Things you don't miss about an Ex

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Recently become single and have been bereft. I read something on another thread and it reminded me of a behaviour ex had. Sulking.
It's strange how, things like that become the norm.

The rose tinted glasses are starting to fall. It won't happen overnight, we were together for 8 years.

Pls share something about an ex, that you don't miss.

His favourite musician was Phil Collins. That should have been a warning sign.

The old man pyjamas.

Also I hated Ex 1 wearing stinky socks in my bed.
Him saying he loved having baths and being clean but never once showered or washed when he stayed over.
Ex 2 following me up the street when I was out shopping.
Being told to wear sleeveless dresses all the time.
He also used to spill drinks on them too.
Ex 1 also had a small willy.
Ex 2 used to wear brightly coloured y fronts and flash his dick at me and then whine and sulk as it didn't turn me on.
Ex 2 would also drink alcohol and belch down my ear whilst sitting next to me.

His attention seeking.
Acting the big man when he was in reality less than average.
His superiority complex.
Snoring.
Dripping sweat everywhere.
Shitting all the time. And being proud of how smelly his shits were.
His stupid walk.
His fat gut and moobs.
The constant throwing food down his neck, he didn't even chew half the time.
Thinking he was a prepper cos he had some spam and baked beans in the cupboard in the garage.
His list of "things" that he didn't do anything with but bragged about - "I've got a motorbike" - that didn't start and he rode maybe twice in 5 years. "I've got an allotment" - that was overcome with weeds cos he never spent any time there.
The triangulation. Constant women that he was flirting with. None of which were interested in him but he used them to "keep me on my toes"
Necking a bottle of vodka every night then - if I was lucky - passing out on the floor. If I was not lucky he would not pass out and throw up in the bath. And leave me to clean it up.
The controlling. I thought it was lovely that he always used to pick me up when I went out but really he would spend all his time texting me asking me what time I was leaving so I would get fed up of it and leave earlier than I wanted to.
Having to watch what he wanted on the TV and listen to his music in the car.

Why do we all put up with this shit?

Thought of another one for Ex 1, going through the bathroom bin and giggling like a 10 year old because there was used sanpro in there and exclaiming that it was more like a maternity pad. It wasn't mine btw, I house shared at the time with 2 other women.

This thread has brought back memories of my ex. Especially the skid marks.

He never wore underwear as he liked to feel 'free'. As a result it was his trousers that ended up with the skid marks in. Disgusting.
He didn't brush his teeth properly, never went to the dentist as ' he never needed fillings' eh?
He smoked and didn't take regular showers instead liked 'showers in a can'.

This combined with pressure to do anal resulted in me never wanting to have sex with him
Despite my attempts to explain, for instance 'get yourself some clean underwear' he suggested I go to the doctor's to find out about my 'problematic' reduced sex drive.
I finally left him ( for numerous other reasons) as I didn't really see the point of spending my life with someone I didn't want to sleep with.

Eww poor personal hygiene I can't cope with. Could not be with someone like that

What is a shower in a can?

Basically being a tightarse. Financially, etc, etc. The hoarding. Generally of useless screws and nuts and bolts. But everything! The bodges he "fixed" as he could do it himself, why waste money on someone else. I have spent a small fortune correcting his bodges.

The snoring, haven't used earplugs for over two years, hmmm, how does that fit?

The water, electricity, etc have nearly halved! Why wash your car every week?! The washing, myself and two children, and the washing is literally halved!

The tantrums, living with three children, only actually have two. Why wasn't I first in line for chicken leftovers, cake, etc, etc....

Being financially better off, ok, tax credits, etc, but able to choose how to spend it.

Not waking up to a grumpy middle aged teenager, whose main priority was himself.

Initially I was distraught, now....... Xx

lottieandmia I think it's putting more anti-perspirant on to cover up the stinkiness. Rather than having a shower. Eeewwww.

I had an ex like that too. Was fucking rank.

Whocansay yep that's the one.
I'm pleased to report I then met my DH who takes very good care of his personal hygiene.
There is hope for anyone out there stuck in a crap relationship.

Really shocked at the amount of people saying the problems ith an ex were.... walking on eggshells, moodswings, snoring, blaming everything on anyone else but himself, getting irrationally angry and ranty, passive aggressive behaviour.....

Is this the norm in (rocky) relationships these days?

