30 days no contact - Thread no 2

[Mumanddadtoone]

As the last thread is almost full, thought I'd start a new one.

This is for all of us who are trying to do at least 30 days without contact with an ex.
So whatever your reasons for instigating no contact please feel free to join in and we can all support each other.

Hey everyone can I join? I’m 27 weeks pregnant,he left me when I was 8 weeks gone and has been leading me on ever since. I’m ashamed to say I let him take me back, throw me away, so on and so forth but now I’ve decided enough is enough. He won’t change for me, I’ve finally realised he won’t even change for the sake of his own health and sanity, let alone me or his son so we’re better off without him.

Out of the blue last night he messaged me saying to take my Mum to the rest of my appointments, he is going to court to see his son (he’s an abusive drug user so good luck with that) and I’m to move on.. he then blocked me.

Day 1 for me!

Hey everyone! I know it’s late and I’ve had far too much to drink. In an uber on my way home from a “quiet nice” that ended up in far too many. I hope everyone is being strong and knowing you are worth the world and more. Have my “meeting” with the ex tomorrow. Let’s see how that goes. I was so adamant that I wanted him back but after a single night out my mind has been swayed

to you all x

That’s awful shaan. It really does sound like you are better off without him.
My stbxh left me when I was just shy of 12 weeks pregnant. It broke my heart, for him to do that when I needed him most. After 4 months of separation and mind games, he realised he had made a mistake and I stupidly went back to him.
Fast forward almost 3 years and our dd is now 2 and a half, we’ve were married 11 months and he has done it again.
NC is difficult with dd. But since it all happened 4 weeks ago I haven’t been helping myself- I kept checking his fb and sending him messages I shouldn’t be. So I’ve deactivated my fb account and his mum is passing on messages about our dd. I only have to see him very briefly now on a Wednesday morning.
It’s difficult cos I’ve almost convinced myself he has met someone else so going NC will hopefully help these feelings to fade. I miss him like mad but our relationship was toxic. I know at the end of all this I will be a better, stronger person.
So it’s NC day 3 for me. Good luck with day 1!

Good luck Shaaan! Day 25 here! It does get easier!! Much better. Give yourself space and time x

Yes good luck with it Shaan. You can do it.

Day 13 for me - I don’t feel tempted to contact him but still find myself thinking about him a lot which is a waste of headspace.

It gets easier heart! I think I’m about there! No interest whatsoever in what he is doing! I was telling a good friend last night how he dumped me on holiday, saying to me we’d actually broken up with me a couple of weeks before (I just hadn’t realised mainly because he never told me) and we couldn’t stop laughing!!!! I’m 42 and hadn’t realised we weren’t together any more. What a dick he is!! Don’t know who he thinks he’s messing with really! Pathetic. I’m miffed that he treated me like that but soooo over the relationship! What a loser! I’m the one laughing

The nerve of him 😂😂

Well done ami - you really have done well. No contact really is the only way to get over somebody.

It really is userxx! It works. It’s hard at the beginning but I’m nearly at 30 days now. First weekend I’ve been genuinely not bothered by it. It feels fab to be honest. I can laugh about it now too which is a healthy sign I think

The feeling is priceless - just knowing you no longer give a toss. You've totally done it the right way, so many people dive into new relationships looking to fill the void.

Finding it tough today guys. Having to keep it together for my dd but I just can’t get him out of my head! Haven’t texted though. Just don’t feel like I’m ever going to stop thinking about him

Liza stay strong. Weekends are tough when you feel that way. Try to keep busy with your dd. Big hugs to you

Thanks Ami. Dd is keeping me distracted luckily and I feel so proud of myself for getting through the day. It’s just the thought of him getting on with his life and I don’t feel like he is finding things as difficult as me. They say men deal with break ups different I guess

Hi, I've been directed here from my own thread. My ex moved out today. I still love him very much but I had to end it for the sake of my sanity.

Day 1 for me. I did originally block him on FB after deleting but I felt that was a bit harsh so I've unblocked him. This is going to be an uphill struggle.

Hi Tuilerie it will be hard but all the posters on here will give you lots of support.

I’m now on day 14 and although I don’t feel the urge to contact him I’m constantly replaying stuff in my head and still wondering why he chose to be with someone who seems to be a complete low life.

But as I said to him that’s his choice. Although I value myself he clearly didn’t.

I think I read your thread but maybe you’d like to post about it here too

Ok, so I’m on day 4 NC but I may have gone on fb this morning
My sister has changed my password and deactivated it again so I won’t be tempted anymore. But I feel so proud that although it’s been really hard, I haven’t texted him at all. And Sunday is my worse day, so if I can get through today I’ll be really happy.

Morning everyone. So yesterday was weird. We met up and spoke about us but didn’t come to any conclusions as to what was happening. I was so adamant that I wanted to get back with him but after yesterday I’m not sure. I messaged him last night saying thanks for talking to me and I think we both need time to gather our thoughts and what we really want. He hasn’t replied.

I hope everyone is doing okay. Keep strong we can do it! Day 1 for me again..

I'm sorry to read that, Dolly. I know that feeling of waiting for a reply well.

Day 2 for me. I looked at his FB briefly (we're no longer friends on there) but that's all.

Tuileries welcome. Well done for going NC. It’s really tough in the early days but it does get better. It really does. Day 26 here. I never unfriended or blocked on FB. By the time I felt ready to do that I thought it would look a bit loony. Should have done it straight away. I’m much much better now and we will all get there

I thought about not unfriending him, but the last time I broke up with him I became a bit obsessive over it. I'd love to be one of those people who keep their exes on Facebook but I'm not strong enough not to get upset over it. Plus I'm afraid I'll see something I don't like. It's so difficult when you're still in love with someone

I just unfollowed mine. He used to make a big thing about his exes being friends with him like he must be a ‘top bloke’. Knobhead. I can still look at his FB if I choose to but frankly I don’t tend to bother any more. He’s an utter utter dick

I agree girls. I haven’t even bothered logging into mine since we broke up because I can’t bare to see something I don’t like. He messaged me back saying that he had a great time yesterday and that time was going to be our best friend x

Dolly do you see any future with him now?

I am not sure now. I was so convinced that this was it for me and that my future would be with him but the more we spoke yesterday the more I was thinking I deserve so much better and I didn’t want this to be my life. I still feel like I had so much to say but the opportunity never came up for me to say it. Contemplating texting him with everything I wanted to say yesterday and start my 30 NC tomorrow so I don’t feel like I have any need to speak to him x