How do I make him notice me?

[Shayelle]

There is a guy I walk past on my way to work in the mornings. Over the last 10 months I'm sure there has been eye contact and a flash of something between us. One of my friends said when we walked past he's looked at me a number of times. This week I plucked the courage to go up and buy something of his but he didn't make any conversation
How do I make him notice me? I always make the effort with my clothes, make up and hair. He's gorgeous and maybe seems a bit shy. Help

A businessman you mean? Yes I would like to?

It's not vile and shallow to consider a person job. On that basis every arranged marriage is shallow. You could argue being attracted by looks is shallow.

Im shallow. Hes f'in gorgeous ha.

That does count for a lot!
Ask him out (but not for coffee!)

Thanks guys for the encouragement i will try!!

Haha. Nice one, OP
Nowt shallow about being attracted to a gorgeous human being. That's how we are wired to procreate...

maybe this is why ive spent so much of my life single. The nerves the nerrrves

Thanks sendintheArdeolves think this is what ive been worried about looking pushy or weird, as hes used to me walking past and we look at each other but i dont stop. All of a sudden this week ive stopped but he hasnt struck up a convo!!. I will give it another go on monday (jesus... scared lol)

Yay! Good luck OP! Come back and tell us what happens won't you!?!

Did you read the Green Eyed Gardener thread?

Just tell yourself that he is just someone selling you something and make friendly chat "how early do you get here" sort of thing. And go from there. You can do this!

Ill report back next week
Coffee for all you x

Men love attention, we all do. You have to give him some straight up flirty attention!

Enough to make him notice, and throw him a bone. If he likes you, he'll pick it up. If not, at least you know.

Like say, going up and smiling and talking about anything, how is your day going? I pass you on the way to work... pause...
or even a direct, Hi, it's really cold isn't it?

Give him an opening.

Ohhhh...please keep us posted! I'd love to hear how it goes on Monday!!

OP he probably didn't chat because he was struck dumb iykwim. We're so afraid of making dicks of ourselves by chatting inanely, so much so that we calm up.

Its difficult to chat easily with the object of our affections in the first instance or maybe that's just me

I honestly think he was a bit surprised!! I tried twice this week. Once with my pal (she forced me haha!) who said he was definitely checking me out ..he had a big queue that time so we stood there in line and i thought he kept looking.. she said so too. The second time I tried was yesterday and i went on my own and his colleague was there and served me and i was all disappointed as he didnt try and talk to me and thought ill just give up... but today I feel like I want to try again!! Im a realist and not one to imagine things Im sure there has definitely been a lot of eye contact since i started going en route past him!! He just seems shy and no arrogance at all despite being bloody amazing looking.

Thank you memememe yes exactly i havent felt like i could just bowl up and be friendly im outgoung generally and confident but when it comes to guts im all different. Very shy

Guys not guts.

I would mention how lovely the coffee is/where it's from/how it's made or something and start up chatting that way

You need to buy coffee more often, why not do it every day then it will be easier to strike up a conversation.

I wouldn't pass him a card just yet either. If he liked you I think he would have made more of an effort to talk to you.

Yes, you need to buy more coffee. Smile and try to speak, more than just order and say thanks. It will get easier when he responds. Make small talk, ask him if he drinks coffee and then say something along the lines of "do you drink anything other than coffee" and follow it up with something like "I'd love to go out for a drink, but I'm single and need a partner in crime" in fact say anything that lets him know, that you are letting him know you are single and interested.

Must make make getting up and going to work easier when you're looking forward to seeing him.
Keep going, maybe after a while don't buy your usual coffee so gives him an opening to strike up conversation about you having sonething different. Or you could ask for a recommendation and mention how you look forward to his great coffee smile even morning.

What an enchanting thread - apart from the "do you want to date a coffee seller" comment. Will watch with interest. Good luck, Shayelle!

Haha yeah i wake up and remember im going to walk past him and I sort of look forward to it and get up all enthusiastically!! Never have I been so sprightly in the mornings we start same time (8am) and finish same time so walk back past him on way back to the station. I just want to make an idiot of myself is all. Promise I'll go and buy a coffee off him first thing Monday morning and I'll make some conversation. I'll report back

Third time lucky perhaps. Im hoping it will be 1:1 on monday as it will be easier to try and be friendly when theres noone else around just me and him. God im having palpatations at the thought!! My god I'm lame.. haha.

Ahh thanks Annelind that is lovely of you! Hugs