30 days no contact - Thread no 2

[Mumanddadtoone]

As the last thread is almost full, thought I'd start a new one.

This is for all of us who are trying to do at least 30 days without contact with an ex.
So whatever your reasons for instigating no contact please feel free to join in and we can all support each other.

Itsjustmarley I did the same before I went NC. A long email telling him exactly what I wanted to say. He sent I tiny text back saying I deserved better. He was right

Argh back to the beginning for me. He's been messaging me tonight and I couldn't ignore it as we have to work together, but I didn't rush to respond to any message (took over an hour each time.) I now have to see him Friday and Saturday for work. I need to put a plan in place to get someone to take over what I do so I don't have to see him for these 1 on 1 work things any more. He knows what he's doing so well to hook me in, and I fall for it every time. I do believe he liked me initially, a lot, but when he got to know me and realised I was older, had kids and had come out of a long term relationship etc he backed off.
Can't wait to get to your stage Aminuts when I'm not checking things so much. I have to say 10 days of NC has helped, but it's all going back to the start again now. I keep thinking about the day when he doesn't pop into my head for a full 24 hours...that will be a great day.

I’m having burgers, chips and beans for tea. I’m very excited about this. Enjoying my dd free night although I miss her madly.

Aminuts - day 28 you are doing so well!

Awww Liza glad you are enjoying your night, although yes I know it's tough without your dd. But sometimes it's good to have a bit of me time. I'm going to be child free the rest of the week and aside from work and seeing this idiot of a guy I'm trying to get over, I have no plans. So trying to think how to keep myself busy this week so I don't overthink things.

Oh and do you guys have people in 'real life' to talk to about this?

My one friend who is going through something similar basically ignores me when I message her about my situation, but then an hour or two later will message me back about her situation...it's really annoying me as I've been there for her so much and try not to talk about my issues too much but when I do she just doesn't care. Ugh!

Hi girls. So I cracked. Decided to call him. Just gone long silences and didn’t hear anything I wanted to. Such a mug. Turning my phone off for a week as I just need to leave him alone and move on. He doesn’t deserve me otherwise he would have fighted in the beginning and not letting me do it all. Will catch up in a week. Good luck girls. I’m thinking of all of you x

Oh dolly big hugs and don't worry about it all, can you block him for the week so you don't have to turn your phone off? hugs xx

meowimacat- I feel like I just need time off my phone. Otherwise I’ll be all over social media and checking his whatsapp and looking at photos. I’m seeing it as a phone detox. Will hopefully be able to come on here at work on the computer though. Just so sad. Men really can be bastards some times and always seems like they come away from everything perfectly and we’re so emotional

Meowimacat I've spoke to my mom and sister about it and they're really good at listening. Talking out loud to them makes me realise what a loser he is! I mean he wants to see me and still be seeing other girls and doesn't think he should have to tell me!?? Errr I think it'd be a good thing to know.

Don't worry Dolly I caved today and called, didn't get what I wanted to here so I sent my last message with how I felt about everything. I'd just block him for the week if I were you cuz you need your phone.

ITS SO HAAAAARD

N0Way would you like to share?

I posted a thread titled 'I'm in love with someone else'
I stopped talking to the man I love online and now I am broken. I'm just worried about him. I hope he is ok

Argh, I'm wandering around after the pub and am so tempted to go and walk past his flat. I really miss him. I hate this. Please confirm this is a terrible idea.

It's a terrible idea, Tuileries

Yes it is - what will it achieve?

Just make you feel worse

N0Way there is always the saying...go for the second man as you wouldn't have gone for him if you truly loved the first.

Tuileries noooo dont do it. You'll just start reminiscing on good times. It won't achieve anything

How is everyone this morning?

Good morning everyone!

So the phone is switched off and I am not planning on turning it back on till next Friday I know it might sound extreme but I know if I can do that then I can easily do 30 days. It will be 10 days if I stick to it. I have an old phone that uses wifi and have said to people to contact me on fb messenger if they need me.

Planning on making a list of everything that ex has done to me (cheating, etc) as I sometimes think I forget just how bad i've been treated. I said to him last night that I was going to give him his "space" and I am going to do just that!- maybe even more then he expected.

Also have booked a couple of days off work and am planning on going away with one of my girl friends. Possibly Malta.

Day 1 again and I am determined to complete it.

Hope everyone is positive today x

Morning all - good idea about the list - I have one on my desktop and might share some of it later.

I also keep a list of ‘guidelines’ in a notebook stating how I like to live and other statements about what I deserve iyswim.

The latest one I added was ‘ i know my worth’

It helps me to get clarity as I’ve found being with ex bf to be a total headfuck tbh

Maybe I should write the list on here...

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This is a good idea. I am going to write my list later today.

And good for you, dolly