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How do I make him notice me?

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Shayelle · 23/09/2017 07:18

There is a guy I walk past on my way to work in the mornings. Over the last 10 months I'm sure there has been eye contact and a flash of something between us. One of my friends said when we walked past he's looked at me a number of times. This week I plucked the courage to go up and buy something of his but he didn't make any conversation Sad
How do I make him notice me? I always make the effort with my clothes, make up and hair. He's gorgeous and maybe seems a bit shy. Help Smile

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BackInTheRoom · 26/09/2017 17:12

I'm so following this thread OP! I love romance! 👍

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Shayelle · 26/09/2017 17:22

Thank you dazedandconfused, GreenFingers and Bibbidi! Really hope I have something interesting to say tomorrow!

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Onecutefox · 26/09/2017 17:36

Good luck Op! Tell him tomorrow they make a really nice coffee and that's it. Well, thank you or see you tomorrow (Thursday). Then don't come on Thursday but on Friday instead. This will keep him intrigued. On Friday you could thank him for the lovely coffee and wish him and very nice weekend.
It will get easier ;)

ConorMcGregorsChin · 27/09/2017 08:08

Hoping for a nice update this morning...

namechanger2735 · 27/09/2017 08:32

"Can I have some sugar"
"What?"
"For my coffee. See you later;)"
I'm writing a book in my head

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 08:33

Hey all thanks so much for all your lovely messages. Sadly its a crap update... he was there on his own, perfect oppotunity. Walked up and he hadnt seen me and was just about to go off and have a ciggy but i said Hi, he turned back and made me the coffee... no conversation whatsoever, he def recognised me though. Not gonna try and force anything so giving up on that one now, weird though as he does def check me out when he sees me. Not even a 'how are you' as I was standing there! Don't think this ones ever go any further.... if there are any updates in the future ill let you know if course. Thanks for all being so lovely anyway xx have a good day everyone! Brew

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LoyaltyAndLobster · 27/09/2017 08:56
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splendidisolation · 27/09/2017 09:02

Hes either taken so looking but not acting or very shy...one of those possibilities gives hope!

Seeing as you have not much to lose I would slip him my number if i were you

namechanger2735 · 27/09/2017 09:09

I would abort mission. Sounds like a bit of a div. and be seen walking past him with a coffee from somewhere else

rK24 · 27/09/2017 09:09

You seem to be going for him on looks only.

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 09:12

Ahh thanks lovelies!! To be honest if hes good looking but boring with zero banter or cheek, id be bored within a week!! I like people with a bit of personality! Or at least say freaking HELLO. Three times I went now, so mission's been scrapped! He was lucky I even went three times Grin

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Valentine2 · 27/09/2017 09:12

Just ask him out! Don't get yourself tangled in all sorts of possible scenarios, all in your head. Just ask him out or slip your number.

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 09:13

So rk24 what initially attracts you to a person? Obviously looks are what you first notice in a person unless you're literally blind?

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 09:13

Nope, not trying anymore if he cant even say hi hiw are you thats me done! Cheers tho everyone x

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LoyaltyAndLobster · 27/09/2017 09:23

Obviously looks are what you first notice in a person unless you're literally blind?

Agreed! I couldn't settle with someone who
was lacking in the looks department...

And those who say "they don't care about looks" are obviously those who have no choice.

LoyaltyAndLobster · 27/09/2017 09:23

@Shayelle - Don't take it personal, like I said before he probably already has someone.

namechanger2735 · 27/09/2017 09:24

Buy a muffin from him, say you got food poisoning, sue him and take all his money. When he states his defence in court stand up and shout "SO YOU DO TALK" throw a coffee cup at him and make him regret ever ignoring you.

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 09:31

Least I did try, next time will be more confident Smile

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Onecutefox · 27/09/2017 09:41

Do you think he may have noticed you come to buy coffee because of him?
Anyway he is looser.

rK24 · 27/09/2017 09:44

It used to be how a woman looks, but over the past few years i have realised that women are not initially attracted to me for how i look.

So now i will talk to and date any women at all who is looking to date. It seems clear to me that you openly chose this coffee shop guy purely on how he looks and you may have bypassed another man who may have been more suitable.

peanut2017 · 27/09/2017 09:47

Good for you for trying but onto the next as while you are looking at him there could be other guys checking you out that you are missing out on! He's not worth it like you said you want someone with a bit of chat and banter and doesn't look like he will give that to you!

Thanks for keeping me entertained and hope you meet your man Smile

splendidisolation · 27/09/2017 09:47

Rk24 errr OK so you realised you had to lower your standards so want the OP to do the same?

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Shayelle · 27/09/2017 09:56

Yeah perhaps he thought I only went to buy a coffee in order to chat, well I wont go again, to be fair yeah he did catch my eye and yep call it shallow he seemed good looking and cool which is why I was interested! Any guys Ive dated in the past its started with looks and attraction then got to know them and personality is what made it grow. Obvs this ones a non starter as though the looks are there, anything more isnt happening as he didnt even say good morning or what have you. I do think it takes looks for a bit of chemistry then you go from there. I dont meet a lot of men I fancy to be fair so its a bit few and far between but I'm not that bothered. I'm not looking for a man or a relationship, much prefer to let life do its thing and if someone crosses my path then all cool!

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rK24 · 27/09/2017 10:03

Can i Pm someone my photo, as i get no matches on Tinder and Bumble :((

Need opinions. :(

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