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How do I make him notice me?

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Shayelle · 23/09/2017 07:18

There is a guy I walk past on my way to work in the mornings. Over the last 10 months I'm sure there has been eye contact and a flash of something between us. One of my friends said when we walked past he's looked at me a number of times. This week I plucked the courage to go up and buy something of his but he didn't make any conversation Sad
How do I make him notice me? I always make the effort with my clothes, make up and hair. He's gorgeous and maybe seems a bit shy. Help Smile

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namechanger2735 · 27/09/2017 10:04

Rk I think you have your own issues that aren't linked to this. Not nice to take it out on OP

SparklyMagpie · 27/09/2017 10:06

Haha you can PM me your picture if it'll stop you taking it out on OP?

namechanger2735 · 27/09/2017 10:07

What advice can someone give you on your face?

SparklyMagpie · 27/09/2017 10:12

If you think it's not about looks rk24 then why do you want opinions?

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 10:17

Make sure you say good picture or you may be called a pig... lol

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SparklyMagpie · 27/09/2017 10:18

GrinGrin

rK24 · 27/09/2017 10:18

Shayrelle i didnt meant to hijack, sorry

Onecutefox · 27/09/2017 10:19

Op, once you stop coming to the coffee shop he will notice you. Just walk past and buy coffee somewhere else. As a sales person he needs to attract people. One word here and one word there and he just sounds boring. It's good that you have decided not to waste your time on him. Imagine him as your boyfriend. No initiative whatsoever. Dishes unwashed, dirty socks on the floor, no help in the house. I can see it. Grin

Brahms3rdracket · 27/09/2017 10:21

I can't believe rk24 is now hijacking this thread because he's not getting the responses he feels he should be getting on his scary, entitled to sex by date 3 thread.

Sorry it didn't work out OP, he's probably attached but browsing or dull as dish water Flowers

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 10:21

Exactly!! The epitome of tedium!!

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 10:23

If there happen to be any tidbits to mention in the future ill be very sure to update you all!! Got a feeling there wont be though as don't think he was my cuppa tea (or coffee) after all!!

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averageguy1 · 27/09/2017 10:28

rk man to man , give it up and move on for everyone's sake ..

Ginorchoc · 27/09/2017 10:42

OP don't go in for a week or so and then go back and see if he looks happy to see you, distance makes the love stronger and all that jazz. Or just hand a napkin to him with a note and number (and run)

AnarchyKitty · 27/09/2017 10:42

Delurking on this thread to say how disappointed I am with your coffee seller.
Cluthching at straws here, could he be really really shy maybe? I know I clammed up and couldn't talk in the past when I've met someone I've really fancied .
I really wanted a happy ending for you.

ElBurroSinNombre · 27/09/2017 10:49

I don't think you should give up that easily. You don't know what is going on in his life, what has happened to him today or what he might be thinking. Just carry on buying the coffee, keep trying to chat and see what happens without building up too much expectation. He probably doesn't realise that you fancy him. You could just ask him out - after all how is he supposed to know what you are thinking? You are just one of several hundred people that he will speak to in an average day.

guilty100 · 27/09/2017 10:49

Seriously? All this is just over eye contact? Why haven't you tried talking to him? Just start up some random conversation each time you go in

  • "Oh my God, I can't stop staring at your brownies*. They look amazing, it's like I'm mesmerised. Do you make them?"
  • "I am soaked through! I totally forgot my umbrella!"
  • "I'm so hungover, I went to see the gig at X last night - they were amazing, but I really need a strong coffee this morning"

*This is not a euphemism, only say it if, you know, he actually has brownie cakes there. Otherwise it's weird.

Onecutefox · 27/09/2017 10:54

Or just hand a napkin to him with a note and number (and run)

A note should include the address of the new coffee shop.

guilty100 · 27/09/2017 10:57

Nooooo, don't hand him a napkin and your number! It's super-cheesy and you might get stuck on a reaaaallly boring date. See if he can respond to anything you say first, otherwise it's going to be a very one-sided conversation and you'll be cursing that you ever tried his orange mocha frappuccino.

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 11:10

Ha. Laughing at the thought of saying about the amazing brownies.... that arent actually there at all Grin That would be nice, a sectioning, rather than a drink!

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ElBurroSinNombre · 27/09/2017 11:13

As a man, I can say that most of us are not very good at taking hints. He probably doesn't know that you like him - you are just one of many people he sees occasionally in the course of his work. The tone of this thread seems to be that ' he's missed his chance' because he didn't engage in conversation when the O/P wanted to. I think you need to be a bit more direct if you are serious.

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 11:18

I've been there three times and haven't felt any vibe at all though, he doesn't actually seem that friendly which isn't much good for me..

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Ginorchoc · 27/09/2017 11:34

As I have no romance in my own life I'm very disappointed in you OP, I was hoping you'd make my week go quicker with tales of your own romance Grin

Ginorchoc · 27/09/2017 11:35

Napkin and number is a bit 90's I know but it'll at least be upfront and blunt 😂

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 11:42

It IS bloody disappointing isnt it, wish I had something really exciting to tell you!! You never know whats round the corner of course, maybe you might bump into someone who catches your eye... let me know if you do Grin

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 11:49

Im still gonna be walking past him a couple if times a day so you never know, stranger things have happened.

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