Boyfriend is ridiculously tight with money

[NewBrian]

Would being this ‘careful’ with money be enough for you to get rid of a boyfriend? We’re both mid twenties, I’m ok financially (not a drain on him), he’s very sorted financially. Recent examples that have annoyed me.

1. Expecting us to sleep in a car after a day out in London save paying for a hotel.
2. Will only buy reduced food, even if doesn’t like it much.
3. Constantly reminding me I owed him £10 after he’d stayed at mine all week.
4. If we go out together we must split everything equally down to the penny.

This is someone that has tens of thousands in the bank and a good job! Seems to be a family trait, his dad is a LL, most of his properties are in London but he walks round in the same battered pair of shoes.

Absolutely leave him

Think about the future. A lovely wedding? No chance. Holidays? No way. Anything other than the bare essentials? Nope.

Fanny gallops

God that sounds dreadful

Fortunately you've found this out before your lives are legally or financially intertwined.

It's funny how tight gits like this aren't so keen to keep things "fair" or remember when it is debts they owe you.

Run for the hills.

My vagina would close back over faced with the behaviour of this boring twat

There's being sensible and then there's being tight. I couldn't bear that level of meanness and me and dh are quite frugal tbh. This is a whole other level

Anyfucker 😂😂

Having a baby is in the future. This bloke sounds like a nightmare right now! And why is he in charge ffs?

Gosh. That is fairly horrific to be honest. I think some women can be fairly odd when it comes to men and their money on this site but this is really really bad. Sleeping in a car? Fun on a long continental drive in the summer (seen it done all over europe and did it myself in a petrol station car park overlooking Monaco and the Med. Sunrise was spectacular) but in London. No. The £10 thing in a relationship in bad as it should be give and take. The splitting bills to me is fine early in a relationship but it should be loser later on. I do the reduced food thing a lot but that leaves more money for eating out or takeaways.

Have my first non-violent partner LTB.

But I'm not impressed by 1, 3 or 4 either. How is he otherwise? I fear your life would be miserable with him.

I would absolutely leave someone for this level of meanness.
I've a friend whose husband sounds similar. She had to go back to work after 5 months as she could t afford to stay off longer and seems to be expected to pay for everything for the child out of child benefits her own money- really depressing.

Anyfucker not mincing her words there

End it.

What is surprising, is that you got to a second date with him.

@ploppie4 any guy that suggests sleeping in a car after a day out in London to save on a few £££ doesn't sound like the type of guy that's going to sit down and have a rational chat imho.

Personally OP, if it were me I would be running as far away as possible. Surely at this stage of the relationship this is where he's supposed to be wooing you? Not moaning about a measly (to him by the sounds of it) £10 and suggesting sleeping in cars like teenagers. Yuk.. how utterly unromantic..

Thing is its absolutely true! My vag would actually shrivel and retreat like a crisp packet in a fire around a penny pincher like that. Depressing!!

I'm with anyfucker of the re-virginised vagina.

Run like the wind whilst throwing £50 notes behind you to distract the tosser

A five pence piece would probably do it

That would be a no from me.

I couldn't stand that.

I also find men who are tight with money, are selfish and crap in bed.

Does this apply with your man? @NewBrian

Just curious!

Jesus Christ. What a miser... I really couldn't be arsed with him. Just imagine trying to sort out a mortgage with him, or splitting household bills.

I'd dump him, you're going to have a miserable life with him.

Tight as arseholes AND shit in bed. What a catch!

I would've been put the door at the whole sleep in the car suggestion. Literally. I would have checked into a hotel alone and forgotten about the idiot.

The thing is, it's a sign of a compulsion, not success. People want to be well off so they can live a good standard of life and have security. This guy only buys reduced food and doesn't even enjoy it. A compulsion isn't good - it won't go away.

Awful. Have you been happy to go along with this so far?

You can't possibly inflict this person on your future dc or self.

Tell me you did not Sleep in the car...