Addicted to class As
Bled out of his arse
Gut
Insisted on pretending that once upon a time in the 90s he was really famous on the scene. Nobody ever heard of him.
Awful cringey faux coy mannerisms when drink.
Once spat drink on my face.
A mummys boy
Faux lefty who pretended to give a shit about the statebof the world and constantly banged on about the nasty Tories whilst (as a rich unemployed heir who didn't pay tax or volunteer) being a massive posterboy for Torydom himself

Also,

his very mean streak

his shit taste in music

his affection for obnoxious comedy

his little shiny head 🥚

Wow! These are amazing, I have to join in. In fact, when EXH left, I did write a list of 'things I won't miss' on a bit of paper, which I sometimes happen across

1. 'casual' racism
2. snoring
3. him wondering why I didn't want to kiss him in the morning, much less have sex. This was mainly because of the dried slaver, visible as scummy white strings.....eurghhhhh
4. farting. He probably had a mild wheat intolerance.
5. spending ages in the loo. Particularly if time was critical, like the school mornings. Now I think about it, he was more than likely conducting an affair by text.
6. Being deliberately late all the time. Selfish Bastard.
7. His mother. Raging narc that she was. Haven't spoken to her in years now. Happy Days!
8. His sister. Mind you, see 7) above for mitigation
9. Go on then, might as well add his Dad to the mix. What the hell.
10. His shocking driving.
11. His arrogant, selfish attitude to money, the greedy little turd.
12. His 'lying hierarchy'
13. His many expensive hobbies
14. The blame game. Mind you, I always lost, and it wasn't any fun. Still, no one to blame now, is there EXH? I note you try to have a go at your daughter instead, since you can't get me to accept blame any more. You are pathetic. News flash: It's your fault.
15. etc......

That was quite cathartic

Some of these are shocking! Don't know how you managed to put up with it for so long!

I left this thread for a day or so... came back to read and you know what?

We're a genuinely funny bunch...the descriptions of physical 'attributes' are hilarious!

We can be proud that we did all we could, and more, to make our relationships work.

I love this meme:

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MeMeMeMe123 . So true.

I don't miss either of my exes being grumpy in the morning or hearing I'm ill in a whiny voice every morning.

I love being able to watch a film or something of my choice without rude comments or bursting into crocodile tears to guilt me into doing what he wanted.

I'd like to add to my general sentence summing him up with the fact that I don't miss his teeth. He was so proud of the fact he'd never had a filling. The fact that they were all black around the edges because he rarely brushed them didn't seem to worry him. I imagine he still won't have any filings in 10 years time, but he probably won't have any of his own teeth by then either.

I don't miss:

Being reliant on him for finances because I wasn't allowed my own money.

Not being able to keep a job because he'd accuse me of being a whore.

His snoring.

His on again off again want for a child.

Also using baby talk. Ex 1 used to say "I'm going to get myself some din-dins" . He thought it sounded cute but I hated it. He would text or want to meet up ridiculously early, like 9am on a Saturday morning or at 9am on my days off.

Also hated him turning up and inviting himself to stay over because "he couldn't get back home". Of course he could. There was a coach at 10pm failing that he could have got a taxi home. I didn't want him to stay overnight because the place where I lived had strict rules about no overnight visitors.

A whole load of nasty abusive stuff but groping me in public including on the school playground in front of other parents and kids and telling me I'm frigid and ungrateful for telling him to stop is def right near the top.

As is the smell. During the last year before I left him and took the kids to refuge with me he rarely showered. I'd have to beg and plead with him. We'd sleep in shifts in our bed due to work a lot of the time and I changed the bedding most nights before getting in coz BO smell was foul. A combination of Bad body odour, stale fag smoke and sickly sweet energy drinks are now a serious trigger for me it seems and can literally turn my stomach at the memory

I'm incredibly happy that my new boyfriend showers at least once a day and doesn't grope my tits in public

Whole load of other stuff too but I really resent

And his parents. I don't miss his fucking thick as pig shit mother and his control freak father. Hurrah for never having to deal with them again!

Inviting me over, then spending the entire time playing video games and (insult to injury) actually expecting me to be entertained by it!

I'm ashamed to say that this one applies to more than one ex! For the record, I am not a giant masochist, I was just young and daft and put up with more than I should have.