seen the order or the note as of yesterday also confirms that the lack of communication between them regarding this bloody list of allegations
It’s good news that due his conduct he has to bring it back to court again. I didn’t know that. I’m trying to learn how to be a solicitor and all these procedures are all whizzing around my head.
In terms of next steps i suppose I need to consider whether these idiots can be trusted to apply for my adjournment and properly this time and sort out communicating the breach to the other side or I need to just cut ties now and hope that instructing a new solicitor can wait until after I’ve had the baby.
My instinct was to get them to do those two relatively simple things (even for them) then terminate when I get out of hospital, lodge the complaint etc.
Time really isn’t on my side.